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MattGimpin
05-18-2006, 05:42 AM
It was about this time in the early morning, May 18, 2003 when I became inducted into the Cripple Club. We had just returned to a friend of a friend's apartment after going out drinking in celebration of the friend's graduation from Colorado State University in Fort Collins.

I remember trying to fall asleep on the floor but I couldn't so I walked outside to the balcony to smoke a cigarette and call my girlfriend and let her know I had made it home safe. I was so careful that night- I made sure we had a DD, I had a place to stay the night, we were with people I trusted.

The next thing I knew I was lying face down on the grass, three stories below, unable to move. I didn't know where I was or how I got there. I didn't know how long I had been there. I couldn't figure out why my legs wouldn't work. I guess some people know instantly when they're paralyzed but that thought didn't cross my mind until I was placed on the stretcher.

All I knew is I was alone in the dark and I couldn't get up. I remember being able to move my arms a little and I tried to push myself up, like a push-up. That didn't work so I yelled for help. I thought I was just too drunk to get up and needed a hand. Someone would come up to me, help me up, and help me walk back to bed, I thought. There were some college kids out on another balcony across the way but they just laughed at me. I told them I couldn't get up and I needed help but they just laughed and hollered and didn't move. I felt completely humiliated and helpless, like someone waiting for the guillotine in medieval Europe. I wanted to break free from the chains and kill them.

Finally, a middle-aged lady in the first floor apartment I was lying next to heard me and came outside. I told her I couldn't get up and needed help. She told me to stay still and hollered to her husband to call an ambulance. She stayed by me until the paramedics came, all the while assuring me everything would be okay.

The paramedics came and it was anything but pleasant. They asked me what happened, I told them I was staying on the third floor and went outside and that's the last thing I remembered. To this day I don't remember how or why I fell. The last thing I remember is being on the balcony looking at the stars.

The paramedics thought I was trying to rob the place and asked me all kinds of questions about what I was doing there, as they stabilized my head and neck. I remember being so frustrated, scared and confused. They must have asked me 15 times if I was on drugs until the point where I just lost it and started yelling/crying.

Once I was on the stretcher with my head stabilized, I knew the situation was grave. I didn't know if I was going to live or die. The thought of being in a wheelchair ran through my mind. I got so scared and all I could think of was my girlfriend, who was living in California. (Still is, and why I am now in CA). I wondered if I did end up in a wheelchair if she would still love me.

I still remember how hard that stretcher felt to the back of my head. I remember asking for a pillow and a glass of water 100 times. I didn't understand why I couldn't have either. The combination of the paramedics' rude manner toward me plus complete discomfort plus drunk and scared Matt was not pretty at all.

The 35-foot fall completely shattered my right femur, and broke C1 and C6 in my neck. I remember feeling lucky to be alive and sure that I would recover in no time. The doctors were amazed that I lived and said that most people who fall from that distance suffer organ failure and die.

I am not sure how I feel at this moment. When I think back to that night it makes me sad. There are a lot of unanswered questions about what happened on that balcony that I will probably never know. I guess my mind has just blocked out the event completely.

I can't believe I have lived with this for three years. I remember thinking how it would have been so much easier if I had died. I remember thinking when I got home from the hospital that if I wasn't 'normal' again by the time I was 25 I would end it all. "Alive at 25."

So, I turn 25 next month and to be honest, I am much more upset about that than this anniversary. I feel like a failure, like I haven't accomplished anything in my life. I guess there's still time.

lynnifer
05-18-2006, 06:16 AM
So, I turn 25 next month and to be honest, I am much more upset about that than this anniversary. I feel like a failure, like I haven't accomplished anything in my life. I guess there's still time.

lol (I only laugh because it brings back memories) ... I think that's natural for 25-yr-olds in this day and age. I didn't start my *full time* job until I was 26 ... didn't buy my first brand new car until 32 ... first mortgage at 33 (just last year!). I remember feeling bad at that age because all my friends were married and already having children.

