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    am afraid i may not be here much longer

    can't eat, am in so much pain, kid gone, job gone, am alone. i really don't know what to do any more.

    can't volunteer (if i could do that, i'd still be working). this sucks.

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    As a Quad with lots of problems,living on my own ,I really take offense to the way you started your post...I am 48,Quad for 22. In the last 2 months I have 2 able body friend,with children shoot themselves DEAD. 29 and 32. I have NO respect at all for suicide,it is a wimps way out,it hurts the ones you leave behind !!!!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tdirt View Post
    As a Quad with lots of problems,living on my own ,I really take offense to the way you started your post...I am 48,Quad for 22. In the last 2 months I have 2 able body friend,with children shoot themselves DEAD. 29 and 32. I have NO respect at all for suicide,it is a wimps way out,it hurts the ones you leave behind !!!!!!!
    am not talking suicide. am talking reality. my body breaking down. am quad 25 yrs, worked as engineer most of those. gave birth to kid 6 yrs post, raised him alone, diapers and all. I AM TIRED, he's 19 now and i take offense at your post.

    my son had mate shoot himself, my mom, dad, bro, cousin, bf more dead.

    i was commenting on my health.

    btw, am quad on my own for yrs. it sucks. and yes, i am afraid. i have never been in this position in all my quad yrs. GEESH THX FOR UNDERSTANDING.
    Last edited by cass; 10-01-2011 at 02:55 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tdirt View Post
    As a Quad with lots of problems,living on my own ,I really take offense to the way you started your post...I am 48,Quad for 22. In the last 2 months I have 2 able body friend,with children shoot themselves DEAD. 29 and 32. I have NO respect at all for suicide,it is a wimps way out,it hurts the ones you leave behind !!!!!!!
    I didn't read suicide in Cass' post at all. If anything, Cass rails against it if you've read more of her posts.

    I will go on record as fully supporting suicide. Fuck those it leaves behind. You know the people it leaves behind? The people who will be living it up within weeks and fucking, drinking, eating, and living life to the fullest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Le Type Français View Post
    I didn't read suicide in Cass' post at all. If anything, Cass rails against it if you've read more of her posts.

    I will go on record as fully supporting suicide. Fuck those it leaves behind. You know the people it leaves behind? The people who will be living it up within weeks and fucking, drinking, eating, and living life to the fullest.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Le Type Français View Post
    I didn't read suicide in Cass' post at all. If anything, Cass rails against it if you've read more of her posts.

    I will go on record as fully supporting suicide. Fuck those it leaves behind. You know the people it leaves behind? The people who will be living it up within weeks and fucking, drinking, eating, and living life to the fullest.
    Todd, you know I love you buddy, but your thoughts about those left behind after a suicide or even a suicide attempt are not always true, especially if it is someone you have loved who has suicided. There is nothing more painful for a child than a parent who suicides. They are left with life- long haunting questions, including "didn't she love me enough to stay?" and "how could I have prevented this." Sure, they eat, they go back to work, they put on the face of normalacy and go out into the world, but do so with a heart that is irrevocably broken, and a sense of trust that is shattered.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eileen View Post
    Todd, you know I love you buddy, but your thoughts about those left behind after a suicide or even a suicide attempt are not always true, especially if it is someone you have loved who has suicided. There is nothing more painful for a child than a parent who suicides. They are left with life- long haunting questions, including "didn't she love me enough to stay?" and "how could I have prevented this." Sure, they eat, they go back to work, they put on the face of normalacy and go out into the world, but do so with a heart that is irrevocably broken, and a sense of trust that is shattered.
    I didn't mean to imply that anyone who considers suicide should do it. Many completely healthy people do it due to momentary circumstances in their lives and that is very sad.

    My focus was being adamant that a person shouldn't feel obligated to live and suffer for the benefit of others. To me, that's selfish on the part of others, not the one who suffers.

    Consider people around you who went on with their lives when you were injured. No one stops living because someone suffers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Le Type Français View Post
    My focus was being adamant that a person shouldn't feel obligated to live and suffer for the benefit of others. To me, that's selfish on the part of others, not the one who suffers.
    I totally agree with this. My sister has said more than once that she'd hate to be without a sister .. but we see each other maybe two or three times per year and she doesn't have to live this life.

    On the other hand, if I had a child - never. There's an obligation and I would only stray from that if I had a terminal illness. Hard to imagine unless I was actually in that situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Le Type Français View Post
    I didn't mean to imply that anyone who considers suicide should do it. Many completely healthy people do it due to momentary circumstances in their lives and that is very sad.

    My focus was being adamant that a person shouldn't feel obligated to live and suffer for the benefit of others. To me, that's selfish on the part of others, not the one who suffers.

    Consider people around you who went on with their lives when you were injured. No one stops living because someone suffers.
    I agree with you that suicide is a personal choice, and I did lose a good friend to a brutal suicide. Her children were told, and still believe to this day, that their mother's car broke down during a snowstorm, and I hope they never find out the truth. My feelings about her suicide are very different. I think she had an absolute right to do it if she really couldn't stand it, but I also wrestle with the fact that perhaps she just needed more psychological help with depression. The irony of her death is that she was totally ablebodied and had just WON her battle with breast cancer. Her prognosis was one of health and aging, so it was the depression that took her out. For her kids sake I am glad they just think it was a tragic accident, because the truth would be too much for them.

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    try and hang in there cass you gave ben very involved in this community for a long time. i understand your going through extreme emotional trauma and increasing pain, so i take no offense at you post, nor do i think someone who has been here since 2008 with few posts should pass judgement on you who has been here since 2001 he obviously has no idea about pain, i always tell these people to take a hacksaw to their toes and start sawing them of , and when done i have plenty of other torturous ways to mimic our everday pain. i am lucky i have meds that control and manage it, many do not have the insurance , and eeven if they did, it wouldnt pay for the strong painkillers, over 4k a month for just one. hang tight , need to find you some help,not hindrance
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