Unbelievable....

[JJmagna]

So I work midnights at a 911 dispatch center by my house now and it was about 1:30am. My cell phone barely rings that late but it does and it was my Dad who told me he had to take my Mom to the ER with severe stomach pains. I guess after some tests that were done they figured it out and its her pancreas (sp?). This is really starting to get comical with all the crap that is happening to my family. So I guess they are keeping her over night as of right now to finish up some tests. Im not the most church going person but I so go as much as I can. With the mood im in right now I really dont want to go into another church. I always hear God never gives you more then you can handle and that is a bunch of junk!!!! I feel like we are getting the short end of the stick here. How else should I feel between my Dads medical issue and now my Moms. WTF!!!!!!! What the hell did my family ever due to deserve this??? For the few of you that know me here I very rarely snap but this has driven me over the edge. I know I am an emotionally strong person with all I have been through but with all of this now it has to give sometime. This is getting to the point to where I cant be that strong person. How can I be that strong person for both my parents now? Its not possible!! Alright I need to get back to work.

JJ

[lynnifer]

(((JJ))) Glad to hear about the job, how long have you been doing that? - yet another shift worker yay!

When I was 8, my mother was hospitalized with breast cancer. I always had trouble with asthma as a kid and was in/out of emergency. My dad's hip bone became worn and he needed an operation. Then I became paralyzed at 12 with TM. Shortly after that, my dad finally got his operation (hip replacement) only to break it falling out of a tree a mere two months later (damn farmers don't know when to quit). Bed ridden for six weeks. I developed a serious pressure sore on my rump at age 15. Then my mother's diabetes went whacko and she lost some toes, then half a foot, then her leg below the knee. I moved out at 18. She died when I was 23.

So yes, sometimes we get bombarded!

I hope things stablize for you soon.

[november]

I called 911...you didn't answer. :(:confused::(

Hope things get better with your family.
Be strong for them both. Don't know how, just do it.

[Wise Young]

JJmagna, I admire you and tried to think of something to say that may help. I hope that the following helps. Some people are just lucky and many don't know how lucky they are. Several years ago, my brother died of cancer. Yesterday, my best friend died of cancer. When Dana Reeve died of lung cancer, I felt that it was the definition of unfairness. I am sure that there are some people who have asked how God could have allowed this to happen. The worst feeling is the sense of helplessness, that there is nothing you can do to change these horribly unfair events. I am not particularly religious but I have found the following useful. First, I don't blame God when bad things happen. To put it bluntly, shit happens. Second, good things do happen. They happen because of good people. We are blessed when we can do good and can prevent evil. Third, it is up to us to make the world better, not God. If we can but do not make the world better, the shame is on us. We must keep doing what we think is good.

Wise.





So I work midnights at a 911 dispatch center by my house now and it was about 1:30am. My cell phone barely rings that late but it does and it was my Dad who told me he had to take my Mom to the ER with severe stomach pains. I guess after some tests that were done they figured it out and its her pancreas (sp?). This is really starting to get comical with all the crap that is happening to my family. So I guess they are keeping her over night as of right now to finish up some tests. Im not the most church going person but I so go as much as I can. With the mood im in right now I really dont want to go into another church. I always hear God never gives you more then you can handle and that is a bunch of junk!!!! I feel like we are getting the short end of the stick here. How else should I feel between my Dads medical issue and now my Moms. WTF!!!!!!! What the hell did my family ever due to deserve this??? For the few of you that know me here I very rarely snap but this has driven me over the edge. I know I am an emotionally strong person with all I have been through but with all of this now it has to give sometime. This is getting to the point to where I cant be that strong person. How can I be that strong person for both my parents now? Its not possible!! Alright I need to get back to work.

JJ

[Timaru]

Hi JJ - It sounds as if your world is crumbing around you and I bet it feels that way to.

As a wiser man than me said "shit happens"!

I can't comment on the religious aspect being a fence sitter but I do believe that human beings have a wonderful ability to cope and SCI victims probably cope better than most.

You will be OK, you will manage and you will be there for your parents, because you have to be, you will amaze yourself.

I wish you all the luck going, Jon.

[rfbdorf]

Wise summarized it very well. Our family has been hit by SCI, colon/breast cancer, schizophrenia, stroke. You just gotta keep moving through it all and do your best. It may not help a lot to know it, but there are a lot of us in equivalent situations.
Best wishes and keep strong
- Richard

[betheny]

It's not fair, and there ain't no justice. We've all heard all the sayings...That which does not kill us makes us stronger, God won't give you more than you can deal with, blahblahblah. I don't know about all that. I know when I'm breaking, if I pray really hard the next day seems better. Like nothing's changed except inside me, I have more strength.

You CAN be the strong one, because you have to, so you'll just put your head down and do it. It's as simple, and as hard, as that. Your parents did it for you and you'll do the same for them. You're young to have to deal with all this, usually that all comes later in life.

If your mom has pancreatitis, she'll probably be okay in a few days. Maybe weak, byt okay. One of my best friends gets it when he doesn't take care of himself. It's really painful.

One of the worst things I ever saw was back in the 80's, this family had hemophilia in their genetics. They all got AIDS from the medicine, which is made of blood products. I saw the Dad on the news...just looking shellshocked, had lost 4 or 5 kids over the past few years. It wasn't fair. I wish I knew why things go this way.

Be strong. Exercise, sleep, eat right, pray if you can, know God understands if you can't. At least I reckon he does. Just do what you can to keep yourself strong. I'll be thinking of you, for whatever that's worth...

Wise, I'm so sorry about your friend.

[zillazangel]

I'm so sorry about your loss Wise. And to the hard times with your family to the original poster.

[darkeyed_daisy]

JJ
I have sent you an IM on your yahoo......

Just know that I feel your pain and can understand what you are going through. My daughters best friend who was 16 at the time was diagnosed with non hodkins lymphoma stage 4. After my fathers death, my daughter went through some really wierd emotions. When her friend was diagnosed last October...(I will tell you the story some time) She went through an angry/violent episode. I had to send her for cancer because she was just overwhelmed with everything that had happened in the prior two years. What you are feeling is natural.

Her friend is still fighting and hopefully will be in remission in a few months. She said on TV last night, because she was nominated for homecoming queen, that what keeps her going is her support from her school, her family, and the outpouring love from our small community.

Just dont forget JJ that your friends and family are there to help you and you mom and lean on them when you need to. Encourage your mom to take care of herself and eat right. Let others step in and help and dont be afraid to realize that sometimes you are just overwelmed. As always I will listen if you need....((((((hugs)))))))

[teena]

JJ...

I just wrote you on yahoo IM...

I'm gonna either show up as heartscriber or scriberheart...that's me, Teena

let me know if you want to talk....i'm here and i care.

(((JJ)))

Take care, Friend!

Teena