Looking up an old friend online hoping to wish him a happy birthday, I learned that he died two years ago in a skiing accident.. I never have met his wife and kids, just talked about them with him, so wonderfully in love. At this point, should I just keep my sadness to myself, or still send condolences? I really want to reach out to her, but I don?t want to intrude into her life now, to use later. The only way I see to do that now is to go to a go fund me page set up at the time for them. Would that even still be working? Would it be horrible to do at this point anyway?