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    My Give a Damn's Busted

    OK- here is a new thread on feeling bad and guilty. The problem is that I am loosing my empathy for others. Not people with true issues, but these whiners that don’t really have issues but think they do. This all came to light when a new gal started at work last week. It is a long complicated story, but the gist is that she is secretly married to a guy in the Army Reserves that is active and has been for the last 18 years by choice. The guy is in NC or someplace like that waiting for ACL surgery on an injured knee. He could opt out but doesn’t want to because of the insurance and impending knee surgery. The new wife is here in Indy. It all started on day 3 of her temporary employment in my department. I was supposed to train her, but she got a call from her husband and he wasn’t going to be able to come home on the weekend. She started crying and asked to go to a private place to cry for awhile. She spent 3 hours down in the nurse’s office crying. She finally came back but was in no shape to receiver her training so she basically sat at her desk and sniffed. Same type of thing on Friday, but this time she was so distraught that we sent her home.

    She thinks work is some sort of therapy session, and I am her therapist. She chews up so much of my time with her personal problems. I try to be sympathetic, but I just don’t feel it. I’m like, is he dead? Can he walk and use his arms? Is he deployed? The answer is NO to all so I’m thinking DEAL and GET OVER IT. My question is why the hell are you here in Indy? Go be with him. Get a temp job there like you have here and knock it off. My guess is that she can’t because nobody in her family actually knows that she is married to the guy. She is planning a big “fake” wedding in June. I come to work to get away from all this drama. Work is my respite, my time away from caring for someone, and now I have this gal raining on my sanctuary. If she had real problems like a sick child, parent with cancer, husband in Iraq, house burned down I would probably be in the nurse’s office crying with her, but she doesn’t. I think this SCI that our family lives with has left me unsympathetic and annoyed with people and their minor problems; especially when the problems have solutions but nobody wants to solve them. Am I the only one? Don’t be too harsh on me because I already feel bad that I just can’t feel too sorry for some of these people.

    Trish

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    LOL ... I can always count on you to make me laugh ... my give a damn is busted too. I don't have a story on my fingertips, but I'm sure I'll think of one as I sit here feeling sorry for myself the next few hours .... (I think I should smile here, right?!?!)

    Sing on sistah ... Ami

    ETA: maybe she needs an escort to NC ... you could escort her?! .... Has to be Fayetteville btw.

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    The title of this thread made me think of this....







    That's all I have to add.

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    OMG thatkat ... I am about to DIE laughing .... you must tell me how I can make that my sig file ...

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    Well, do you have an account at PhotoBucket or another site where you can remotely post pics? That's how I posted it... just saved it to my computer and then uploaded it there.

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    Trish.... I am so with you on this! Work is my sanctuary too and I hate whiners at work.... I just want to say... Go to my house and spend oh... about 2-3 hours there and you will count your blessings!

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    Quote Originally Posted by taj2002
    I think this SCI that our family lives with has left me unsympathetic and annoyed with people and their minor problems; especially when the problems have solutions but nobody wants to solve them. Am I the only one? Don’t be too harsh on me because I already feel bad that I just can’t feel too sorry for some of these people.

    Trish


    lmao, Trish . . . the thing that still makes me want to barf is the memory of everyone I knew talking ever so mournfully about how their lives were totally changed by 9/11.

    ha! We live all the way across the USA from that tragedy, and these were people with no connection whatsoever to it. They were just hitchhiking on the drama.

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    ohhhhh, I do know what you mean about these people with snively little problems trying to compare it to people with large, real problems......

    and these jokers are the ones that try to have ailment or problem contests with you.......oh man, and they are so focussed on themsleves they practically kill you, drop you, give you the wrong box of meds, pull your catheter, or whatever.....I end up sitting there very obviously rolling my eyes at them (after recovering from the incident) as they piss an moan .....if they are really bad, I ask if they finished so we can get the work done. Oh yes, send the pain home early without pay for those hours taken off, they learn fast, especially if they do it more than once or twice. That type is ALWAYS needing extra money!

    The ones that really have it hard are the ones that carry the stiff upper lip, carrry on, have a sense of humor and are uplifting!!!

    Hey, that little thingy that says; 'attempting to give an damn' is hysterical, and yes we need to email to all the winers we encounter! LOL I love it!
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    Quite apart from the sentiments described above - with which I agree - compare the problems that 99% of the people here have with hers - this woman needs to be told that, although your company is sympathetic and can bend a little, she has been hired to do a job, and must learn to separate that from her personal life. If she is unable to perform her duties, she will have to try somewhere else. Tough and perhaps unfortunate, but that's life.
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    Am I understanding this correctly, she is unable to do her job because she won't be serviced this weekend? Well, there are quick and easy cures for that! Someone needs to tell her to shut up and get back to work.

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