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    Angry Brother's g/f rant........................

    Ok, so here is a rant because I can't yell at the person I want to right now. So if you don't know, my brothers g/f stayed with us for a week. She is also a very manipulative person. Anyway, the whole family was invited to her graduation party from high school. I was not going to go for numerous reasons but went for my brother. You know the whole he's my brother and he likes her bs. So I waste almost a half a tank of gas driving to her dad's house and back. I was there for a good three hours. Her dad's house was not accessible so I had to sit out in the sun the whole three hours. None of her dad's friends even came over to introduce themselves. I would have gone and said hi but the patio was not big enough to manuver and not know things over. So for three hours I stayed in the corner of the patio. The only people that I knew at the party was my bro, his g/f, my parents, and my other little brother. My parents went off somewhere to talk to other people, my bro and his g/f left the party totally for about two hours. Me and my other brother were just sitting there looking at each other. Anyway, this was about four weeks ago. I find out tonight that the next day the g/f calls and wants to know why I was so rude. EXCUSSE ME? I said good bye when I was leaving I said congrats even though I didn't mean it. How am I rude for leaving a party that I was miserable at for many reasons? I want to say something to her but I don't want to sink to her level. However, I think I should let her know that I am very disappointed that she would even suggest that I was the one who was being rude when she knew I wouldn't know anyone, wouldn't be able to manuver to even get in the house, etc. And what really ticks me off is the fact that she has asked me to do crap for her since then. I just want to smack her upside the head a few dozen times and shake some reality into her.

    Ok, I think I'm done. No replies needed...................................

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    Wow Becky you've got a temper girl! It can work for you or against you.

    I find with family things, they're never going to understand, so I just smile and play nice until it's time to go home - even when it's not accessible which would happen a lot. After I moved out of the family home, I put 'my foot down' and announced I wouldn't be attending anywhere which wasn't accessible. I've pretty much stuck to that with the exception of my sister who bought a new home a couple of years ago (her former home had a ramp and bathroom).

    Things were so much better after I moved out on my own - started with friends - one male and one female. It's too bad you can't get a gaggle of friends (male/female) together to rent a place together. Something to get out of that house.

    I hope I didn't annoy you by replying.
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    No of course you didn't annoy me by replying. I just wanted to make sure people who really didn't want to reply didn't feel that they needed to.

    As for my temper, yes I can have one. I don't like to show it though. I usually keep it in check. However, this girl really rubs me the wrong way if you can't tell, lol. I did refrain from any profanity though. That should count for something. I wouldn't be so pissed if she had said something to me instead of my 15yr old brother. I mean, what is he going to do about it?

    I know once I move out it will be so much easier to say no to things. I just felt that I should go more for my brother obviously. But he didn't even seem appreciative that I spent the gas money and time when I could have been doing something else.

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    I think we all have experiences of social hell......being stuck in a corner, not able to move or socialise well. Did your brother tell you that she thought you were being rude, if so its kinda poor form on his part as it serves no purpose other than to upset you.

    I would say she has probably picked up on your vibes of dislike of her....just hope she doesnt become your sister in law!

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    Families need to be more understanding of what crap the wheelchair user goes thru on a daily basis and cut you all a little slack! My daughter just graduated high school and told her brother that he did not need to attend the ceremony because she knew what a hassle it was going to be: hot, boring and long! My son wanted to go anyway and he did and it was a huge hassle but he was glad he went. We always give him an "out" if he wants it.

    Becky, your bother's gf is immature and needs to be head slapped! I would be more disappointed in your brother for not having your back.

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    Geeze, what the hell did she want you to do? I have been in similar situations, sitting in a corner of an inaccessible space and counting the moments till I think I can leave without it being too obvious that I am chomping at the bit to get the hell out of there. Yeah, a smack on the side of the head for the g/f sounds about right to me.

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    Becky they're both very young, just let it go over your head they'll split up before you know it.

    ..........and yes it does stink when you get sidelined at a party because you can't move but it could have been worse her boring, lecherous old uncle could have sat next to you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timaru
    Becky they're both very young, just let it go over your head they'll split up before you know it.

    ..........and yes it does stink when you get sidelined at a party because you can't move but it could have been worse her boring, lecherous old uncle could have sat next to you!
    LOL, very true!!!!! I don't really care that I was stuck at the party. I am more annoyed about the fact that she thought I was rude for leaving after a sufficient amount of time. I wish they would break up. They have been together for over three years. God, I hope he doesn't marry her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Becky,
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    since 1/3/04

    I am the best at being me. No matter how that happens to be!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timaru
    but it could have been worse her boring, lecherous old uncle could have sat next to you!
    ...are you speaking from experience?
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    Quote Originally Posted by RehabRhino
    ...are you speaking from experience?
    ............moi?

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