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    Can't take it anymore

    I just wanna be a normal 19 yo guy. Just go out hang out with friends maybe even meet a girl. I just keep getting worse and worse, spasms so bad I can barely keep myself in the chair and there's nothing the doctors can do about them because I have massive bone growth in my hip causing it. The hip not only gives me unbearable spasms but oversensitive bladder too forcing me to wear the undergarment crap. I just want a life a normal teenage life. I want to be with my friends without worrying about falling or accidents. I want to meet a great girl but what girl wants to be with a writhing mess. I can't sleep anymore with my legs kicking straight up in the air all night. People get mad saying I could be so worse off, I know I could be but that doesn't change what is.I wanna grow up with a normal life. I wanna dance at my wedding, I wanna run through the park with my kids one day. I can't take this anymore. Just want it to all be over. I never want to kill myself. I just can't take it much more.
    Last edited by oakleaf41; 01-02-2011 at 01:55 AM.

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    Can the doctors not do some kind of surgery to correct the bone growth?
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    Yea in another year

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    Senior Member lynnifer's Avatar
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    What happened the last time you asked a girl out?
    Make America Sane Again. lol

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    Last 2 girls talked to me just to be nice and when I go to ask them out they make lame excuses. I had a gf when I was first injured and after a few weeks told me she's tired of it all and left

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    Write off the ex ... obviously not worth your attentions anyway.

    So 2? I assume there's more that live around you?

    I'm sorry about the hip. Why surgery in one year's time - because of growth? I do hope you get that solved and get your spasms under control. What about a condom cath instead of undergarments?

    What do you do to make your life 'more normal?' Are you in school or working or is this all on the back-burner until your surgery?
    Make America Sane Again. lol

    T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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    There are girls that will go out with you you just haven't met them yet. I have 3 beautiful nieces about your age and I'm sure they would date a guy with a disability, I'd like to think they would just because they're openminded but I think having an aunt in a chair makes them comfortable around people with disabilities. Your 19 you'll have plenty of time to meet girls.

    I agree with Lynnifer about trying a condom cath. Have you tried the over-active bladder meds?

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    Quote Originally Posted by oakleaf41 View Post
    I just wanna be a normal 19 yo guy. Just go out hang out with friends maybe even meet a girl. I just keep getting worse and worse, spasms so bad I can barely keep myself in the chair and there's nothing the doctors can do about them because I have massive bone growth in my hip causing it. The hip not only gives me unbearable spasms but oversensitive bladder too forcing me to wear the undergarment crap. I just want a life a normal teenage life. I want to be with my friends without worrying about falling or accidents. I want to meet a great girl but what girl wants to be with a writhing mess. I can't sleep anymore with my legs kicking straight up in the air all night. People get mad saying I could be so worse off, I know I could be but that doesn't change what is.I wanna grow up with a normal life. I wanna dance at my wedding, I wanna run through the park with my kids one day. I can't take this anymore. Just want it to all be over. I never want to kill myself. I just can't take it much more.
    I'm sorry brother I feel you, I think the same way, read my story life is just what is un fair and all about luck. If you want to meet a girl you will, I met mine after the injury, I was all messed up and still am, I wish I can say something to help you, but i think about ending my life all the time, it is hard life is hard. but I assume your hands work, play PS3, i barely can use my hands my left fingers almost dont work, but i find games that help. BTW smoking causes 100% more spasms

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    Quote Originally Posted by oakleaf41 View Post
    Last 2 girls talked to me just to be nice and when I go to ask them out they make lame excuses. I had a gf when I was first injured and after a few weeks told me she's tired of it all and left
    forget that girl have hope you will find love

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    Well, I'll blow you if you close your eyes and forget I'm a guy.

    Hang in there. I was injured at 15 and it sucks. I know. I've been there and it's horrible. It can get better as you move into adulthood and grow mentally.


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