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    so i should be in a "facility"

    my son's grandma wrote and said she wished i was in a facility with the best of care. WTF? i worked, raised my son and now i should be in a facility?? talk about insulting, depressing, ignorant...i still can't believe it.

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    Depends on who's footing the bill. How about the Waldorf in the Bahama's or Marilago- Trumps estate in Fl? I keep looking for an assisted living place where someone will get me tools while I am under my Jeep. Or hold the fire extinguisher while I weld.

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    Been there, heard that. Sorry you had to!

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    Take it from the source. Is hse super old? Maybe senile?

    My grandpa once announced to the family, "now there's two cripples in the family". Thanks, Grandpa. That felt great.

    That was pretty early in my SCI life, so it did hurt, but considering the source, it wasn't a huge deal.

    Cass, I hope you're just frustrated with what was said, and not deeply hurt.
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    Maybe you should write something back like "sorry to hear about your dementia. Hope you can find a good facility too."
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    maybe should just ask her why she said that and listen to her concerns
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    I have heard the same. It is ludicrous.

    Disabled does not mean incapable. Other individuals cannot fathom living in these bodies, much less have any semblance of being independent in them.

    Consider the source and the ignorance of the source. You cannot control what others say or think, only how you live your life. Don't let such a woman take up space in that fabulous brain of yours.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaMemChose View Post
    I have heard the same. It is ludicrous.

    Disabled does not mean incapable. Other individuals cannot fathom living in these bodies, much less have any semblance of being independent in them.

    Consider the source and the ignorance of the source. You cannot control what others say or think, only how you live your life. Don't let such a woman take up space in that fabulous brain of yours.
    Absolutely. Just as able bodied people can't understand the pains some of us feel, they also can't understand living paralyzed.
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    I think you would have a point if for any reason Cass was not able to care for his child (the grandchild), but it sounds like he already raised him successfully. This sounds to me like someone butting their nose in where it does not belong. Those type of "well meaning" but ultimately manipulative people don't deserve to be listened to, because they usually don't listen themselves, or they would know that it was inappropriate to say something like this. They also usually do not relent, and its the same old story all the time. Personally, I would not waste much effort on her, and get her off my radar screen as soon as possible.

    Quote Originally Posted by brucec View Post
    maybe should just ask her why she said that and listen to her concerns
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    Quote Originally Posted by brucec View Post
    maybe should just ask her why she said that and listen to her concerns
    I agree! Give her an opportunity to explain her unsolicited comments.

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