I just miss him.

World Traveler · 05-11-2009, 05:53 AM

I don't know why I need to write this, but I do. I miss Dogger every day. I miss his wit and insight. I miss his laughter and even his frustration. I miss him using Australian slang that I find myself using to my kids. They are forever being told to quit their whinging, I feed my chooks instead of my chickens...he invaded my very vocabulary!

I went to Australia, I helped plan his funeral, I stayed with his family...why is it hurting so much still? Isn't the funeral supposed to be closure? I feel like I dealt with his death fine when it happened, but now it is getting harder. Time is passing that I wanted to be spending with him.

I don't want to forget him, he changed my whole world. He was the most amazing person I have ever known.

Okay, I am done. Sorry.

Thanks,

Liz

Obieone · 05-11-2009, 07:32 AM

There is no rule book we follow or time line to guide us when it comes to grieving ..... its truly a one man show and my experience has been that we spend the whole rest of our lives adjusting to the loss of someone we cared so deeply about .....
I 'm so sorry for your pain Liz .... but I'm of the mind that although Peter is not here with us in the physical realm he is still with us but on another plane .... there would have been no possible way to extinguish the kind of energy he had burning in his soul .... and I suspect it manifests itself in ways not clearly understood by us here left behind ....... and until our turn comes and when all our questions will finally be answered my prayer for you is that your grief will ease and your memories of dogger will only make you smile .... with no more tears .... there is no escaping the pain I'm afraid so you just come here and share it with us whenever you must ..... no worries ...

Obieone

graybeard · 05-11-2009, 08:50 AM

"Time is passing that I wanted to be spending with him."

Those words is why it hurts.......

There is Doggerism that we all miss. I jus miss his good words when things went to hell in a basket for me. He kept me up the days I was fighting my wierd new world, and made me laugh my ass off when I should be raging instead....he is a great person, and they are always missed. Keep living, because he is watching over you....

World Traveler · 05-11-2009, 12:00 PM

Thank you...coming to this community is comforting. He made me happy. I know that he was a friend to so many here. He was larger than life. I read in another thread about Betheny's pain. I know how much he respected her. Meds or no meds, that wouldn't have changed. His pain tolerance was so far beyond the norm that no one should use it as a standard. I saw burns on him that had to be torture, but he never said more than "I took a bit of skin off."

How does one move into a new relationship when the comparison is there? No matter what, no one can be Dogger.

Thanks,
Liz

05-11-2009, 05:53 AM	#1
World Traveler Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 43	I just miss him. I don't know why I need to write this, but I do. I miss Dogger every day. I miss his wit and insight. I miss his laughter and even his frustration. I miss him using Australian slang that I find myself using to my kids. They are forever being told to quit their whinging, I feed my chooks instead of my chickens...he invaded my very vocabulary! I went to Australia, I helped plan his funeral, I stayed with his family...why is it hurting so much still? Isn't the funeral supposed to be closure? I feel like I dealt with his death fine when it happened, but now it is getting harder. Time is passing that I wanted to be spending with him. I don't want to forget him, he changed my whole world. He was the most amazing person I have ever known. Okay, I am done. Sorry. Thanks, Liz Last edited by World Traveler; 05-11-2009 at 07:56 AM. Reason: grammar

05-11-2009, 07:32 AM	#2
Obieone Moderator Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Manitoba,Canada Posts: 5,602	There is no rule book we follow or time line to guide us when it comes to grieving ..... its truly a one man show and my experience has been that we spend the whole rest of our lives adjusting to the loss of someone we cared so deeply about ..... I 'm so sorry for your pain Liz .... but I'm of the mind that although Peter is not here with us in the physical realm he is still with us but on another plane .... there would have been no possible way to extinguish the kind of energy he had burning in his soul .... and I suspect it manifests itself in ways not clearly understood by us here left behind ....... and until our turn comes and when all our questions will finally be answered my prayer for you is that your grief will ease and your memories of dogger will only make you smile .... with no more tears .... there is no escaping the pain I'm afraid so you just come here and share it with us whenever you must ..... no worries ... Obieone __________________ ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..." Jane Siberry

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05-11-2009, 08:50 AM	#3
graybeard Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Va Posts: 1,634	"Time is passing that I wanted to be spending with him." Those words is why it hurts....... There is Doggerism that we all miss. I jus miss his good words when things went to hell in a basket for me. He kept me up the days I was fighting my wierd new world, and made me laugh my ass off when I should be raging instead....he is a great person, and they are always missed. Keep living, because he is watching over you....

05-11-2009, 12:00 PM	#4
World Traveler Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 43	Thank you...coming to this community is comforting. He made me happy. I know that he was a friend to so many here. He was larger than life. I read in another thread about Betheny's pain. I know how much he respected her. Meds or no meds, that wouldn't have changed. His pain tolerance was so far beyond the norm that no one should use it as a standard. I saw burns on him that had to be torture, but he never said more than "I took a bit of skin off." How does one move into a new relationship when the comparison is there? No matter what, no one can be Dogger. Thanks, Liz