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    Question need some advice

    Hi, I'm needing some advise and just to have an ear as I don't
    have anyone close to talk to about this.

    When I was 16 back in 1985 I was working under a truck and had a
    jack failure resulting in a C4 incomplete injury. My parents had
    blue collar jobs, my mom had to quick to help take care of me.
    For about 2 years they struggled by with little help from the
    state, they almost had to get divorced just so we could get
    assistance.

    Well about that we hired a lawyer to sue the jack company, and
    after about a year I got a settlement. My parents didn't want
    to sue on their own, for pain & suffering, taxes and lawyer fees
    and asked me if they could get a portion of mine and of course I
    said yes. For about the first 12 years they were getting 30% a
    month, and since then it's been 15%. I cut in half after my dad
    did something pretty bad to my wife out of spite because of
    something stupid she did.

    Well everything was fine for several years, I moved out of their
    house and into my own. I met my (my current wife) and of course
    my mom's 1st reaction wasn't good, the first thing she said when
    she*met her was "better sign a prenup.". Mom though it was
    money related, but it wasn't. My wife just fell in love with me
    at first site. All I had in my house was 2 recliners, coffee
    table, and waterbed and a crappy TV.

    When we decided to get married, my wife went down to my parents
    to talk with my mom to tell her we were going to get married,
    the first thing she said was "Don't take away our money.".
    Nothing like congratulations, or anything welcoming. There is
    always been a disconnect between them.

    When I got my settlement, we went in halves on 110 acres and
    built the cabin, which my dad has retired to. My mom still lives
    in their house and goes up there on the weekends, they are still
    happily married. They don't ever call or come by and visit, even
    though I've been pretty much been down for six months. They talk
    to me fine whenever I call like nothing is wrong. Even though I
    own half of the cabin, I have to sleep in the living room when I
    take my mattress because it's the only room with TV in it. But
    now I can't afford it to keep paying every month, and I feel
    real crappy about it. Even though they get to travel and do
    everything that wanted to do, have two houses, etc. I still feel
    like I'm putting them out. I'm basically putting their feelings
    ahead of my own wife's because of some bad things that has
    happened related to the first time I took it away.

    So my main questions are 1) how do I begin to have that
    conversation about stopping it? I would give them about a year
    to prepare. And more importantly 2) should parents benefit,
    accept monies from the child's injury?

    Thanks for listening
    Last edited by crppled007; 02-07-2013 at 12:00 AM.
    C4 incomplete since 1985

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    It's been how long? Their pain and suffering is over.
    I voted no due to the word profit.
    I have had periodic paralysis all my life. I lost my ability to walk in 2011 beginning with a spinal block, which was used for a hip fracture caused by periodic paralysis.

  3. #3
    Quote Originally Posted by nonoise View Post
    It's been how long? Their pain and suffering is over.
    I voted no due to the word profit.
    Since 1988, I guess the word I was looking for was benefit
    C4 incomplete since 1985

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    Quote Originally Posted by crppled007 View Post
    Since 1988, I guess the word I was looking for was benefit
    There is no reason that your parents should benefit from *your* pain and suffering.
    I have had periodic paralysis all my life. I lost my ability to walk in 2011 beginning with a spinal block, which was used for a hip fracture caused by periodic paralysis.

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    You agreed to give them 30%. To me a agreement is a agreement. They made plans and had expectation of this money. They helped you through all legal and medical issues. If you have the money, they should still be getting it imo.

    Based on what I read..
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    Quote Originally Posted by sherocksandsherolls View Post
    You agreed to give them 30%. To me a agreement is a agreement. They made plans and had expectation of this money. They helped you through all legal and medical issues. If you have the money, they should still be getting it imo.

    Based on what I read..
    I agree....
    T-7 Para
    Injury Date April 8,2003

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    How did you get your parents to agree to 15% when prior it was 30%? Seems like they would have balked at the considerable decrease. Since you were able to do it before, I would tell them you're cutting them off, beause you need this money for your latter years.
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    you needed a prenup with your parents.
    There is no mention of how long this was to go on. Usually the percentage someone else gets, is deducted when you settle. They are getting a percentage of your monthly income? How do they get paid?

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    Your parents no longer take care of you at all. whatever they lost by your injuries doesnt affect them the way it still affects you.

    Im all for lending your folks a hand, .......are you feeling like you are not so loved as your money?

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