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    His MOTHER?

    So today Chad had cataract surgery, and the person checking us in asked which arm he wanted his arm band on. Chad said either one, and so the lady looked straight at me and said "Mom? Which arm?".

    MOM?????????????????????????????

    Holy f***. I do not look like I am in my MID f*cking 60s even on my WORST day (I am mid 40s for the record), and I was dressed up today because I have to travel on business this afternoon.

    I am furious.
    Wife of Chad (C4/5 since 1988), mom of a great teenager

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    NO FREAKIN' WAY! People suck! Plain and simple.
    Rollin' since '89. Complete C8

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    When my mother was already in her 80s, I more than once had someone ask if we were SISTERS!!! It happens.

    I also made the BIG mistake when seeing one of the physicians I work with out in the community one day with a young woman, and asked him to introduce me to his DAUGHTER. Little did I know it was his (new) second wife! Was my face RED.

    Seriously though, this nurse needs to learn that, YES, people with SCI have spouses...they get married, they have sex, some even have kids (I know, I know, it is not possible without the ability to have sex, blah, blah, blah).

    My realtor, who has a tetraplegic injury, was assumed to be my son by many other realtors and homeowners when we were going around to look at houses several years ago. I finally got him to agree to wear his jacket and name badge to make it a little more clear that HE, not I was the realtor, and that I was the client, not his mother or nurse.

    (KLD)

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    "People these days," past days, days in the future, it makes no difference. You're right KLD, it happens.

    Thirty years ago, I was 33, GJ was 37 when he was in rehab. He had to go by ambulance on a gurney to another hospital for a scan. When we checked in at the imaging center, the clerk had information to obtain. She turned to me and asked, "What is your son's name." Lesson I learned...introduce myself first, "I'm Mrs. GJ and my husband GJ is here for a scan." The positive result is that the person I am talking to knows how to address me, pronounce my last name correctly, and understand the relationship between GJ and I.

    I'd rather save my energies for fighting the important battles. You can drive yourself nuts trying to fight the small ones.

    Hope Chad's cataract surgery went well and he'll be seeing well very soon. GJ had both eyes done last year and his sight is great!

    NL (GJ's wife and caregiver)

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    more than once i've had to take my lil bros to the dr and i am typically called mom by the new nurse/secretary. or just when i am out in public AND our mom is with us i get complimented on how i am such a great mom to the boys. i just say "yea... maybe one day but for now, i am playing with my SIBLINGS"
    when the 16yr old was born we took him out a few months later to visit family. he was crying in the carseat and i was trying to calm him down. one of the little girls in the neighborhood came up and said "oh he is cute! is that your baby?" i totally freaked but i guess a sign of the times!
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    Quote Originally Posted by zillazangel View Post
    So today Chad had cataract surgery, and the person checking us in asked which arm he wanted his arm band on. Chad said either one, and so the lady looked straight at me and said "Mom? Which arm?".

    MOM?????????????????????????????

    Holy f***. I do not look like I am in my MID f*cking 60s even on my WORST day (I am mid 40s for the record), and I was dressed up today because I have to travel on business this afternoon.

    I am furious.
    Maybe chad looked really young that day.

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    Been there done that and did NOT respond graciuosly.

    WTF I am sorry this mindles twit got under your skin. I've beenntrying to come uo with a clever tarty response but just get angry

    Ket
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    And I ain't nothin but a dream JM

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    Maybe she meant you being a mom? was your kid there? Sometimes people in that way refer to people as mom and dad, could be?
    "Life is about how you
    respond to not only the
    challenges you're dealt but
    the challenges you seek...If
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    mountains to climb, your
    soul dies".~Liz Fordred

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    Never ask a woman if she's pregnant. She may just put weight on in that area.

    Of course I learned the hard way, shrunk a few inches down into my chair but will never make that mistake again.

    Bob.
    "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle." - Philo of Alexandria

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    How about when you can't tell if the person is a man or woman?

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