Thread: Kate's On Line Journal

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    Soooo how's everyone doin' ?? Whoville has been awful quiet lately ... but then maybe everyone is outdoors enjoying SpringalmostSummer ! Only a few days until the Summer Solstice .... anyone do anything hedonistic sans ritualistic to celebrate? I have a telescope I like to get out and star gaze in the summer .... always helps me puts my life in perspective in case I've gotten off track .... kind of a tonic for the soul!

    Our renos are nearing completion I'm happy to report. Because we received a gov't grant to do the work we had a visit from an inspector today to make sure everything is up to code .... other than a few minor details it went pretty well ! So if all goes well with the flooring we should be a family again about the middle of July ... ..... ..... .... lots of mixed emotions of course .... another period of readjustment ... but .... been there done that ... and lived to tell the tale ... so I suspect it will be done once more.

    It's graduation time once again in our little town and I overhear people making plans and bustling around buying gowns and renting tux's .... its a pretty major event in a small community like ours so almost everyone gets involved in one way or another. I usually go to the hall on grad night to watch the kids do "the Grand March" .... its a kind of ritual where the grad and their escorts are presented to the audience amidst the strains of some appropriately sentimental song playing in the background .... the hall is decorated to the nine's .... transformed into a fairy land of tulle and sparkly lights and everyone gets teary eyed and nostalgic .... I love it and look forward to it every year ....

    I do hope everyone is doing well out there in CC land .... I hope you are all taking some time to enjoy the warmer weather and slower pace of this time of year .... well .... I suppose slower is a relative term now .... isn't it ???

    Be nice to hear how ya'll is doin .....

    Obieone
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    Obe's,
    Happy Solstice to you! Our book club, "The Naked Virgins (yeah, right!) of the Summer" will be meeting for our special solstice meeting on Tuesday which includes copious amounts of wine, a dish brought by everyone to share, and dancing in the moonlight. The book selection for this month is " Eat Pray Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert, an excellent book that we saved for this special meeting. My guess is there will be a ton of pasta, gelato, curry and surprise....wine! This book club has been a godsend for me, I mean what could be better than literary pursuits, friends and wine? It's my night out every month and I have even scored a scrabble buddy which is so cool. The friends have been great, we manage to get in extra-curricular activities as able, cocktails, walks, tea parties and support for each other.
    Jim is doing well, finally getting some serious sun after a long, snowy winter (over 100 inches). It can't be possible that it has been 8 years since his accident! Holy Schmoley! How our lives have changed! I am lucky to have the most positive, encouraging brother known to man and hope we can continue to work well together indefinitely.
    We also have continued to cross off several more contruction projects off our list and reap the rewards. Debra

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    Warmer, you say?

    That's a relative term . . . here in the great forests we're still kinda waiting for the summer to show up. When Heather graduated a week or so ago it was still so chilly we were wearing North face jackets and pants.

    Our happiest moment was in my goofy liberal church. Here's the deal: when Bruce and i were going to get married, like 25 years ago, we were thinking maybe it would be nice to do it in a church--you know, as an alternative to outdoors or at the courthouse or something.

    We went downtown to a congregational church because he'd grown up in one, and the very last thing on my mind was to --gasp!-- join the thing. Never wanted to be one of them, eh?

    So they happened to be having a service that involved the teenagers in the congregation running things . . . and I could see that those kids were just cherished by their community--like, in a way that I had never seen a group of adults radiating warmth and happiness and good vibes at a group of kids. Especially kids who were clearly not their own. (Obi, your lovely graduation story reminded me of this.)

    Anyway, the whole thing just shook me, and I remember thinking, wow, if I'm ever lucky enough to have some kids, I want them to be loved like that.

    So, a week ago last Sunday, there I was watching my youngest stand up with the rest of the seniors. We have in our church a gang of very aggressive quilters who call themselves the Piecemakers; every year they make a queen-sized quilt for each senior kid, which is during the worship service publicly wrapped around that kid. This year there were 15 seniors, and they'd been led to believe that it was just too much for the ladies to make all those quilts. They thought (very bitterly!) that they might be getting pillows or something instead.

