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    "You're really quite attractive"

    So what to make of this? Two guys have chosen independently to say this to me within the last month or so...with a tone of wonderment/bafflement, as if to say, "unlike my first impression of you" or "despite what a poor job you do of showing it" or "contrary to what I would expect of a woman in a wheelchair..."
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    That one word [quite] means a lot when spoken. Something is implied.

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    I wish someone would say that to me!
    Seriously, I can see why it would make you wonder-especially the last one. It is sort of a backward compliment.

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    maybe you can just take it as a compliment and not imply any other meaning to it? then weed them out. as my friends who do online dating call it DATE AND DELETE.
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    I think the suspect word here is "really". Like, you really have a pretty face if you'd just lose the weight...

    Randy, if you'd just lose the quadriplegia, you'd really be quite attractive!

    Assholes abound. Lassies, bound away from the assholes!

    (Or ignore me. I am a bitter, cynical hag. I might be quite attractive if I smiled more, and you know, fawned over any yahoo w/ a penis. Also if I'd never lived a full 51 years w/ all the tragedy and drama that entails.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by betheny View Post
    I think the suspect word here is "really". Like, you really have a pretty face if you'd just lose the weight...
    That's what it sounds like to me, too (or in my case, substitute the words "...for an old babe" ). I don't think such statements are intended to be demeaning, but of course that's the effect they often have.

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    it could mean. "it is unexpected, BUT you really ARE quite attractive."

    Like, when you look at your best friend one day and say "you know you really are quite attractive" like you never really thought about or noticed or expected to feel that way.

    Bottom line is..he they said YOU ARE "quite attractive", quite meaning very in my opinion..and I would say.."why thank you, you are not so bad yourself!" and smile.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Liz321 View Post
    maybe you can just take it as a compliment and not imply any other meaning to it? then weed them out. as my friends who do online dating call it DATE AND DELETE.
    Yep, just take it for what it is. If you are looking for negative meaning, of course you'll find it, even if someone said "you are beautiful to me" - what?? beautiful to YOU?? so I'm not beautiful to anyone else?! - you get my drift.

    So, like Liz said, don't think more about it than what it is. As sherocks says...
    Quote Originally Posted by sherocksandsherolls View Post
    it could mean. "it is unexpected, BUT you really ARE quite attractive."

    Like, when you look at your best friend one day and say "you know you really are quite attractive" like you never really thought about or noticed or expected to feel that way.

    Bottom line is..he they said YOU ARE "quite attractive", quite meaning very in my opinion..and I would say.."why thank you, you are not so bad yourself!" and smile.

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    When people say "You look really nice today" they just mean that. Not that you look really bad the other days even if it sounds like that.
    Take the compliment.

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    I think it means you are very pretty.

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