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  1. #21
    I'm not a fighter either crags, I would have handled it the same way. Good. Riddance.

    "I'm not your wife!" Juke finally rejoins, "No, thankfully. Nor anyones; nor will you ever be. Who would have you?"
    Uh, dude? That's kinda harsh. Drama begets drama.

  2. #22
    Quote Originally Posted by crags View Post
    Today was judgment day and I had to face the employee from hell in small claims court. A very discouraging experience from the point of hearing so many lies being told about me. We went before a mediator at which time the employee was told that she had no documentable proof of the damages requested and that harassment charges are not heard in small claims court. Despite this, the employee said that it was her word against mine and that she was willing to go before a judge with her claim for $2,600. I had brought my father, as well as two of my present home health aides down as witnesses, both of whom had to take time from their other jobs and lives to be there. Going before the judge would have meant staying in the court until the afternoon, as well as keeping these two witnesses/employees all day in court despite their other obligations.

    When asked if there is anything I would be willing to do I offered $450 to spare spending all day in court and be rid of her. She requested 500 and I accepted. I slapped my hand on the desk and said "deal". I know that irritated her big time. All told, I feel I got off with minimal damage considering her mental instability. She seems to have done this before, but at least I am now free of this person. Everything that I said, she said was a lie, so the mediation was going nowhere. I had good documentation for subjective credibility, but not specific enough for quasi contractual details.

    It truly was a nuisance lawsuit and she basically bought herself some going away money. God help the unsuspecting person that hires her next. I don't feel very good about appeasing her to some degree, but I know she left very angry at not having gotten what she wanted, as well as having to sign the waiving of any future claim.

    I have been employing people for 21 years and one continues to learn. The lessons I learned from this, aside from the psychological ones, that contributed to my somewhat weak position in court or the following:
    1. Have a signed understanding agreement with the employee outlining tasks, days, hours and rate of pay- I did not have this and I would have been better off with one as she was lying about the hours and rate of pay.
    2. Have the employee sign a ledger with the date and amount received-this would have undercut her position when she claimed that I had not paid her for weeks on end, also an untruth.

    Even if an employee is cash and off the books, both of these things are reasonable and anybody who will not agree to these should be considered suspect. Although I can see people who are working off the books not wanting to do it. Trust is the main thing and in the relationship I just had it was lost a long time ago. The cumulative effect was visible for all to see.

    Additionally, one should keep accurate records of all employees in terms of incidents, days off, extra compensation (time/money), difficult conversations, etc.. Do not wait to try and re-create a log of events as one does not know when it will be needed. This may not be needed for all employees to the same degree, but it should be a priority as soon as indications warrant such documentation.

    Hopefully, this will be the end and she will not be dragging me into civil court for allegations of sexual harassment. However, the standard for that case will be much higher and I don't think she will have such a ready supply of lawyers willing to take on her case pro bono, since she has no money to speak of.

    She even brought up the issue of digital simulation during my bowel routine and try to link that somehow to harassment as if I was getting sublime pleasure from such activities.

    Truly sad to witness.
    Excellent advice.
    I think I need to follow this myself!!

    I wonder though since they are being paid off the books if the paper trail wouldn't bite you in the ass anyway?
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  3. #23
    If she wants to go that route, which she may still, yes I will owe back taxes (Soc sec, Mcare) and any possible penalty. But she will owe Soc sec, mcare, Fed, State as well. And she may be scamming fed/state/local assistance by showing no income. This would bust her. Heck, I'd lie about her income just to disqualify her from assistance.

    thank god i got rid of her before she faked a workplace injury and i had no workers comp insurance.

    i've got a long term aide of 16 years on the books with comp and disability coverage. more expensive, but true peace of mind and protection.

    for those of you who own a home, be sure to consider umbrella insurance. considered standard by most, esp w/ home employees.

    I'm waiting for the checks to clear. Even then it will take quite a while before I can get her out of my mind.

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    Juke, your story reminds me of why I'm not living in a group care situation. Don't you have a care consumers council in your group home?

    darkeyed_daisy, your employee code of conduct idea is worth

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    Quote Originally Posted by Van Quad View Post
    Juke, your story reminds me of why I'm not living in a group care situation. Don't you have a care consumers council in your group home?

    darkeyed_daisy, your employee code of conduct idea is worth
    VQ, it's just the two women and me and the situation was misrepresented. There is, however, a "house manager" type lady and after I'd informed her the next day of Elizabeth's antics she came over and took a well invested half hour tearing TS a new one. The upshot (this is two weeks ago now) has been that TS has lost her TV privledges indeffinitely and spends most of her time in her room - leaving Moria and I in relative peace. In a very real sense I'm the new sheriff; when I chaught Elizabeth sneaking some TV time a few days ago I called the house manager and she just added some additional time to TS's restriction time.

    The worm has turmed - and he's packing a TV remote and a cellphone.
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  6. #26
    think it can't happen to you? think again

    the nightmare isn't over, i needed to retain a lawyer as she reported me to the dept of labor as her small claims didn't satiate her desire for retribution. so far termination cost me $1,200.

    who knows where else she'll strike

    i'll fill you all in soon on the details

  7. #27
    I cannot convey to you just how dangerous it is to become involved with a caregiver. I was not involved with my caregiver at all, yet the allegations were made and since there are no witnesses, it is word against word. It may go your way or it may not. If your payment is off the books, you can be hugely exposed to potentially devastating legal remedy. The legal system cannot be predicted and bad things can happen to good people. Even if you are on the books, the potential for exposure is horrendous.

    If you have any assets, be it financial, real estate, or otherwise, you're placing them at extreme risk. These may be the very assets you need to survive on. And there will be no one to blame for losing them except yourself. If you have nothing, then perhaps it is a different story. But even then, the ramifications could be serious.

    What seems like a normal, rational, pleasant, even trusted person can turn out to be quite the opposite. Emotions have the potential to profoundly change people's behavior and they cannot be predicted. What starts out as consensual and trusting in turn out to be vindictive and retributive.

    Caregivers are often the first people we feel comfortable with our bodies and our issues. Combine that with an attractive woman who is an employee and the potential is there for situations whose outcomes can go either way. In our situation, this can be extremely problematic.

  8. #28
    Sorry to hear about this mess. You should hire a lawyer as you don't know what else she is going to do.

  9. #29
    Quote Originally Posted by crags View Post
    If she wants to go that route, which she may still, yes I will owe back taxes (Soc sec, Mcare) and any possible penalty. But she will owe Soc sec, mcare, Fed, State as well. And she may be scamming fed/state/local assistance by showing no income. This would bust her. Heck, I'd lie about her income just to disqualify her from assistance.

    thank god i got rid of her before she faked a workplace injury and i had no workers comp insurance.

    i've got a long term aide of 16 years on the books with comp and disability coverage. more expensive, but true peace of mind and protection.

    for those of you who own a home, be sure to consider umbrella insurance. considered standard by most, esp w/ home employees.

    I'm waiting for the checks to clear. Even then it will take quite a while before I can get her out of my mind.
    If this woman is so vindictive be careful what you write...does she know you go on cc ...you have admitted here you would lie about her...

  10. #30
    very good advice. i've been thinking about this too, the sharing of a legal story.

    it's good to help others avoid my mistakes, yet important to do so without compromising yourself in a needless way.

    thank you.

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