I am confused, you spoke with the person needing the care? and he said to wait? and you said you would because you don't know of anyone doing anything the person needing the care wants? And the person who needs the care agreed and said the situation is pathetic?

When did the person come home? Is the person para, quad, what level? Etc. Did the person go to rehab and able to do anything on his own? Is the family caregiver just being over protective since its a new injury?

Sorry to ask so many questions but I am really confused, if the caregiver is as bad as your first post, why wait? Something needs to be done and done today.