Sorry for the delayed response. I was paralyzed (C7) in an MVA in Charlottesville in 1986. I was 17. I am sorry to say that the first year are two are by far the worst. I had a great network of support. It is hell on earth coping with it, but it does get less difficult.
I am in avery different place with SCI than your son is. He has more time where he could see some return. Keep looking for treatment. In my opinion, exercise-therapy is the only thing worth paying for now. As far currenty, I just exercise moderately the muscle I still do have - more so for generally health than for recovery.
I would tell him even without more recovery he can have a great life. I have a graduate degree, a successful career, 3 kids fantastic kids, and a superwomen as my wife. He is not a a place to entertain such a vision - with a wheelchair as part of it. And that's how it should be. Keep fighting the fight and good luck.
Hey Quadfather..I see you are from Richmond VA. I also live in the RIC area, Midlothian. My son is 15 yrs old and a T4, 6 months post. We are just learning about local organizations and services. Trying to get him involved at Sportable and have jioned SCIAVA. Any good suggestions for a newbie? Do you do thereapy locally?