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    socially unacceptable

    I am.
    People walk up to me while Im hanging out my fresh tie dyes, Usually a new neighbor. friendly, amazed, .......Here, you can have one.
    really! strange look on their face, Ok, thanks.
    next time they go by, they walk real fast, avoid eye contact, steel fearful glances.

    Is it so weird to be kind and friendly? this has happened many many time. I do it at fest all the time and no one seems afraid of me, or looks at me like im a weirdo. I know I look strange, talk funny, Im not from here, so I don't know their ways, but is it really socially backward to give something away to someone you don't know?
    That is just a tiny example of why I am socially unacceptable. After the try and meet care cure members fail, I think I just give up. I am only safe with imaginary friends, and only if you never meet me in real life.

    its one thing to be gimpy, but socially unacceptable? ya, I am....
    unacceptable.
    Im not even sure I want to try to fix it like I wanted to my entire life. Iv really tried hard. I fail. Im ok though, My cat thinks Im ok. If I had a dog or a horse, they would think I was ok too. that is something isnt it?


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    I am fortunate to have a few friends like you Jody. They are awesome and make the world a better place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jody View Post
    I am.
    People walk up to me while Im hanging out my fresh tie dyes, Usually a new neighbor. friendly, amazed, .......Here, you can have one.
    really! strange look on their face, Ok, thanks.
    next time they go by, they walk real fast, avoid eye contact, steel fearful glances
    It would appear that you are living among some very strange people.

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    I'd love to meet you, myself. This would seem to be your neighbor's issue. Come to think of it, it happened to me in OK. I'd be out walking Dingo and neighbors would avert their eyes. Or I'd get butthurt b/c they'd be chatting in an inaccessible place and nobody would offer to help me join them.

    CC members are like any other internet group, totally random crapshoot kind of thing. It's lucky Bente and I got along so well. That could have been a lonnnggg 2 weeks LOL.

    I was sure glad we had insomnia at the same time on Mouse Morning. I went all fight-or-flight lizard brain panicky. You talked me down off the ledge and I'm grateful.

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    Jody, just be yourself. You are more than okay just as you are.

    Unfortunately, there are people who are uncomfortable with anyone and anything they view as different. Many are uncomfortable with kindness and generosity. There are individuals who fear being indebted to another person somehow if they accept a kindness of any sort. Your generosity in randomly gifting one of your shirts may fall into that category for those fearful of anything smacking of indebtedness.

    That's on them, not you.

    Just be you.

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    I know things have improved for the disabled in our society over the last several decades but our cohort is not even close to being a normal subset and never will be. By definition, we're not normal.

    I'm pleased if folks are at least civil and treat me like a human being.

    In our capitalism based economy, I've noticed lots of folks not wanting services or to take anything from those that are disabled.
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    A point to ponder, if no two people on this planet are the same, what constitutes normal?

    I am personally proud of my lack of being "normal"-how boring would that be.--eak
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    Some very interesting answers. I feel a little better.
    I dont know how not to be myself. Have lived many places, and this place I have lived almost three years, and do not have anyone to have tea with, or go fishing with, though the place is overflowing with the most polite friendliest people Iv ever encountered. Im not one of those cling wrap types either, I have a phone, don't feel the need to just drop in on someone or invite myself over.

    Beth conveyed the feeling, and very well too. people make themselves inaccessible.

    "CC members are like any other internet group, totally random crapshoot kind of thing." It's lucky Bente and I got along so well. That could have been a lonnnggg 2 weeks LOL.
    Im sure I would have been stuffed in that corner too. I imagine we would have had a lot of fun and people would want to join in because of that. that is what living at fest is like. People just wander in, sit down, and join in on what ever noise we are making.

    I consider, people are full up with friends the way I am full up with orphaned kitty cats, and they don't have time to add another friend. Maybe because it has been almost three years here, I look desperate.

    I so understood when I got injured, and my friends got scarce. that is life.
    I actually am concerned that I don't know how to behave in a socially acceptable way though.

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    Yeah, I think I'm going to give up on trying to figure out people. I was very social pre sci and now it seems all I do is get ready for the next week. Most of my friends have moved on, thankfully I still have a few but the ones I thought would of stuck around didn't. I had to put my dog down a few months ago and after he was gone I realized how dear of a friend he was, RIP Riley.

    Wish I could give you some advice but I seem to be having similar issues in the new friends department. Maybe I'll get another dog.

    I'll be your westcoast buddy....
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    How often I've heard this same refrain.
    ICP fest.
    Riding with 1%er's.
    Quartzite, AZ
    not-Woodstock
    The gay Olympics.
    The convict clown rodeo.
    My dad told me when I was little. If we were all the same they wouldn't race horses, cause we would all bet on the same one.

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