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    Loosing son to DHS

    My son's mother was turned into DHS in July for use of narcotics, pills. I have had no idea about what has been going on. She called this morning and spoke with my mom and told her what had been going and that I needed to be in court Sep. 3rd. I have no idea what I am going to do. I have another son that went to foster care when his mother went to prison and I haven't seen him in nearly a year, I'm not on the birth certificate so I have no visitation rights. I don't talk about it much because it's been a bad ordeal and I can't imagine loosing Avery too. I'va contacted the case worker and got his voicemail. I feel like i'm just going in circles talking about this because I really don't know what to do.

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    Do you have any visitation or custody rights now? There is often a Guardiam in Litem-appointed by the court to find the best home life for the child. I don't know a lot about this-sorry. Just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and I hope that Avery can stay with you.

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    Yes I have visitation rights, probaly wouldn't have a hard time getting custody. The thing is my living situation, my mom doesn't want to raise my son(not in a bad way but she is very busy). He'll be 4 in Oct. and I think once he's alittle older it wouldn't be a big deal, but alot have changes will have to be made and I'm not sure if she's willing to commit to it right now. Ahhhh....
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    Your mom doesn't have to raise him. YOU do. I'm not gonna say much b/c I'm afraid I'll sound judgmental and I don't want to be. But you are a grown man. You can raise your son. I don't blame your mom at all, but I think you and the lawyer you find in 10 minutes from now better step up to the plate.

    Let me know if I can help in anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by betheny
    Your mom doesn't have to raise him. YOU do. I'm not gonna say much b/c I'm afraid I'll sound judgmental and I don't want to be. But you are a grown man. You can raise your son. I don't blame your mom at all, but I think you and the lawyer you find in 10 minutes from now better step up to the plate.

    Let me know if I can help in anyway.
    I'm aware of what I am capable of Betheny and at this stage I can't completely take care of him. Yes, there are alot of things I do right now during our weekends that I can do on a daily basis, but I would not be able to 100% fulfill the needs of a small child. Don't worry about being judgemental, call it how you see it.
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    I understand your fear of not being capable of caring for a young boy alone. I have the same fear when I am left alone with my young grandsons, and I only do it for an hour or two, a few times a year.

    Is your son already in the hands of DHS?
    If he gets taken from his mommy and you, will you still have visitation?

    You seem to be a caring man. That picture in your profile of you and your boy is stunning! Are you still in school?

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    No, he is not out of her custody. It's weird, she can only be around the kids when she is supervised by her fiancee. Court is Sep. 3rd. I can't imagine him being taken, my mom and I are going to discuss this more once we have talked to the lawyer and the case worker.

    I am still in school, started last week. 16 hrs.
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    are you sure you can't care for him? 4 yr olds are very helpful. mine was 4 when he first helped me out of a hotel bed where we were snowed in. i bet you'd find you could handle him just fine.

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