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    Playing with a Toddler

    Can you give me some suggestions on what I can play with Violet? I get so bored watching her and feel so badly she has no one to play with.

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    Hi Emi,

    I can't remember what I played with my two daughters when they were young, but I know what I played with my three grandsons.

    Try Piggie goes to market (toes), stacking cups, blocks, playing with dollie, reading stories, matching cards (same colour, shape). Saying words for objects like 'ball' shapes, colours, etc. Singing songs, clapping hands to music.

    One of my grandson's favourite games is me hiding tiny toys, stuffed animals, under cushions, behind things etc. He is now 5 and still wants me to play that with him.

    What about having a 'tea party' with tiny play cups and saucers with you and Violet, Teddy, and her favourite doll or stuffed animal. I know they all used to love that one.....with little goodies to go with it.

    Another favourite that all my grandchildren loved, was sitting on my lap at the computer, and playing computer games. They have great ones out for toddlers now and they are very good and geared for learning things such as colours, shapes, etc. Even if Violet can't use the mouse yet - which she won't be able to - I'll bet she will still love the games. They are very educational too.

    Good luck with it Emi, and enjoy. She will be going on her first date before you know it! Well, not quite yet, but time goes by quickly.


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    Lego/ Duplo is good... Maybe its a bit too boyish, but the big blocks are fun to play with. Maybe sitting at a table and role-playing with her dolls/horses or something? My kids are older, but they have lego on the brain all the time. I think I own every Star Wars lego set in existense!

    Don't worry, she'll hold together. You hear me, baby? Hold together.

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    A kitchen cabinet with pots and pans, plastic bowels and a big spoon to bang on them with. they like to hide their stuff in it. I had a cabinet that was theirs.

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    Books, Books books!

    Hungry catepillar...then make a collage of the stuff he eats..think THEMES as a teacher does. I worked with 3 year olds for a bit...and currently I am on babysitting dut with my 3 yea old nephew. I take him to the children's section of the library, they have a computer and he spends time there as well w/ appropriate software.

    Join the library programs near you too.

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    thanks, i guess my kssue is its hard to play from my wheelchair. i need a table.

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    Emi, when we adopted our children, we had a lot of bonding time to make up for ... so Scott (C7 complete) and I figured out how we could take advantage of play time to maximum benefit.

    All that said, for all the experience, books and workshops we attended, we learned:

    1) Scott's wheelchair was a rolling entertainment center and classroom in one. Our son especially was fascinated with the brakes, spokes, and pushing it back and forth. Of course, riding with daddy in it was a blast, especially if he would pop a wheelie ... and then balance. I'm sure you've already noticed this with Emi.

    2) Maybe it's because of my limited (and maybe uncommon) parenting experience, but because you're in a chair, I bet Emi spends a lot more time in your lap than children with AB moms. The psychological effect of that closeness and security is strengthening Emi in ways we probably can't imagine. Looking back, all those hours the kids spent cuddled up with Scott in his lap have been tremendously beneficial in the long run. Do you best to make that lap time as soft, gentle and loving as possible--and I know that's not always easy.

    3) Set up a play table for just the two of you. Playdough is a lot of fun ... unless she starts eating it! Does she have dolls or those Discovery/Fisher Price toys? Finger painting, eventually puzzles, etc. You two could decorate Christmas cookies together too. My children LOVED that, and the messier we got, the better!

    Of course, you have left to clean it up.

    4) Also recalled that Scott, the kids and I spent a lot of time on or in the bed, sometimes all of us together ... reading, tickling, napping, watching tv, playing games. Again, I don't think we're aware of how much that closeness helped the children.

    5) Swimming pools are wonderful. I know that's further down the road, but when an sci parent is in a pool with their child, it somewhat minimizes the disabilities. We have hours of videos with Scott splashing around in the kids' 18 inch deep pool. Wasn't long before they were all swimming in in-ground pools. Again, lots of bonding, laughter, and teaching is going on. Often when we stayed in hotels, Scott was the only father (sometimes the only PARENT) in the pool with his children. AB parents seemed to "miss" that opportunity to be with their kids. Obviously, as a quad, you can't get in and out of most pools without some assistance. Plan ahead, and it will work out ... and be extremely worth it.

    The roles of mother and father are different, but either way I've seen that children with SCI parents are given a special capacity for compassion, patience and sensitivity for those who sometimes need help. I think in the long run it will make Emi--and all of our children here--better people. But that's my slightly biased opinion.

    [This message was edited by marco25 on 12-01-04 at 10:51 PM.]

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    How old is Violet and what is your level of injury (do you have any control of your arms for example)? My answer will depend on both of those factors. My son was 3 years and 2 months when I met Chad, who can only shoulder shrug. So I have lots of ideas even for a high level injury, but I want to answer appropriately to your situation.


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    Violet is nearly 17 months old and I'm a C 7/8with semi functional hands.

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    I have a C-5 incomplete sci I've had for 14 years. I am much older than my cousins and siblings. Only my 16 year old cousin remembers me before the accident. I've always played with them from the time they were babies. Your daughter is two? She's old enough to climb on your lap and understand Mommy can't play on the floor. My now 6 year old little sister and I played with any of her toys when she was little by having her set them on the kitchen table before she'd climb on my lap. Both my sisters, now 11 and 6,are more compassionate than their peers and are fiercely protective of anyone "different", I like to think that it had something to do with my SCI. They were also VERY shocked to find that other people don't have a "Samantha". Your daughter is lucky to have such a loving Mom.

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