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    What would you do?

    My parents have 2 tables, one I can get under (dining room) the other I can’t (back porch) to eat at whenever I am at their house.

    Asked long time ago to eat Christmas Eve dinner in the dining room and they said yes. Don’t know if it was because I brought a date that year but the next time I asked they said no.

    This year I brought it up and they told me no, they can “feed me at another table”. Mom, Dad, brother and Sister in law eat at their table, I'll eat by myself in another room.

    Don’t really care the front porch and front door threshold I have to pop wheelies to get through, but the bathroom is huge and covered with the back yard.

    Am I missing something but isn’t the idea of a holiday meal (Thanksgiving) is to share a meal and eating in two different rooms defeats the purpose? Didn't go last year (Had a broken leg) don't know what to do, he's 87 she is 78 and I feel guilty.

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    Because meals are usually the high point of holiday family gatherings, I agree that having you at the same table is important. At times, my family has had too many to fit around the main table and had to add a second. However, even it was placed beside/near the main table. Did they give you some reason the dinning room is not acceptable? If there is a legitimate reason, maybe your brother and sister could switch the tables around for the meal. I guess I would be a bit upset if my family or friends did not accommodate my needs when possible.
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    sometimes one just needs to throw a hissy fit..frankly this would be one of those times for me! lol

    "If you can't eat in the dining room where I am able to eat together with you, then I will be giving thanks elsewhere!"
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    My mother is 87. I just stick with: Yes ma, sure ma. Then do what I want. People are set in their ways, and it accomplishes nothing to fight with them.

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    I agree with baldfat. At their ages I would just agree, knowing that you will only be in one place for the length of time it takes to eat and then you can talk to everyone who is there for the rest of the afternoon.

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    I'm sorry you are faced with this dilemma Cris. It just seems so arbitrary and even cruel. There are so many ways to easily make this accommodation. If it were my parents, I would have to have a discussion about "what's the problem," and be prepared to have a few reasonable suggestions on how I could join in with the rest of the family and guests for dinner.

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    Your post made me sad. Can't blocks be put under the table legs so you can get under the table?

    Sometimes I just sit sideways beside the table on an end for example. Not real comfortable, but it works.

    On a lighter note: my son's table has spindle legs. He discovered that the legs fit perfectly in large Lego blocks, so he raises the table with a couple of lego blocks under each leg.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cris View Post
    My parents have 2 tables, one I can get under (dining room) the other I can’t (back porch) to eat at whenever I am at their house.

    Asked long time ago to eat Christmas Eve dinner in the dining room and they said yes. Don’t know if it was because I brought a date that year but the next time I asked they said no.

    This year I brought it up and they told me no, they can “feed me at another table”. Mom, Dad, brother and Sister in law eat at their table, I'll eat by myself in another room.

    Don’t really care the front porch and front door threshold I have to pop wheelies to get through, but the bathroom is huge and covered with the back yard.

    Am I missing something but isn’t the idea of a holiday meal (Thanksgiving) is to share a meal and eating in two different rooms defeats the purpose? Didn't go last year (Had a broken leg) don't know what to do, he's 87 she is 78 and I feel guilty.
    jesus christ, i dont know the answer to this, but if i were your brother or your sis-in-law, i'd be eating at the 'other table' with you.

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    I agree with baldfatdad and Eileen. At that age, I wouldn't care. They are old, let them have the things their way.
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    just because they are old, does't give them license to be rude. in fact, at their age, they should know better! i'd discuss this with your family. a small thing like that makes one feel excluded by their family.
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