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  1. #401
    My boyfriends have always begged to let me let them be involved in personal B&B care

    The first time I did was a horrible experience that scarred me for a long time. He was my fiancé, able-bodied, but a big player in the SCI community. He had dated many paras and quads and was a huge part in teaching me how to be independent as a c-5/6 quad. After convincing me how normal it would be and how necessary for him now that we had a new home and were to be together, I acquiesced and trusted him.

    In my wildest dream could I have imagined the nightmare that was to follow. I got situated on the commode. He grabbed a bottle of Patron and continued to take shots during the whole procedure getting drunken and more cruel with comments about how gross and stinky the process was with each shot. I was in tears and wanted the earth to swallow me up. This was the first awakening of the monster I was planning to spend the rest of my life with.

    In addition, he used that experience as one of many why he could never feel sexually aroused with me again. He stopped having sex with me the day we moved into our home. The other excuse was that since we had a miscarriage, it was my fault because of SCI, and a result, I was smelly down there!

    Later, I discovered this equipment for his penis because he couldn't sustain an erection unless he was super excited. This was 20 years ago, before Viagra. So he was rejecting me for his issue and spending his days reaching out to be prospects on the Internet and mail order brides.

    We tried counseling, but the therapist told me to run away, as fast as I could. Said he had a Madonna/Whore complex and could only have sex while I was a girlfriend; but would be taboo to him once I was the woman of his house.

    By the way,he LOVEd his mother more than anything. The first subject he talked about with me, was all about her. And I was impressed about his values, now it's a red flag.

    Wow, that was TMI, but it happened 20 years ago, so can talk about it now. Grown a lot since then, and have lots of advice to young disabled daters to know yourself and never let anyone insult you just because your body processes work differently.

  2. #402
    Wow, what an awful experience, he sounds like he was a sick man and need some intense therapy. Maybe his mother treated him wierd growing up as a kid and screwed him up or something, that's what it sounds like. Hopefully you have met some better guys since him.
    "Life is about how you
    respond to not only the
    challenges you're dealt but
    the challenges you seek...If
    you have no goals, no
    mountains to climb, your
    soul dies".~Liz Fordred

  3. #403

    Wink Significant Others Involvement with Caregiving

    Yes, he definitely had his share of issues to work out. He's long gone now and living in another world. I hope he has found peace with himself and left no more damaged SCI female psyches behind.

    I was so naive at the time, I had never heard of wannabes or fetishes that I didn't question why an able bodied fetching male was so fascinated in disability and dated for the most part, only girls in wheelchairs. Later, when I learned about fetishes for equipment, I felt a little creeped out; but then rationalized it as not being much different than some guy that only likes girls with red hair, or some other characteristic. Can't help wonder about all the Ability Expo vendors interest in disability though for a second or two!

    I fell in love with him because he was brilliant, incredibly creative and did so much to empower people with disabilities to be proud and be cool. He tackled all of the issues that are being brought to light in the "Push Girls" series - sexuality, pregnancy, active lifestyles and much more. This was 15 years ago and the average American public was not very open to the images.

    I'm still very proud of him, hope that he is still making bold and brave artistic advances, glad that I experienced both the joy and pain of trying to be in a relationship with him because I came out so strong by having to address my own insecurities and learning how to never allow myself to succumb to abusive and bully behavior.

    He was so funny and compassionate as long as the insecure narcisist monstor within him could be kept at bay. His mom lived with us and was delightful. She doted on him to compensate for an alcoholic father. Who knows what the trigger was that caused him so much internal strife and anger that he lashed out on others.

    But to answer your question, yes I've found an incredible guy and Made some other mistakes along the way too. That's life.
    Last edited by Broken Doll; 09-03-2012 at 06:52 PM. Reason: Typos

  4. #404
    Horrifying story..but so glad you had the strength to get out and now are happy.

    It would be fine with us if you would give us some idea who this psychopath is who is so involved in disabled community and involved in "expos" so we can stay the heck away from his table/product/service. I for one will be creeped out and wonder who it is...please im me if you don;t want to say publicly.



    Quote Originally Posted by Broken Doll View Post
    Yes, he definitely had his share of issues to work out. He's long gone now and living in another world. I hope he has found peace with himself and left no more damaged SCI female psyches behind.

    I was so naive at the time, I had never heard of wannabes or fetishes that I didn't question why an able bodied fetching male was so fascinated in disability and dated for the most part, only girls in wheelchairs. Later, when I learned about fetishes for equipment, I felt a little creeped out; but then rationalized it as not being much different than some guy that only likes girls with red hair, or some other characteristic. Can't help wonder about all the Ability Expo vendors interest in disability though for a second or two!

    I fell in love with him because he was brilliant, incredibly creative and did so much to empower people with disabilities to be proud and be cool. He tackled all of the issues that are being brought to light in the "Push Girls" series - sexuality, pregnancy, active lifestyles and much more. This was 15 years ago and the average American public was not very open to the images.

    I'm still very proud of him, hope that he is still making bold and brave artistic advances, glad that I experienced both the joy and pain of trying to be in a relationship with him because I came out so strong by having to address my own insecurities and learning how to never allow myself to succumb to abusive and bully behavior.

    He was so funny and compassionate as long as the insecure narcisist monstor within him could be kept at bay. His mom lived with us and was delightful. She doted on him to compensate for an alcoholic father. Who knows what the trigger was that caused him so much internal strife and anger that he lashed out on others.

    But to answer your question, yes I've found an incredible guy and Made some other mistakes along the way too. That's life.
    "The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” ~Carlos Castaneda

  5. #405
    I just watched the last episode. Oh geez, I hope people don't think we wear diapers. Angela has some pad covering half her cushion most of the time as it is. Maybe she can figure out a different way to manage her bladder or something. I wouldn't rollout of my house with a chux pad hanging off my cushion, ever. She could do so much more for herself. She seems poorly educated about SCI and a lot of what she has said during the show makes no sense.
    Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumble bee doesn't know that, so it goes on flying anyways--Mary Kay Ash

  6. #406
    Quote Originally Posted by november View Post
    I just watched the last episode. Oh geez, I hope people don't think we wear diapers. Angela has some pad covering half her cushion most of the time as it is. Maybe she can figure out a different way to manage her bladder or something. I wouldn't rollout of my house with a chux pad hanging off my cushion, ever. She could do so much more for herself. She seems poorly educated about SCI and a lot of what she has said during the show makes no sense.
    That's what I'm sayin'!

    I wonder if she's tried all the bladder meds, or an aug.
    Embrace uncertainty. Hard problems rarely have easy solutions. Jonah Lehrer

  7. #407
    Quote Originally Posted by leschinsky View Post
    That's what I'm sayin'!

    I wonder if she's tried all the bladder meds, or an aug.
    I couldn't be my age and have someone follow me around to cath me every 4-6 hrs either. It's bizarre in my opinion. I know young, successful, beautiful women that would rather have a caregiver cath them throughout the day than get a mitro or supra pubic. They are also the same ones that won't use a powerchair even though they can't push a manual and get anywhere. I guess getting pushed around is better? Once I met a young women that was an attorney that was still doing these two very things. Different strokes, I guess.
    Aerodynamically, the bumble bee shouldn't be able to fly, but the bumble bee doesn't know that, so it goes on flying anyways--Mary Kay Ash

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