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    What People Will Think

    Hey Everyone!

    As you may have seen, I have started walking again and will be starting to walk at work right away. I'm super nervous. Not about saftey or anything, but what people (co-workers) will think. The only people from work who have seen me walk with my walker are my boss and my supervisor and they are really excited about it and have been supportive and encouraging of the whole thing. I guess I just don't want to look dependent for lack of better way to explain it. For the most part, I am independent in the chair. Walker I am, but not fully yet. I also am kind of self-concious about the way I walk because it doesn't look "normal".

    I don't know what I'm even asking... I'm just nervous.

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    I can not give you any advice that would be of any use to you at all, because I feel pretty much the same self conscious feelings that you do when using a walker. I only use mine when grocey shopping because it fits in the electric carts.

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    I can only tell you that this AB would say "Congrats!". About the closest I came to your feeling of self-consciousness was when I was bald from chemo and decided to drop the scarf. Last thing I wanted was people looking at me funny or with pity. Well, some people did. Some people are like that. Best suggestion I can make is to hold your head up high and fake feeling confident until you really feel it. I bet all will be fine.

    And congrats!
    Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.
    - Albert Einstein

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    I never lost my ability to walk. I walk much much better now. But when i was walking really really bad, I can tell you people will just stare all the time. They will constantly ask you if you need help, are you going to fall. They will ask you if they can get you a chair, if they can do something for you, if you are alright, are you in pain, etc, etc, it does make you feel self conscious but they get used to it, just like anything else When I would be 'practicing' walking outside, which I of course considered exercise cause I was told 'if you want to walk' you gotta 'walk', strangers would offer to pick me up in their cars off the street and take me home.

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    That's cause you are hot Mary
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    Quote Originally Posted by marycsm77 View Post
    I never lost my ability to walk. I walk much much better now. But when i was walking really really bad, I can tell you people will just stare all the time. They will constantly ask you if you need help, are you going to fall. They will ask you if they can get you a chair, if they can do something for you, if you are alright, are you in pain, etc, etc, it does make you feel self conscious but they get used to it, just like anything else When I would be 'practicing' walking outside, which I of course considered exercise cause I was told 'if you want to walk' you gotta 'walk', strangers would offer to pick me up in their cars off the street and take me home.
    this is true. I get all of the above.

    I get a dumbfounded open mouth stare every time I go out since moving to the south too.

    people who know you though will try to politely look away or smile back.
    I find a smile and a hello nod is the best way to deal with your stage fright.
    move along nothing to see here ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jim View Post
    That's cause you are hot Mary
    HA, lol. thanks james, but I'm afraid when I was walking like Herman Munster, I wasn't looking so 'hot', trust me

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    Quote Originally Posted by jody View Post
    this is true. I get all of the above.

    I get a dumbfounded open mouth stare every time I go out since moving to the south too.

    people who know you though will try to politely look away or smile back.
    I find a smile and a hello nod is the best way to deal with your stage fright.
    move along nothing to see here ...
    true Jody, smiling always puts people at ease somehow, sucks to always have (or in my case had) to put others at ease, but it does work, it goes a long way

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    Just one thing to add that used to piss me off, some people used to say to me, when i would tell them what happened to me "well you should be grateful, glad you can walk", and your not in a chair, which of course I was/am.

    Funny thing is no one in a wheelchair has ever said that to me, that I could recognize and completely understand. But someone who has never had an injury to their spinal cord saying that to me, I found for some reason to be very aggravating. One time I finally said "YOU should be grateful YOU can walk too". I just felt why should I be any more grateful to walk then you, you take it for granted, I dont.

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    Quote Originally Posted by marycsm77 View Post
    I never lost my ability to walk. I walk much much better now. But when i was walking really really bad, I can tell you people will just stare all the time. They will constantly ask you if you need help, are you going to fall. They will ask you if they can get you a chair, if they can do something for you, if you are alright, are you in pain, etc, etc, it does make you feel self conscious but they get used to it, just like anything else When I would be 'practicing' walking outside, which I of course considered exercise cause I was told 'if you want to walk' you gotta 'walk', strangers would offer to pick me up in their cars off the street and take me home.
    My story exactly Mary, does that make me hot Jim?
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