    It was quilts.

    Heather's quilt (each one is different) is made from little scraps of everyone else's, in a stair-step pattern repeated dozens of times . . . she's the one who touches everyone, whom everyone wants to touch. A junior girl came up from behind her and wrapped it around her and hugged her tight.

    She is of course known to almost everyone there as the little girl whose dad broke his neck while they were skiing at Alpental together. She is the girl who needed so much from this community, and got it, again and again.

    So it was full circle for me. My own daughter, raised up inside a strong warm place, knowing she was not alone. Exactly what I knew I wanted all those years ago, only I didn't know how it would feel to live into it and through it.

    Hey . . . I've been reading some great little blogs lately. You should check out http://www.37days.typepad.com/

    It's pretty much amazing.

    Here's the girl and her dad . . .

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    Yikes I looked at the preview of that and couldn't tell that he is disabled. Have I mentioned that he's a ridiculously tough and centered person? Lucky me.

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    Kate;

    Such a beautiful photo of Bruce and Heather!

    John

    PS: We are busy but will be in touch.
    "Hope is like a road in the country; there was never a road, but when many people walk on it, the road comes into existence." Lin Yutang

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    Quilts... what an absolutely lovely idea .... I just might borrow it if you don't mind ... we have quilters here on the prairies of course but they make quilts to be auctioned in order to raise money for our church camp or our rec centre .... little does your daughter and her friends know how the value of those quilts will increase daily throughout the rest of their lives giving them a soft place to fall ..... over and over again .....

    I love pics of daughters and their Dad's .... they're special in way I can't quite describe .... congrats to Heather and to Mom and Dad ..... Lichiam {clink} ......

    Obieone
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    " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
    Jane Siberry

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    here it is, w/the girl in it


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    amazing story, beautiful quilt.
    Every day I wake up is a good one

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    Hello from IL

    Hi All,

    I'm so excited to see everyone posting here again. I check in about once a week but haven't been doing much posting. Just trying to enjoy life again.

    Here's what's happening with us.

    The elevator goes in the dining room this coming Tuesday. I have gotten over the semi loss of the dining area and have moved on. So now we, ahem I, just need to move some furniture around.

    We broke down and bought a minivan. Its so hard to move into that Soccer mom/dad mode but we needed the room and they are so convenient. Its so nice that Rob doesn't have to break apart his chair every time he gets in and out. Rob's motorcycle and our pop up camper (that we bought two days b/4 Rob's injury) went up for sale. The camper sold immediately and it was hard to see it go. All the trips that we had planned seemed to pull right out of our driveway.

    Speaking of trips, we finally went on our Disney World trip in early May. It was a blast and talk about a great place to have our first post-injury trip. Everyone was helpful and assisted us with everything we needed. Most times we didn't have to request anything special - they took care of everything and always with a smile. The girls had a blast! Although they were more interested with the pool then the parks. My hours and hours of planning which rides to go on at what time went right out of the window the first day. I stopped fighting them when my Mackenzie (5) asked, "If we go on this ride with you, can we go to the pool after?" As if they were doing me a favor?
    Okay, maybe they were . But we all enjoyed ourselves, even when Mickey tipped Rob out of his chair backwards. OOPS!! Rob will never forget that day with Mickey. LOL!

    Here's some pics if I can figure this out.






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    Beautiful kids!

    And mom, of course.

    Know what you mean about watching things drive away . . . the future turns into a foreign country, okay, I can deal with it. My spouse turns into another version of himself, fine, I can be with that. My kids are in a wrenching process of getting on with their lives, fine . . . conceptually it's all good. I'm a grownup.

    But those little markers -- the relentless small letting-go moments don't really get easier to bear. I still want to see him ride that 10-speed, again, dammit. I don't want to sell it. I don't want to give up on the hope that he will get it all back, and soon.

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