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    Time frame

    Say you gave yourself a timeframe of hanging on with this.. and to draw a line in the sand so to speak... would it be fair or whatnot to let your family know beforehand or be up upfront like a proposition to them.. like months in advance or hold it to yourself, seems unkind that way..but if they disagree and say no we couldnt handle that then what...i mean it is my option and given i have the function to devise a way and carry it out.. i currently stay with me folks and they tend to me care.. gonna be 8 years.. ive been thru the nursing foster care, stayed w. a girl n her daughter that didnt werk out..
    just questioning other folks aspects..
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    I had a friend who did that. Gave himself 5 years. After 5 years he killed himself. I found it very sad, he was the same level of injury as me @ t4 and could have done so much more than he was doing. Even at higher levels I've still been amazed at the stuff people accomplish. My Friend Mark who is a C4/C5 has done some amazing stuff and still has had lots of fun. Paul (c4,5) who is head of Sail to Prevail is doing the Paralympics Skippering a Sonar Sailboat in the UK this summer and stands a real good shot of winning. I had another friend who was C2 and use to run a chain or restuarants and was very successful and wealthy. Bill Miller who I believe is a C1,2 and is about to get married to a beautiful woman and has a bowling score of 255 and has done some real incredible things. It's all possible if you really put your mind to it.

    Just wanted to add, you have gone 8 years already. As I remember that was around the time I really started turning my life around after going through major depression and talked about offing myself on a number of occasions. At least now you've got something, it's better than nothing and it could be nothing after your gone. It was about @ 6 years post I opened my Service Station and did really well and 2 years into it my self confidence went way up and I realized anything was possible.
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    Hey Stormy,

    I've been injured 16 years, C5/6 also, but very incomplete.
    I only really existed for the first 6 years after I was hurt. A lot of ups and downs, didn't like to go out in public, didn't know how to "live" again.

    Prior to my accident, worked at a juvenile detention center. One day, about 6 yrs post injury, I was like, dude, you need to do something with your life. I applied at a YMCA for the Teen Center Director position and was hired. Working there gave me a lot of confidence, getting out every day, interacting with people, dating, and making money.

    I was leaving outpatient PT one day when a guy in a chair rolled up and told me about a local quad rugby team. Didn't know what quad rugby was but said I would check it out. Went to a practice, they stuck me in a rugby chair, and I was hooked. It was the first time, post accident, I felt an adreneline RUSH. Crashing into other chairs at full speed, got my blood pumping and awakened my spirit. In addition to that, I was now in a fraternity with a bunch of guys (and a girl) that knew exactly what I was dealing with. It completely changed my life.

    When you discover what gets your blood pumping, it will shake you up and change your perspective.
    There is a rugby team in Portland, not sure how far that is from you.




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    my view. im 25 yrs post, yes a quad. im fortunate, im still vey healthy and ind. when i am no longer independent and feel im a burden to my wife, i will then go out with dignity on my own terms. i talked to her about this b4 we ever got married. i dont know how quads do it that are dependent totally. bottom line in the end, its your choice and yours only.

    like jim above, sports have always been my life b4 sci and after. training and doing all that goes with the sport im doing is everything to me. im lucky that my wife is my main training partner. and this year we started doing duathlons together team relay. she runs i bike. so i should say sports and fitness are both ouer lives.
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    I believe that we have the right to throw in the towel. That said, I knew both SCIs and family members who did suicide. It always hurts at least some significant others.

    It took several years before my life turned around just as unexpectedly as the SCI happened. I am glad I did not implement my fail-safe plan.

    My wife and I have taken a more acceptable route by sitting down and putting together living wills or advanced health care directives. It is based on circumstance rather than time and seems to be a good option.
    You will find a guide to preserving shoulder function @
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    I've been thinking a lot about this too.

    If this Fampyra junk doesn't do anything, I keep thinking about how I could benefit 8 people immediately: 2 eyes, 2 lungs, 2 kidneys, a heart and liver.

    Almost 3 decades and no treatments? I would not want to stick around for even one more decade with my failure of a bladder, not being able to work and not having the family I wanted. I'll never trust enough to love again so what's the point? I've lived, I've loved and I've laughed. Enough.

    I choose ... it would be nice to have family support but I know they wouldn't ... doesn't matter either way to me because they've never bothered to try and relate or understand. They never visit anyway so it would just be normal to them if I wasn't there. Financial pressures don't make this life easy either and I am feeling the pinch.

    The shit part is that I've read memory (consciousness then?) stays intact for hours after death. That's the only uncertainty.

    More and more I suspect that Ozymandias had it right.
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    Or more likely, I am in serious need of an excellent vacation. There are a few things I haven't done and would regret: Alaskan adventure and skiing. I'd love to learn how to fly a helicopter but what average Jane can afford that?! I need a sugar daddy!
    Last edited by lynnifer; 06-30-2012 at 12:58 PM.
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    I fully intended to check out at 50 figuring that 25 years in a chair was enough. But the more years I spent in my 'new normal' the less I thought about that promise. Now six months shy of 60 I figure I have 10 years to get so much accomplished.

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    I keep thinking there's something wrong with me then. It's opposite for me. I handled everything so well and functioned fine for so long .. and NOW I'm going downhill like this all just happened. WTF!?
    Roses are red. Tacos are enjoyable. Don't blame immigrants, because you're unemployable.

    T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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    If you were my age I would tell you that you just joined my crowd. But you have a long way to go. You are just down for some intermediate maintenance.
    You will find a guide to preserving shoulder function @
    http://www.rstce.pitt.edu/RSTCE_Reso...imb_Injury.pdf

    See my personal webpage @
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