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    Hi everyone, I'm new. I have an issue I need advice on. I've been working for a check processing and collection agency since Oct. 07. My last day was 5-12-08, I quit for personal reasons, my homelife is not so good. Anyway, about a week before I quit, I was doing a fundraiser for my daughter, for an upcoming fieldtrip, selling donuts, 5 bucks a box. They were supposed to be in the day I quit, but the orders were backed up, they didn't come in. I called the workplace on Wed, to inform everyone about the donuts, told the receptionist to tell everyone that I would bring them up when they came in, or have someone bring them for me, if I ended up having to leave town, which I did. The donuts were 4 days late. I went to pick up my check on Friday, and the HR lady must have been watching for me, said, "Can I help you?" She's known me for 7 months. I told her I needed to pick up my check, and before I could say anything else, she told me that the people that ordered donuts (15 people) wanted their money or their donuts right then, or I couldn't have my check. She spoke to me horrible, treated me like a liar and a criminal, mocked me when I spoke, and all of this was in front of several people, the door to the main area was open and there were two girls behind me filling out applications. She asked a friend of mine to escort me to pick up the donuts, to ensure I'd come back, and told her she'd fix her time card. My friend drove me to the coordinator's, I could not reach her, so I took the money back to the office, w/ a list of everyone I could think of that ordered. At this point, I heard the hr lady tell another supervisor"Well don't worry about the other thing then", making me feel threatened, like she was going to call the police or something. I got my check and left. Since then, I've been mortified. I get sick at my stomach when I think of how I was treated, I've not been able to sleep. I was a good worker for that company, I didn't deserve that. Question is, what can I do about it? Was she allowed to hold my check like that, to resolve personal issues w/ other employees? That was not company money. Please, I need advice, I'm so upset I can't sleep. Oh, and I'm also stuck w/ 15 boxes of donuts.

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    Just curious, but are you spinal cord injured?

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    That is my first question too. Otherwise, why are you posting your question here?

    At my workplace, solicitation of co-workers for outside fund-raising is against the rules and violations of this can subject the employee involved to disciplinary action. Your employer probably got complaints from your co-workers. The only way they have to control you now is to withhold your check, which would appear to be appropriate since it would appear to them that you are trying to rip-off your co-workers by not refunding their money OR delivering what must now be some very STALE donuts! You should have followed any work-place rules on this, and resolved this before you resigned for "personal reasons". Sorry, I don't have much sympathy for your situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SCI-Nurse
    That is my first question too. Otherwise, why are you posting your question here?

    At my workplace, solicitation of co-workers for outside fund-raising is against the rules and violations of this can subject the employee involved to disciplinary action. Your employer probably got complaints from your co-workers. The only way they have to control you now is to withhold your check, which would appear to be appropriate since it would appear to them that you are trying to rip-off your co-workers by not refunding their money OR delivering what must now be some very STALE donuts! You should have followed any work-place rules on this, and resolved this before you resigned for "personal reasons". Sorry, I don't have much sympathy for your situation.

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    rdf, you should have been with me the day I broke up a fight between two of my clients (both in chairs) right outside my office door. My office mate at that time (a physician) asked me if I used to be a school teacher the way I handled it....

    (and no, I have never been a school teacher.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by SCI-Nurse
    (and no, I have never been a school teacher.)

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    A US constitution history teacher to grownups like RDF nevertheless

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    Quote Originally Posted by SCI-Nurse
    rdf, you should have been with me the day I broke up a fight between two of my clients (both in chairs) right outside my office door. My office mate at that time (a physician) asked me if I used to be a school teacher the way I handled it....

    (and no, I have never been a school teacher.)

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    Sounds like I was lucky to NOT be there KLD

    I was just 5 when my mom stuck me in 1st grade, and I remember taking one look at the teacher, and running for the door bawlin' like a babe. My mom was waiting outside in the hall of course, for she knew her babied to that point son well, and finally cajoled me into acting like her little man a nd bucking it up and heading back into the classroom.
    But I was afraid of that teacher that whole year, and when I think back, I remember in my mind she looked and acted much like the Teacher in the movie Matilda - not the younger one, but the headmistress or principal or whatever she was, the one who stuck the kids in that torture chamber closet

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    Quote Originally Posted by SCI-Nurse
    That is my first question too. Otherwise, why are you posting your question here?

    At my workplace, solicitation of co-workers for outside fund-raising is against the rules and violations of this can subject the employee involved to disciplinary action. Your employer probably got complaints from your co-workers. The only way they have to control you now is to withhold your check, which would appear to be appropriate since it would appear to them that you are trying to rip-off your co-workers by not refunding their money OR delivering what must now be some very STALE donuts! You should have followed any work-place rules on this, and resolved this before you resigned for "personal reasons". Sorry, I don't have much sympathy for your situation.

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    Ouch, did you get a bad donut somewhere? Sorry but I don't think this answered her question though. Was it legal for them to threaten to withhold her check. While I agree she (and anyone) should follow company policy on fundraisers, I don't think they can withhold the check for transactions between co-workers. If she had a personal loan from the company, maybe.

    Christy, if this office has a higher branch they report to, I would check with them. If they don't and this really bothers you, I would check with the Dept of Labor or the Attorny's General office in your state, they can at least point you in the right direction.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leif
    A US constitution history teacher to grownups like RDF nevertheless
    I guess I need an interpreter to decipher that comment, Leif old buddy. But I hope you didn't call me a grownup, cuz them are fighting words to me!
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    When I worked we were innundated with having to buy our fellow employees kids fund raising efforts. I never really minded though, especially the Girl Scout cookies, which I actually looked forward to each year. I would be a bit upset though if someone tried to pass off really stale donuts to me. I mean really, some things are nearly sacred, and for me donuts rank right up there!

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