I've been a C6/7 quad for 32 years and have had several different variations on caregivers. My family for the 1st 7 years. Then I got married, and my wife and I handled it for the next 10 years, until she passed away. For the last 14 years I've been paying out of pocket for a CNA friend to help out.
She comes every morning. Every other morning it's bowel program and shower. With the exception of inserting the suppository I do everything else myself. Transfer onto the shower chair, roll over the toilet, roll into the shower, roll back out, transfer back onto the bed. The transfers are ugly because I'm old and my shoulders are shot

Every morning she gets my pants, socks, and shoes on. I handle the shirt.
Every evening she helps me transfer onto the bed, a minor boost by grabbing the waistband of my pants while I push up and pivot. She comes 4 evenings a week, my dad supplements the other 3.
Shower mornings she's there for 1.5 hours.
Non shower mornings she's there for 15 minutes.
Evenings 15 minutes.
I handle everything else during the day.
I pay her $150 cash a week for her help.