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    Facebook Parenting for the Troubled Teen
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    12 years old is too young to be on facebook. if you feel she is using it too much, revoke her privileges. if she is talking back, ground her. you are the parent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by crypticgimp View Post
    12 years old is too young to be on facebook. if you feel she is using it too much, revoke her privileges. if she is talking back, ground her. you are the parent.

    I agree she shouldn't be on facebook at 12. I thought you had to be 13 to be on facebook?

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    I would take away the Facebook, or give her a certain time limit that you set. I think the talking back is normal for a preteen. I remember being that way with my parents, and I grew up okay. My 11 year old son and I are very close, and although we do get into some verbal matches with each other, we try to talk through it (or least I talk, and make him sit there and listen- and I try not to yell but I'm not perfect either). He has used the bad language in a couple of times, and I immediately put him to work doing chores around the house, then sent him to his room.
    Just remember you are not doing her any favors by letting her get away with stuff as for being in a chair, I have found it doesn't do much to impact my parenting. I don't spank, because I don't think it helps anything, but that's just my opinion.

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    hold your horses i wouldn't describe my kid as a troubled teen, however all parents have expectations and standards they wish to attain. The F word was both a scandal and a one off i do not want to sound cocky however when one is highly motivated to steer their children towards a Long Life Learning attitude and when your kid continuously achieves well over 90's as an all rounder
    in past papers or mock test exams a just above average result just does not sell in our household. Again i highly emphasize the importance of soft skills. i do see alot of good parenting from you lot, the chair doesn't seem to be a problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by t8burst View Post
    Kids are like dogs.
    you're a fucking mensch, guy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by peterf View Post
    Good or bad i think most children will adopt to the same life skills practiced by their parents
    so i'd better start improving my people skills. however i still want to be me. i cannot just switch it off not yelling when i'm angry. After years of teacher training i do this often in class in fact even my principle does this with us his staff sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peterf View Post
    Good or bad i think most children will adopt to the same life skills practiced by their parents
    so i'd better start improving my people skills. however i still want to be me. i cannot just switch it off not yelling when i'm angry. After years of teacher training i do this often in class in fact even my principle does this with us his staff sometimes.
    Teacher training, eh? It's principal.

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    i don't think you understand Steve.
    it is a construction and building institute for post 16 students
    do you expect to join the army and find you staff sargent bringing you morning coffee in bed. maybe desert operation training does mean a night out in a las vegas casino but we are not American. there is also a cultural difference too if we see an unattended package in an airport here most people would say oh boy i'm having that.
    we are all seasoned in the construction environment not office workers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peterf View Post
    i don't think you understand Steve.
    it is a construction and building institute for post 16 students
    do you expect to join the army and find you staff sargent bringing you morning coffee in bed. maybe desert operation training does mean a night out in a las vegas casino but we are not American. there is also a cultural difference too if we see an unattended package in an airport here most people would say oh boy i'm having that.
    we are all seasoned in the construction environment not office workers.
    I don't think you understand, either, Peter. (It's Stephen, btw, for stephen212, not "Steve").

    Your kids won't be much, if any, different than their father and their mother.

    Good luck with anything else.

    You can't insist on being a hard headed, yelling, opinionated person without FULLY EXPECTING your children to be the same way.

    Your reality is what YOU create with your influences, your thoughts, and your actions.

    Your daughter is challenging you with the same energy you face the world with.

    You raise your kids to be like you, whether you want it to be that way, or not. And, people like you don't generally get along very well with people like you.

    Get it?

    Love and acceptance is the only answer. At this point, kindness and tolerance are your only options, IMO.

    Eventually, she'll pick up on that modeling and start dealing better, and being better, with you.

    Get it?
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