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    How did my ex GF get short term disability??

    No one seems to know how this could happen...

    My ex GF is not injured and is totally 100% able bodied. She works part time as a nurse at an elementary school. She broke up with me around Christmas and moved out on her own. She was (and probably still is) broke. Now, how can one get short term disability BUT still work all the hours at her job AND do the exact same duties? I'm sure she claimed some kind of mental illness necissitated the need for short term disability funds; I mean she has no physical ailments whatsoever that could impair her ability to do her job as part time nurse. Everyone I've spoken to said they thought short term disability was for something that impaired your ability to do your regular job at full capacity (a hurt shoulder, a broken ankle, migraines, etc.). As in, it would be a temporary thing and you just couldn't work all your hours or do your normal job, but you eventually would heal just fine. Then, you could return to work as usual and the funding helped get you by as you healed (and took time off). As far as I know, she took no time off from work. I'm 100% sure she did it because she needed the money to move.

    I'm not worried about fraud or prosecution or anything else like that. I'd just like to know how she could have pulled that off. She did tell me she saw her family doc. and told him she was anxious and whatnot. He told her to go on a med. (I forget which one), but she said she couldn't afford it because it would be $40. She said that needed a med. that was on the $4 generic list, so he prescribed it. I'm not sure she even picked it up, though. Funny thing is, she had $40 for a pair of shoes and had money to take her kids to a hotel for a night and rent the pool area...

    Anyone know how this could happen? It had to be a mental issue to be justified, but she could still get the short term disability money AND continue to work her 25 hours?
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    I'm not sure how that could be possible, but if she's your ex, why should you care? Let her live her life and move on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lynnifer
    I'm not sure how that could be possible, but if she's your ex, why should you care? Let her live her life and move on.
    You're joking, right? Where in the above post does it say ANYTHING about me not letting her "live her life" or not "move on"? I think it's very clear I'm just curious as to how this could happen, not worrying about her being my ex. Did I not say I don't care about any kind of fraud/prosecution/etc.? Get out your crayons and substitute (that means 'put in the place of') the word "brother" wherever "GF" or ex "GF" is mentioned. I really don't care, nor am I trying to meddle in my ex's affairs... I was just wondering how it could happen with the whole short term disability funding. Trust me, I am letting her "live her life". Thanks for your input as it's worth absolutely nothing.

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    No problem. Have a great day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lynnifer
    No problem. Have a great day.
    I am sure given his last post and his final words that he will get lots of replies!

    Anyone else want to stick their head/neck out and get it chopped off to answer his query.

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    i dunno, esp. since STD is currently questioning my eligibility as a quad in severe neuropathic pain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cass
    i dunno, esp. since STD is currently questioning my eligibility as a quad in severe neuropathic pain.
    Exactly right. You are more entitled to STD in my opinion, but seem to get the runaround more than someone who has and can do her job to the fullest. Good luck in your process.

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    I'm going to try to answer one more time, gawd help me.

    I'm currently on STD. The insurance company calls every couple of weeks to check on my progress. I am unable to obtain STD unless I have a doctor's note .. which I do. I'm assuming your ex-GF obtained a doctor's note for whatever her ailment was/is as well. Being a nurse within the school system, I imagine they have wonderful STD & LTD plans. I've seen coworkers go off on STD for back pain, mental health/stress/depression (although that one is particularly difficult to prove but obviously she did) and for other ailments such as gall bladder surgery, scope to the knee, sprains, anything unexpected etc.

    If your ex-GF had one of the above, it's possible she saw a doctor and since she is employed, her employer's insurance has covered her pay cheque. It's not meant to be long-term, but is wonderful as an 'insurance' not to lose your job if you have an ailment that is curable and will allow you to return to work. The fact that she is part-time and has this insurance is wonderful but rare, it must have been worded into her contract with her employer. Do you have a copy of her work contract? Perhaps she only works 24hrs but the insurance covers up to a certain amount for part-timers? Again, I imagine her job has some great benefits.

    Hope I've helped, but I probably haven't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lynnifer
    I'm going to try to answer one more time, gawd help me.

    I'm currently on STD. The insurance company calls every couple of weeks to check on my progress. I am unable to obtain STD unless I have a doctor's note .. which I do. I'm assuming your ex-GF obtained a doctor's note for whatever her ailment was/is as well. Being a nurse within the school system, I imagine they have wonderful STD & LTD plans. I've seen coworkers go off on STD for back pain, mental health/stress/depression (although that one is particularly difficult to prove but obviously she did) and for other ailments such as gall bladder surgery, scope to the knee, sprains, anything unexpected etc.

    If your ex-GF had one of the above, it's possible she saw a doctor and since she is employed, her employer's insurance has covered her pay cheque. It's not meant to be long-term, but is wonderful as an 'insurance' not to lose your job if you have an ailment that is curable and will allow you to return to work. The fact that she is part-time and has this insurance is wonderful but rare, it must have been worded into her contract with her employer. Do you have a copy of her work contract? Perhaps she only works 24hrs but the insurance covers up to a certain amount for part-timers? Top-up pay? Again, I imagine her job has some great benefits.

    Hope I've helped, but I probably haven't.
    Lynnifer ... a great and clear explanation of STD benefits (no not the kind of STD that keeps on giving and giving ).

    I applaud your willingness to risk to help others. William

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    Quote Originally Posted by lynnifer
    I'm going to try to answer one more time, gawd help me.

    I'm currently on STD. The insurance company calls every couple of weeks to check on my progress. I am unable to obtain STD unless I have a doctor's note .. which I do. I'm assuming your ex-GF obtained a doctor's note for whatever her ailment was/is as well. Being a nurse within the school system, I imagine they have wonderful STD & LTD plans. I've seen coworkers go off on STD for back pain, mental health/stress/depression (although that one is particularly difficult to prove but obviously she did) and for other ailments such as gall bladder surgery, scope to the knee, sprains, anything unexpected etc.

    If your ex-GF had one of the above, it's possible she saw a doctor and since she is employed, her employer's insurance has covered her pay cheque. It's not meant to be long-term, but is wonderful as an 'insurance' not to lose your job if you have an ailment that is curable and will allow you to return to work. The fact that she is part-time and has this insurance is wonderful but rare, it must have been worded into her contract with her employer. Do you have a copy of her work contract? Perhaps she only works 24hrs but the insurance covers up to a certain amount for part-timers? Top-up pay? Again, I imagine her job has some great benefits.

    Hope I've helped, but I probably haven't.
    Yes, that did help. Thank you so much...

    I'm sure she got an MD note stating she was depressed, anxious, nervous, etc. Target Pharmacy calls one day to say she has a script ready to be picked up, so I tell her. She says that she doesn't know if she'll get it or not; I want to say it was Prozac. So, I'm guessing she got a script and an MD note, but didn't get the script filled. Thus, she is now eligible for STD via the note and the Prozac script. I don't have a copy of her contract and the benefits are not that great because it is a part time position. Now, not working summers and working 5 hours a day with weekends off, vacations off, etc. is a nice benefit. NO health insurance or anything through work though. ALL that you said about STD makes total sense, but I still don't see how one can work all their hours with no restrictions and still be eligible. I think she worked the system in the name of "illness" to get a few hundred dollars. She took Effexor a few years ago, so maybe that "history" combined with new new "stress" justified a recurring mental illness. Again, I don't really care or meddle too much about the whole thing; I am just curious as to how it all happened. I'm sure I could ask her and she would tell me. I've had a couple buddies LEGITIMATELY be denied STD due to a true injury and she just slips one in-- no problem. Oh well, it's all good and I do appreciate your help and explanations.

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