Thread: Kate's On Line Journal

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    Quote Originally Posted by kap
    Its weird, I'm happy to have him back but all of a sudden I feel really crowded. I cant seem to sleep well now. Maybe time for a King size???? I guess I got used to sleeping alone ............
    Kelly
    I hear that Kelly ..... at the same time as I am excited about having our family melded once more .... I fear it ... because we have established this routine that in spite of its weirdness is .... our routine ..... we've gone through this many times after some of Bill's extended hospital stays and while we eventually settle in again it isn't always easy ..... on top of which we will go from a house full of women (3 at the moment .... did I mention Julie moved home for a brief while ) to one with a man in it !

    Ah me ..... what a life ..... it will be odd too because in this house we will have seperate bedrooms .... at least for the time being ... because Bill is on a hospital frame which accomodates his low air loss mattress! I have no idea how long that situation will carry on ... although his pressure sores are nearly completely healed I am almost afraid to go back to a regular bed with him because his skin has responded so well to being on that mattress not to mention the edema in his feet ..... I guess we'll just play it by ear for now !! Once you get used to all that room in a bed all to yourself its .... well ..... you know !

    Gad Kap ..... rollercoasters .... I think the one I'm on will do for now ..... but go ..... have fun fun fun ........all that screaming is a good stress reliever !

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    I have this analogy that ppl in a marriage are like 2 pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. You go along, your pieces fit. Something happens, you're apart for a long time, your edges grow. They don't fit anymore. You have to keep squeezing in until they do...sometimes you practically have to chisel the damn things off!

    The worst, for us, was when my husband worked in KS for a yr. Kids and I were in TX. A close 2nd was when he worked in OK for 6 months, kids and I (fresh out of rehab) still in TX.

    Aaarrgghhh. Tight fit. The bed, the remote control, the stupid toothpaste lid, the child-rearing...The human species seems to want to grow their edges, like do things THEIR way.

    Luckily I'm totally malleable. My husband is truly blessed.


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    Quote Originally Posted by betheny
    I have this analogy that ppl in a marriage are like 2 pieces of a jigsaw puzzle. You go along, your pieces fit. Something happens, you're apart for a long time, your edges grow. They don't fit anymore. You have to keep squeezing in until they do...sometimes you practically have to chisel the damn things off!
    Damn your funny Beth ..... that's exactly right and your analogy is perfect!
    Bill used to work away from home alot when the kids were small pipelining and driving heavy equipment ...... it feels almost the same except now I'm older and crankier and of course there's that little guilt problem I'm still workin' on !

    I know what I need ..... I need the pipe .... haven't seen that thing around here in ages (I think Deb has been bogarting it ) .... maybe a little Enya to go with ..... {{{{ducks for cover}}}}}}}}

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    Wait .... you can't bogart a pipe ...... either way she's got it ... I just know she's got it ... probably sharing it with her new book club friends ... hiding under that rock !

    Obieone
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    love the analogy Betheny! Its so true. Although I think my back end of the puzzle piece has grown the most.

    We did the rollercoasters yesterday and it was a blast. Mya went on her very first "Big" rollercoaster. None of that kid stuff. At first, I was really worried about her. As we climbed the first drop her eyes popping out of her head I was thinking uh oh, this is too soon. Throughout the entire ride her eyes didn't blink once, I swear, and of course the good mom I was, I laughed at her the whole time. But as we got off she asked if we could go again, thats my girl!

    We had a great time and made it through the park in record time. It helped that it was raining off and on, scared away all the non-diehards. Hopefully we'll get to go back for Halloween.

    Have a great weekend all!
    Kelly

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    Quote Originally Posted by betheny

    Luckily I'm totally malleable. My husband is truly blessed.


    And I sincerely hope he knows it.

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    Egads ..... the renos are complete he's moving back ..... do you detect a note of trepidation ? Ah well we'll chip away at the grooves of those puzzle pieces and make 'em fit yet again ...... I know Bill is excited ... it's his birthday this Sat. too so we'll have a real celebration. Managing two households has been exhausting and having his Mom so involved in our private lives has been difficult so I'll be glad to get back to our oddball way of life and not having to explain to anyone why or how we do something. Privacy is a precious thing !

    And since I'm doing an update I'll mention my eldest daughter is once again registered in University ..... I'm happy for her she's made a decision and happy to have my house back ( both from the carpentars and her unmentionables ) ... although its been a little cramped her younger sis has enjoyed having her home allowing her to do some grown up sorts of things and it freed me up to tend to everything that's being going on around here.

    Life sure is funny .... not ..... one minute everything feels like it's upside down and the next the pieces seem to just fall into place ..... I think I'll just savour the moment .. ..cause as we all know the sh*t can hit the fan when we least expect it!

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    Yeah, obi I'm so happy for you. Happy that Bill is moving out of mom's house and back with you and happy that you survived the renos. Sometimes just trying to live with workers invading your home is the hardest part. We have so many things in our house that need to get done but I keep overlooking them b/c I hate having my house torn apart and workers disrupting my schedule. (I'm a little bit of a control freak over my house ) Its just not fun.

    Hopefully, now you all can enjoy the last part of summer in peace and comfort of the newly renoed home! Enjoy!

    Kelly

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    Tsk Tsk, the way you ladies talk about us behind our wheelchair backs.I am actually Mr mom here, was for 12 yrs b4 my surgery gone wrong. I was on disability due to yrs of lupus, and did it all-ceptn' windows, hate windows. My wifes co workers are all jealous, she has dinner ready when she gets home. I even fixed dinner first full day outta rehab. So it works both ways sometimes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fishin'guy
    My wifes co workers are all jealous, she has dinner ready when she gets home. I even fixed dinner first full day outta rehab. So it works both ways sometimes.
    That is very true ... it does.....Bill makes the best meatballs on the planet and his ribs on the barbecue ... yummy ..... well ... not HIS actual ribs ..... its in his secret sauce !!

    Bill and I will be married 31 years this fall ..... it'll be nice to have him back to finish my sentences again ! Our animals will be happy too .... Shady our dog is a rotti/shepherd cross pound puppy we rescued about 6 years ago and Bill has her almost trained as a service dog ..... if he could just figure out how to get that nose of hers under control .... when she goes with him on his scooter ... if she gets sniffing something .. she's out of control until she's sniffed out!!

    I was wondering .... do any of you old timer CC caregivers ever her from Martha??? .... I think of her now and again ..... I know her need to be here is over but I still wonder about how she is doing ...... or Melissa (Kendall) ..... I remember her partner Debbie was facing some serious health challenges including a possible amputation .... I pray things are alright !!

    Hope everyone is enjoying a few lazy summer days and remember .... don't forget to wear sunscreen ...... http://www.davidpbrown.co.uk/poetry/mary-schmich.html ..........

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