well havent been online in a while, but my husbands moods are back wow didnt last long, i guess its true you always hurt the ones you love the most. Hope thats true,he really can say some things to me as tho its all my fault he is hurt or something, i have a questioin, Dr told us in july after doing a test on my husband which was having lots of pain in right arm now has like a trimmer just shakes really bad, anyway test report was showing degenative changes, and told him he had to many levels of injury to do any surgerys right now has had 2 in the past 1st one wasnt good callapsed on spinalcord, 2nd surgery to decompress he has a pace maker also from weak muscles in behind heart from injury,and here we are where we hoped the day would never come! areas that hold titanium are in trouble dont know the medical terms but also has inpinchment at t1 been there for about 15 yrs when all this began leaving him incomplete at c4567 t1 inpinchment on spinalcord. they told us no surgery until he gets worse in weakness, and we know he may be a complete possibly after surgery, and any changes in bowels or kidney flow they would need to know, he has been very losse in bowels 4 wks and has soiled the bed at night before he could get to bathroom im scared because we thought it was a bug the first week the 2nd wk we thought ok overcounter med may work, 3rd wk went to local dr gave meds, but didnt work, so 4th wk now i think i need to call spine dr but he doesnt want me to, could this be the changes they are talking about he says his kidneys were fine, but im scared he wouldnt tell me. what changes do i look for. he sleeps alot and tired, doesnt want to eat but once aday, very worried he wants to set in one spot and left alone now, like he knows something, and has been very emotional and crying some, i know this is happening to him not me, but i hurt for him! try to help but i can only do so much i cant fix him, i wish i could. i know he thinks i dont know anything because its him but i feel he doesnt care what he says sometimes, dr has tried to tell him try to be aware of what is around you, but i feel we are in trouble with his injury and moods, im scared of the future and its hard to leave the house and go to work but that is my sanity sometime, of course my eyes are open and my heart is breaking for him and us but i have always done my best for us, hope he knows this, and sometimes i think it is still in there he is just in a bad place right now i know!