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    Thank you for your posts. Mike is at the detox the time before last. They do have a good bathroom for him. Even though it is the ADA law that these already visited medical facilities have handicap access they ussually don't. He was kicked out of there in May for having a girl in his room.
    We are so grateful they let him back. Then hopefully on to a transitional holding facility before residential placement. We are hoping he gets into The "New Hope" program located in Weymouth, Ma. The campus is only 3 years old and have 5 handicapped rooms. He made it clean for 13 months and relapsed again slowly around
    early Feb. I knew as soon as his personal grooming started to lapse. His personality got mean and his cell phone never stopped ringing when he was home. He drives and that alone causes us anxiety when he is out so late.
    I am praying that he gets stronger. I do have hope because "HE" decided to try again. I need to refuse him to come home this time. We did it before and that's when he got sober. Where he lived North of Boston was a shithole. The owner would only turn on the heat 6 hours a day. Mold and madness for roommates.
    Also when you are on saboxone MOST residentials will Not accept you.

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    prayers for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheAbleChef View Post
    Honestly, if you can find a way move to Canada. The health care system is great and you have a choice to pain killers to choose from plus the posibility of medical marijuana. I used to take Oxy Contin and the likes but now I found the right pain specialist and I'm only on Baclofen as my strongest medication. Good Luck!
    Not to take away from the OP, but if you look up the statistics on Canada's health care system, we won't be getting the free ride for much longer. It's going to break.

    However, to the OP, hang in there. We're pulling for you.


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    Quote Originally Posted by mckeownp View Post
    Thank you for your posts. Mike is at the detox the time before last. They do have a good bathroom for him. Even though it is the ADA law that these already visited medical facilities have handicap access they ussually don't. He was kicked out of there in May for having a girl in his room.
    We are so grateful they let him back. Then hopefully on to a transitional holding facility before residential placement. We are hoping he gets into The "New Hope" program located in Weymouth, Ma. The campus is only 3 years old and have 5 handicapped rooms. He made it clean for 13 months and relapsed again slowly around
    early Feb. I knew as soon as his personal grooming started to lapse. His personality got mean and his cell phone never stopped ringing when he was home. He drives and that alone causes us anxiety when he is out so late.
    I am praying that he gets stronger. I do have hope because "HE" decided to try again. I need to refuse him to come home this time. We did it before and that's when he got sober. Where he lived North of Boston was a shithole. The owner would only turn on the heat 6 hours a day. Mold and madness for roommates.
    Also when you are on saboxone MOST residentials will Not accept you.

    Mike's Mom,

    Glad to hear from you again. Sounds as though Mike has a plan. Good deal.

    Just wanted to pass along that less than ideal physical circumstances (needing to use his own shower chair, his own raised toilet seat, etc.) will not keep Mike from getting clean if it is what he wants. When he is ready, he will to do it. I can promise you he was not concerned about ADA access, toilets and showers when it came to scoring and shooting.

    If he devotes to his recovery what he devoted to getting drugs and staying high, he can get clean and sober. That's up to him.

    Whatever is or is not happening with him, don't forget to take good care of yourself. Eat as healthy a diet as possible and rest when you can. It's okay to have your own life apart from his, to do things you enjoy with friends, with your husband, with other family members.

    Sitting on pins and needles waiting for that phone to ring is unhealthy for you. If he calls and you're not home, he will call again.

    I don't know if you have ever attended Al Anon, but you might take comfort from the other people in those meetings. The meetings are for parents, family members, friends and other loved ones of alcoholics and addicts. It can really help to know you are not alone in what you are experiencing.

    Let us know how you are, okay?

    Best,

    MaryEllen

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie-Bug View Post
    Not to take away from the OP, but if you look up the statistics on Canada's health care system, we won't be getting the free ride for much longer. It's going to break.

    However, to the OP, hang in there. We're pulling for you.
    I hope not. Do you have any links to the statistics? I believe you, I'm just curious. Thanks.
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    I'm so sorry you had to do that. My 17-year-old sister had gone through detox and rehab a year and a half ago and just recently went to my mom and admitted that she had been using again. They sent her back to detox but not rehab again yet. She has to stick with a very strict schedule of seeing a counselor and stuff. I hope this time she makes it without relapsing. Her first time in rehab she was only 16.
    But the worst part about the whole situation is he admitted to my mom that my 21-year-old sister has been using also. Of course she would never come clean and tell us, but my mom pushed her to try to get it out of her, never confronting her about it so that she doesn't turn on her sister. I guess we'll see what happens.
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    My son was accepted into a intensive treatment program 3 days ago. He has been in a transitional holding facility since I last posted. He had to endure portapotty in open view....nonworking shower and his locker broken into. All bad treatment. Horrible. Sinful. He begged to come home we said no. With over 30 days in he would have 2 start process again.
    Through many phone calls & e-mails we finaly got the right person to advocate. Their socialworkers are so overloaded they become ineffective. Do not stop trying if you need help. I know frustration tries to win...don't let it. For strength I prayed and visited this site..over & over.
    Sorry if this sounds bad but I'm glad it was a horrible expierience for him. I told him that he should admit this was his lowest point and he agreed. He stuck with it. On Tue. Mike called to say this new place is "Paradise" and he is grateful to be there. He also said he loves me.

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    That's very good news. Hopefully this is a turning point in his life.

    Good for you for not backing down.

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    What good news! Thanks for the update.

    Keeping you, Mike and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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    I just read this thread and wanted to say that my prayers are with you and your son.

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