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Thread: I miss what I can't do

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    Super Moderator Sue Pendleton's Avatar
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    Jul 2001
    Wisconsin USA
    I miss dancing. I miss going out to craggy edges of the ocean and poking around in tide pools. Now that we have retired to an absolutely perfect place for so many things and I miss not being able to walk or bike the Glacier Ice Age Trail with my husband or even just walking out through the dog park that is in a prarie restoration area with them. And only something evil could put me in a place where my Dad could travel with us but his walking endurance is near zero now due to pain. He won't even think of a scooter while his "little girl" is in a chair.
    Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."

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    I have gone full cycle. I miss being able to use a manual wheelchair and driving my equipped van.
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  3. #23
    but you can do all those things- i do -dancing,horseback riding,going on swings but havnt tried motorbike yet (other than sitting on one) -(written by noirin-age 8 when she sneaked a peak at the post)

  4. #24
    I feel more inconvenienced by the things I can no longer do rather than a sense of nostalgia. I think this is not unexpected after almost 3 decades. Given enough time a new "normal" sets in, albeit not as good as the first normal.

  5. #25
    how about opening up a thread about what we can do

  6. #26
    i can do horse riding on my horse troy i am trotting on him and doing small jumps he is perfect for jumping and my dog buster is jealous of troy and i can do hip hop and swiming and go on swings and go for walks on the beach

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    I miss giving my kid piggy-back rides. On the plus side she just started softball and I can still throw and catch with pretty much the same ability I had pre-sci.

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    Senior Member ZEN12many's Avatar
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    Woodland, CA, USA Old male, T12 incomplete TM 2004
    It's the beach that I miss most. Before my SCI, my wife and I, family and friends, camped at the ocean regularly. I loved walking along the beach.

    I am planning a vacation at the ocean for later this year and I plan on equipping my wheelchair with the right tires and use whatever means to get past the "soft dry" sand to the "just right" sand and see if I can get my dog to pull me along in that "just right" sand without making a break for the ocean and getting us stuck in the "too wet" sand.
    TM 2004 T12 incomplete

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    Ontario, Canada
    I think we all have those days... actually I think most of us have those little moments every day... I know I do. I'm in a bit of a rocky patch with my gf and not sure how it's going to play out and all I can think about is everything I can't do and why that's likely another reason to consider not continuing to date me... can't dance with me, trouble travelling, can't have sex w/ me the way a normal could, can't help me with this, we'll never do that.

    The reality is it's wasted energy... it's true, there's tonnes of stuff I can't do, do like others and will never do... but sadly I can't change that so getting sad over it is just wasting my time on this planet. You gotta accept that that's just the way it is... as do I with my gf... if the fact that I can't travel easy is a deal breaker then it is... not much I can do. Can't get blood from a stone.

    I suppose everyone, even non-SCIs get confronted with "I wish I could/was/etc"... just with us everything is so "normal" & taken for granted that it just amplifies the feelings 1000%

  10. #30
    I found a great job, but they wont hire me because i cant do home visits.
    If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

    Sometimes it is easier to widen doors than it is to open minds.

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