Here's what the mother of my girl did this week - Page 5

smashms · 05-19-2012, 04:25 PM

I would ask for another DNA test from the court and this time make sure you have it first thing in the morning and no one eats anything and you all are there when it is done. because that is crap that she is not yours she looks exactly like you!! and you do have some luck because given that your ex is where she is and her daughters supposed father is a pill pusher and you signed the birth cert you do have rights regardless of what she thinks.and the only reason why she wants child support is because the alleged father has no job!! Good luck to you I hope you have a really good lawyer to get that child away from them!!

woman from Europe · 05-19-2012, 05:23 PM

That woman is bad. Tell her that you don't want to speak to her and she has to write to your lawyer instead so you have everything written down. Then fight her in court to get the child. DNA or not, you are the one who has been with the child and she is the one who has done stupid things.

I don't know your law and rules so maybe I give bad advice. If you don't work do you have to pay a lot then? The father of my small one pay 50 dollars a month, it is nothing here. I pay 20 dollars for bus fare everytime he goes to visit his father.

nauticalmike · 08-08-2012, 09:28 PM

I can not say for certain that I am correct on this, your attorney should have already told all of this to you however about the only thing you being on the birth certificate guarantees is that you will be paying child support for the next 18 years. Although you may be able to avoid it because I think if you can get it invalidated in court that you must be the acting father for 2 years before a DNA test is unable to reverse your responsibility. After 2 years it does not mater you are responsible. Maybe because they figure that the kid might remember you or something so it would be psychologically damaging to the kid.

As far as custody goes though, unless the mother admits that she is a drug addict and is currently using, which no mother would ever do, the mother will win custody. Even if you were the biological father she would get custody. If you had been married and suspect she is still using you might have been able to get the court to do a drug test though because of her prior convictions. But you're not, so you may just have to either get over it and fight to avoid paying for a kid that will only ever be used to manipulate you if you let her.

As far as trying to sue for expenses that you already made you don't have a chance at all unless you have signed documents from her saying that they were loans and that she would pay them back. However since it sounds like she is atonal loser trying to collect a judgement even if you did get one would be impossible.

05-19-2012, 04:25 PM	#41
smashms Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: New York Posts: 2,052	I would ask for another DNA test from the court and this time make sure you have it first thing in the morning and no one eats anything and you all are there when it is done. because that is crap that she is not yours she looks exactly like you!! and you do have some luck because given that your ex is where she is and her daughters supposed father is a pill pusher and you signed the birth cert you do have rights regardless of what she thinks.and the only reason why she wants child support is because the alleged father has no job!! Good luck to you I hope you have a really good lawyer to get that child away from them!! __________________ T6 incomplete due to MS and aortic aneurysm surgery that went bad. Last edited by smashms; 05-19-2012 at 04:37 PM.

05-19-2012, 05:23 PM	#42
woman from Europe Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Norway Posts: 6,546	That woman is bad. Tell her that you don't want to speak to her and she has to write to your lawyer instead so you have everything written down. Then fight her in court to get the child. DNA or not, you are the one who has been with the child and she is the one who has done stupid things. I don't know your law and rules so maybe I give bad advice. If you don't work do you have to pay a lot then? The father of my small one pay 50 dollars a month, it is nothing here. I pay 20 dollars for bus fare everytime he goes to visit his father. __________________ TH 12, 43 years post

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08-08-2012, 09:28 PM	#43
nauticalmike Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Pinole, CA Posts: 511	I can not say for certain that I am correct on this, your attorney should have already told all of this to you however about the only thing you being on the birth certificate guarantees is that you will be paying child support for the next 18 years. Although you may be able to avoid it because I think if you can get it invalidated in court that you must be the acting father for 2 years before a DNA test is unable to reverse your responsibility. After 2 years it does not mater you are responsible. Maybe because they figure that the kid might remember you or something so it would be psychologically damaging to the kid. As far as custody goes though, unless the mother admits that she is a drug addict and is currently using, which no mother would ever do, the mother will win custody. Even if you were the biological father she would get custody. If you had been married and suspect she is still using you might have been able to get the court to do a drug test though because of her prior convictions. But you're not, so you may just have to either get over it and fight to avoid paying for a kid that will only ever be used to manipulate you if you let her. As far as trying to sue for expenses that you already made you don't have a chance at all unless you have signed documents from her saying that they were loans and that she would pay them back. However since it sounds like she is atonal loser trying to collect a judgement even if you did get one would be impossible.