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    Good luck, OJ. I hope you get some resolution. Family stress can be the worst. Got a bit of that going on myself.
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    Hey, Amanda. I hear you on the not being judged at CC thing. If you stay out of politics, that'll remove much of the judgmental/name-calling/craziness. It can happen anywhere I suppose, but some forums and threads seem more prone to it than others.

    The day to day gets to be a grind. It's been a really rough couple of weeks for you. You're feeling it, your family's feeling it. Even in the closest of families, communication can break down.

    Just know you aren't alone, We're here for each other even though we're not physically together.

    I hope today's a better day for you, for all of us.

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    Obieone

    Obie, you should be a carpenter. I think you hit the nail pretty much on the head. The fears of not knowing what to do. Failure isn't an option in our social structure here...But thats according to the world standards.
    I suppose if there was no struggle we would be unaware, asleep or dead. Caring takes time and everything seems to be a struggle. And on we go....We are listening Amanda

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    Quote Originally Posted by murrey
    Obie, you should be a carpenter. I think you hit the nail pretty much on the head. The fears of not knowing what to do. Failure isn't an option in our social structure here...But thats according to the world standards.
    I suppose if there was no struggle we would be unaware, asleep or dead. Caring takes time and everything seems to be a struggle. And on we go....We are listening Amanda
    Hi Murrey. I have not seen you around in awhile. I hope you are well. You are right that fear of the unknown or of doing or saying something wrong seems to be at the root of many of the communication problems my family is having. For them and for me as well. How to solve that is hard. You are also right about Obie knowing her stuff

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    Quote Originally Posted by orangejello
    How to solve that is hard.
    You aren't kidding!


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    Quote Originally Posted by LaMemChose
    The day to day gets to be a grind. It's been a really rough couple of weeks for you. You're feeling it, your family's feeling it. Even in the closest of families, communication can break down.

    I hope today's a better day for you, for all of us.
    It's a weird feeling when this becomes "day to day" isn't it? I don't know if it was denial or what, but dealing with all this stuff did not feel like it was day to day or permanent until fairly recently. It wasn't like I woke up one day and realized things were not going to change. Well maybe a bit of that. It was more of a dawning realization that as hard as I wanted to avoid or ignore things, that didn't make them go away. I don't know that it is a case that things are getting easier or harder. But that feeling of the day to day grind is really wearing me down and I think others in my family too. We will deal with it, I suppose. No choice as has been pointed out in this thread already.

    We were a very close family before this. We still are. They are still there for me unconditionally. It just seems the dynamics are all screwed up and lines of communication that used to be open are really difficult or impossible sometimes now. But I took some of the advice in this thread. My mom and I had a long talk in a low stressful environment and got some mutual grievances out in the open. Not easy but it seems to be helping. I now have to try to do that with several other people in my family.
    Last edited by orangejello; 05-04-2007 at 12:38 PM.

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    I've fast read the responces, and did notice anyone suggest a famly counslor. There's obvious issues and things need solven, a counslor can help get dialog started and keep everything from getting to crazy.

    Just a thought, i try to keep my family as far from my care as possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Patonb
    I've fast read the responces, and did notice anyone suggest a famly counslor. There's obvious issues and things need solven, a counslor can help get dialog started and keep everything from getting to crazy.
    Its a good idea and we have done family counselling. And continue to do it. It has been very helpful. But I don't know, it seems to have limited affect with some things. But for sure, I think any family in this situation would benefit from some type of counselling.

    Just a thought, i try to keep my family as far from my care as possible
    You know I really agree with you this is a big part of the problem. I would like to keep my family and my care separate. Well I don't know that I would ever really be able to do that. But I would prefer if their involvement was strictly on the advocating and emotional support side of things, rather than actually doing my physical care. And I have the funding for 24/7 outside care. It is just proving to be impossible to get the necessary skilled and reliable care right now to fill all the hours in the week. We have been working on ways to solve the staffing issues. It has gotten a bit better. But not much. Every week there are some shifts the agency can't cover because they are short staffed or people call in sick at the last minute. But I agree, my family and my care needs to be separated.

    Sorry I feel like I am venting. I am venting. Not meaning to though. Today was one of those days that the day person called in 45 minutes before her 12 hour shift to say her child was sick and she wasn't coming. They found a replacement, but the shift starts at 9 am and she can't come until 2. So that meant my mom, then my sister will be picking up the slack. My mom had work commitments, my sister has a family of her own to deal with, including two infants. They had less than an hour to try and arrange things between them to make sure everything was covered. I makes me feel really helpless and useless when that happens. But right now my options are limited. It is things like this that contributes to the family stress. For now this is the best solution though so it is just like grin and bear it and go on to the next thing.

    Sorry patonb. I didn't mean to rant off your response. I am just ranting in general. It just spun out of writing a response to your two very good points. I would have ranted anyways lol.
    Last edited by orangejello; 05-04-2007 at 02:41 PM.

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    Amanda, it's okay to rant, to get it out, to vent. This is one place to do it.

    Unreliable help is a major PITA. I'd imagine it's extra-scary given the level of care you need.

    Glad you and your Mom talked. Clearing the air, getting issues out and talked about may not be easy, but it's worth it when communication improves and relationships are less strained. Glad to hear about the counseling, too.

    Sending **hugs** and good thoughts your way.

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    Sorry patonb. I didn't mean to rant off your response. I am just ranting in general. It just spun out of writing a response to your two very good points. I would have ranted anyways lol.
    Rant away, It does unbelievable amount of good....... And, as LmC said, scream at us.... we understand
    I miswrote my comment though, What i meant by:
    Just a thought, i try to keep my family as far from my care as possible
    Was.. I try to keep my family as far from my care as possible, so i really am not a good person to talk. Also, i'm Canadian, so Funding for attedants is pretty good.

    My english is bad... I'm an Engineeer

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