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    have you pissed them off?
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    Quote Originally Posted by brucec View Post
    have you pissed them off?

    Unfortunately, I must have it has been this way since my accident 30 years ago ruined their lives. Even though I went back to my dorm room 6 months after discharge and haven’t lived at their house since late 80’s, they have done so much for me.

    Did not modify the house at all, but told me how “I tore’” everything up. When my coworkers found out I was taking my showers outside in January with the garden hose, they made me a shower on the porch with hot water, I still had to pop wheelie over the sliding glass door tracks.

    As a C6 with no balance and trying to eat, never mind having nothing to lean on for stability, isn’t worth the pain. Can't or won't put up with it in my 50's like i did in my 20's.

    There is one place in their entire house I can sit and talk, leaning on the arm at the end of the couch in the family room, which blocks the way to the bathroom the other four people use.

    You can tell how much I look forward to the holidays or visiting my parents, so I doubt I will go this year.

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    That's messed up, man. I wouldn't show up - seems from the date of your injury they've thought only of themselves and their possessions over their own child. Family is family, it's supposed to mean they have your back. I'm sorry Cris, maybe you can spend the holiday with some buddies.
    Quote Originally Posted by Cris View Post
    Unfortunately, I must have it has been this way since my accident 30 years ago ruined their lives. Even though I went back to my dorm room 6 months after discharge and haven’t lived at their house since late 80’s, they have done so much for me.

    Did not modify the house at all, but told me how “I tore’” everything up. When my coworkers found out I was taking my showers outside in January with the garden hose, they made me a shower on the porch with hot water, I still had to pop wheelie over the sliding glass door tracks.

    As a C6 with no balance and trying to eat, never mind having nothing to lean on for stability, isn’t worth the pain. Can't or won't put up with it in my 50's like i did in my 20's.

    There is one place in their entire house I can sit and talk, leaning on the arm at the end of the couch in the family room, which blocks the way to the bathroom the other four people use.

    You can tell how much I look forward to the holidays or visiting my parents, so I doubt I will go this year.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cris View Post
    Did not modify the house at all, but told me how “I tore’” everything up. When my coworkers found out I was taking my showers outside in January with the garden hose, they made me a shower on the porch with hot water, I still had to pop wheelie over the sliding glass door tracks.
    ......... speechless.

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    Under the circumtances, stay home or go to a local open public dinner that various organizations provide at Thanksgiving. Be thankful you do not have to go to your parents place. If your siblings are not in the camp with your parents, start working on a get together with them at Christmas or New Years. I would have written parents like that off long ago. I would be ashamed to associate with people so fucked up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cris View Post
    Did not modify the house at all, but told me how “I tore’” everything up. When my coworkers found out I was taking my showers outside in January with the garden hose, they made me a shower on the porch with hot water, I still had to pop wheelie over the sliding glass door tracks.
    I wasn't going to comment until I read this.... Don't bother. Clearly, they really don't care about your needs. This makes me super angry; my family is not perfect, but there is no way in hell I'd ever be asked to shower outside or be excluded from a family dinner like that. In fact, just last week we went to Edmonton and had dinner with family at their house, I couldn't sit at the table as it was too high. I was content watching tv, but the next night we went out for dinner so I wouldn't have to sit by myself and they put us on the second floor, my dad was going to carry me up the stairs (they moved us to the first floor).

    My point is, their age and your injury are not an excuse for them to treat you like crap, you deserve btter. Don't put up with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cris View Post
    Unfortunately, I must have it has been this way since my accident 30 years ago ruined their lives. Even though I went back to my dorm room 6 months after discharge and haven’t lived at their house since late 80’s, they have done so much for me.

    Did not modify the house at all, but told me how “I tore’” everything up. When my coworkers found out I was taking my showers outside in January with the garden hose, they made me a shower on the porch with hot water, I still had to pop wheelie over the sliding glass door tracks.

    As a C6 with no balance and trying to eat, never mind having nothing to lean on for stability, isn’t worth the pain. Can't or won't put up with it in my 50's like i did in my 20's.

    There is one place in their entire house I can sit and talk, leaning on the arm at the end of the couch in the family room, which blocks the way to the bathroom the other four people use.

    You can tell how much I look forward to the holidays or visiting my parents, so I doubt I will go this year.
    My mind boggles at this level of disrespect shown to you. I have changed my mind completely, and think you should blow them all off and treat yourself to a nice dinner out at a restaurant if you are able to get there. I am very sorry that you have such insensitive louts in your family.

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    my goodness!!! seriously it's amazing that such people exist! don't put up with their bs for another holiday!! treat yourself to a fancy restaurant and have fun with friends!
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    Cris, this is entirely your fault, so stop your whining! If you hadn't gone and gotten yourself crippled, everything would have been just fine. You should be grateful that they still let you come over to visit after tearing up the whole house with your wheelchair. Do you have any idea how embarrassing it is to have a cripple for a son? Haven't you heard that it is always the victim's fault???
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    I'd go, but tell them because you're sitting at another table, you hope it's their last Thanksgiving.

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