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    AB's using handicapped stalls

    Man, it is getting tiring. Trying to go to the bathroom in a public place (airport tuesday) and stalls empty everywhere but someone is always taking a crap in the wheelchair accessible stall. It always happens.

    All I do is to murmur something about the lack of consideration for wheelchair users, and wheel on to the next bathroom. It frankly pisses me off right at the level of handicapped parking.

    Any creative way to handle this? Do we just put up with it just like we do with parkng placcard abuse?
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    Unfortunately, I don't think there is much anyone can do about it. Just shake it off and don't let the little things bother you. There are other things in life to get stressed out about.

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    Write the airport about universal design and having more than one stall accessible to wheelchairs.
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    I just roll in to the door as if I'm opening it and didn't know anyone was in there. They can clearly see my wheels under the door and usually hurry and come out with apologies. I just say oh it's ok, I'm sure you needed it. Nothing else you can do.
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    You can force the door and shoot them dead. But then you have to get their dead ass out of the stall before you can use it. Or you can roll on and hope that the next accessible stall toilet isn't occupied by an inconsiderate asshole.
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    Quote Originally Posted by offroaderswife View Post
    I just roll in to the door as if I'm opening it and didn't know anyone was in there. They can clearly see my wheels under the door and usually hurry and come out with apologies. I just say oh it's ok, I'm sure you needed it. Nothing else you can do.

    I think this is really good. McDuff's method is another option.

    While it doesn't really improve the immediate situation, it will provide a memory for the wayward person that may change future behaviors.

    I have also been given dirty looks by a wheelchair user and her husband while waiting for my mother, who was in the accessible separate bathroom. My mom was suffering from pancreatic cancer and couldn't sit or stand without using the grab bars in the toilet. She was also very weak in the arms, as her cancer had spread to the spine. But if you "looked" at her... she just looked like an AB once she was standing up. But sometimes I had to go into the bathroom to "rescue" her, and would stand close by in case she called out.

    So while I was waiting for my Mother, the woman using a wheelchair and her husband rolled right up to me and just stared at me, shaking their head, sighing, and complaining to each other. I tried to say... "My mother is very weak... she is very sick..." but honestly, what can you say in this awkward brief interaction. It's not like I can pull out her MRI for them to see... And of course, I have felt their frustration before when I am with my para father.

    It really made me feel bad.... Kinda sucked.

    But I never forgot it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hlh View Post
    I think this is really good. McDuff's method is another option.

    While it doesn't really improve the immediate situation, it will provide a memory for the wayward person that may change future behaviors.

    I have also been given dirty looks by a wheelchair user and her husband while waiting for my mother, who was in the accessible separate bathroom. My mom was suffering from pancreatic cancer and couldn't sit or stand without using the grab bars in the toilet. She was also very weak in the arms, as her cancer had spread to the spine. But if you "looked" at her... she just looked like an AB once she was standing up. But sometimes I had to go into the bathroom to "rescue" her, and would stand close by in case she called out.

    So while I was waiting for my Mother, the woman using a wheelchair and her husband rolled right up to me and just stared at me, shaking their head, sighing, and complaining to each other. I tried to say... "My mother is very weak... she is very sick..." but honestly, what can you say in this awkward brief interaction. It's not like I can pull out her MRI for them to see... And of course, I have felt their frustration before when I am with my para father.

    It really made me feel bad.... Kinda sucked.

    But I never forgot it!
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    This topic has been beaten to death as of late. The apparelyzed site has to very active threads discussing this same issue.

    But to reply to he OP, we're all in that same boat. It totally sucks and I'm not sure what we can do about it other than complain to each other. Time and tiem again, people will just make excuses to justify it.
    It's just plain tiring.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Crappler View Post
    This topic has been beaten to death as of late. The apparelyzed site has to very active threads discussing this same issue.

    But to reply to he OP, we're all in that same boat. It totally sucks and I'm not sure what we can do about it other than complain to each other. Time and tiem again, people will just make excuses to justify it.
    It's just plain tiring.
    Yeah, that and HC parking really seem to really push some folks buttons. Like to the extreme. Me, I think that life is too short to perseverate on these complaints. I spend my time advocating for more access. You do what you can. But there will always be people who don't get it or who know and don't care.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Foolish Old View Post
    Yeah, that and HC parking really seem to really push some folks buttons. Like to the extreme. Me, I think that life is too short to perseverate on these complaints. I spend my time advocating for more access. You do what you can. But there will always be people who don't get it or who know and don't care.
    perseverate! You must be a terror at scrabble, that is the first word I have had to look up in a decade at least.

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