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    I think the original post is great. It's my opinion. I think it's very valid for an SCI website. These are points some women care about. Can the same "should haves" be achieved by the SCI population? Are they just as valid? Just as important? It's food for thought. That's also my opinion. I don't think anyone's going to stare at those capital letters day after day, realize they don't measure up, and go crazy. I also don't think anyone is upset in this topic - didn't see any panties in a wad. Some people just hate to be disagreed with. Those are my opinions, too. The jokes in this topic made me roll my eyes more than they made me laugh. Sorry! My sense of humor needs work!

    And if anyone feels we need more SCI information, please post it! I'd love to see more myself. In fact I'm expecting more from those who say they want more!

    As far as this topic being an example of better moderation being needed, I strongly disagree!

    Everyone who uses the internet is responsible to sift the wheat from the chaff. Some people's wheat is another's chaff. Some people love all that porn in their inbox. Others simply delete it.

    We can't regulate people's taste or ideas of what's important. And we can't stop people from disagreeing with you or anyone else. Disagreement makes life interesting most of the time. No one's panties have to be in any kind of wad just because they're disagreeing with you. They simply think you're wrong on a point, that's all. Welcome to Life!

    ~See you at the SCIWire-used-to-be-paralyzed Reunion ~

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    I have to agree with martha, andy and deb. This thread is a perfect example of the recent insanity on this site. Jeff, I agree with you on regulating one's tastes, and the notion of disagreeing with someone. I think, though, that you missed the point. It's not the content here, it's the reactions.

    Every member SHOULD KNOW the difference between disagreeing with someone, and attacking someone. I've seen more mature disagreements in a fifth-grade classroom.

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    I agree with Sci Mom about the reactions around here. Jeff, I agree with some of what you say but we all come here for different reasons. Just because someone voices their opinion that they would like more SCI-related content doesn't mean that they necessarily have to post more themselves or am I missing the point of CC. I thought it was a place for people to learn and explore without having to give back. Jeff, I find so much information in your posts and learn a lot from them so I'm glad that you are around here and are an active member. In a perfect world it would be great if everyone could add as much.

    If people want to post non-related SCI information I think that's fine. However, if someone makes a joke in these types of posts I think the sensitivity level should go down a bit (panty bundle too). If someone posts a joke on a serious thread that's a different story.

    Steve

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    *... peaking in to see if the Panty Patrol needs to be called in*

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    I've tried to hard to be quiet on this one! I don't understand the animosity about this thread. I'm like Nov, I received this email years ago from someone close to me, and kept it all this time. I don't tend to be a Precious Moments hearts'n'flowers picture-of-big-eyed-kids lovin' type of woman; something about it just resonated with me. I don't see it as sexist, although with some adaptations I suppose it could pertain to both genders. (Jeff-If you have a black lace bra and a perfect black dress, I JUST DON'T WANT TO KNOW.) LOL. Any posts pertaining to SCI are welcome on Carecure, as always. So are most posts pertaining to life in general. I guess this debate comes down to a matter of taste ultimately...half of us like the original post and the other half are wondering why the trite treacly cliche. Just this once I come down on the side of the treacle.

    Martha (1), you don't find valuable info re SCI in abundance on this site? I've always respected your judgment, so that horrifies me a bit. I hope we all still answer the questions we need to answer.

    C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000

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    Good points but I don't think Martha (1) said that she didn't find valuable information here. She was making a point that she had to dig through a lot of information ("a lot" is my choice of words). I took it in the context of her entire message. CC used to be one thing for her and its changed. I've never had a problem finding information on a topic I'm interested in and for me most of the babble I can easily ignore.

    Steve

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    Betheny, thanks and perhaps I should clarify. YES there is VERY valuable SCI info on this site. In my humble opinion, it has become harder to sort and sift through unfortunately as it seems too often threads deteriorate into personal attacks, off-topic posts, arguments, etc. I truly believe that if I found CareCure today, I wouldn't bother to sort through the chaff to find the wheat (quoting Jeff: Everyone who uses the internet is responsible to sift the wheat from the chaff. Some people's wheat is another's chaff. Some people love all that porn in their inbox. Others simply delete it.).

    It is true that everyone has different tastes, but has the whole mission of CareCure been lost? Or am I misinformed (again)? IF CC is a site simply to post jokes or personal annecdotes unrelated to SCI, or if it is simply a social gathering spot, then it is doing a GREAT job. If the purpose is to provide information, education, support, guidance, resources, etc for SCI, then I think things have gotten off-track. I remember the early days after my husband was injured and I knew absolutely nothing about the injury, about the outlook for his future or for our future, about what he would go through and what I would go through and what we would need. I didn't know what AD was or that people with paralysis required BP's or anything. And I found Cando and it was as if I was saved. I could ask for and receive HELP almost instantaneously, without worrying about whether someone would call me an idiot or without having to read a dozen off-topic posts in a thread -- just GOOD, FAST, HELP. Now I pity the new injury or family member that has to sort through the horse sh*t to hopefully get to the pony underneath. And I've seen newbies insulted for no reason for legitimate questions. For instance, for not using "search". Trust me when my husband's bp fell to 50/32 that night that Kath stayed up all night with me, I didn't know WTF to put into the "search" window if there had been one available. I needed (and got) PEOPLE help.

    THAT is what I humbly thought CareCure was truly about.

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