I didn't know this at age 25 but I understood it around age 31 ... I have accomplished things in my life that I am proud of. I'm certain if you stop and think about it (and it didn't happen overnight for me) that you'll come to that realization too. If you don't think you can - then start setting goals. Attain them. It's all about getting older and wiser, isn't it.

Hang in there! Sorry about the 3yr anniversary into 'crippledom' ... but hey look at it this way ... you may realize a cure one day when many of us won't!

As I sit here typing this at work - close to the end of my last midnight shift - I can't get that damn song by Monty Python out of my head ... "All-ways louke on tha briiiight sye-eyed of liife da doo da doo da doo doo doo doo doot." Sorry I get freaky when I'm tired. lol Have a good day Matt.

MattGimpin
05-18-2006, 08:41 AM
Thanks Lynnifer, you made me feel better. I do have goals and hope to knock them out here soon.

I have to ask, what did you mean by this statement?

but hey look at it this way ... you may realize a cure one day when many of us won't!

lynnifer
05-18-2006, 11:51 AM
You're only 3 years paralyzed. I'm 21 years.

I'll be too old and far too damaged for any sort of therapy that comes along ... but with only 3 years in, you shouldn't be. Kapeesh?

john smith
05-18-2006, 12:12 PM
Matt;

Thanks for posting your story.

John

2jazzyjeff
05-18-2006, 01:49 PM
thanks for sharing Matt.. :) i just passed 3 years in Oct., but i look at it as 3 years of still being alive and fighting this damning thing. hang in there buddy..

when i had my accident, i saw the guardrail coming on my motorcycle, but only briefly.. i blacked out for a cpl. of days, but i was conscious with no awareness.. i am blank on a cpl. of days which sucks, but i think my brain shut me off to alleviate the excruciating pain.....? when i came to, my family and g/f were there and i knew that i was screwed.. i didn't have to ask many questions right away.. being intibated paralyzed my vocal cords and i lost my voice for 30 days...

as lynnifer said, set goals and go get 'em.. stay positive and if possible, visit a SCI center and talk to newly injured patients and encourage.. this is so therapeudic both ways...

glad you're still here.. :D

paramoto
05-18-2006, 01:56 PM
You are blessed to be alive. Are you complete or incomplete? Have you had any recovery? 25, you are so young and so much is happening with science that hopefully soon we will hear some good news. We have to fight this thing day by day, we have to try like hell for this thing not to beat us, as tough as it may be. Best of luck and get back to us on your birthday.

I'll be 3 years Sept. 21. I knew from moment one that I was paralyzed. I also wanted water desperately, I thought I would die.

lurch
05-18-2006, 10:24 PM
I will be three years in june.
I am currently up to my neck in my legal matters relating to the motorbike that brought me to these forums.
Sometimes I feel that I am not achieving enough in my life,but sometimes I think that simply learning how live from day to day without going bonkers is an achievment in itself.
All we should feel obligated to do is survive and ultimately outlive this affliction.

teena
05-18-2006, 10:29 PM
Matt,

I haven't talked to you that much in chat, but I do know one thing...you are NO failure! ;)

I hope today has been better than you thought.

You're in my prayers tonite.

Take care, God bless!

Teena

PS--GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, SCI!

MattGimpin
05-18-2006, 11:52 PM
Thanks everyone for the support. :) I'm sorry for making that sound so depressing. I am happy with life I have just been struggling lately and confused. I guess I am just anxious for the next step.

RehabRhino
05-19-2006, 03:59 AM
Thanks everyone for the support. :) I'm sorry for making that sound so depressing. I am happy with life I have just been struggling lately and confused. I guess I am just anxious for the next step.

Matt...it's understandable. My bout of being in a dark place came when I felt i'd plateaued, wasn't moving forward. You're in college preparing for your future, you are achieving things.

I don't remember ANY part of my accident. One minute going for a walk, next waking up in ICU full of tubes.

MattGimpin
05-20-2006, 05:28 AM
I don't remember ANY part of my accident. One minute going for a walk, next waking up in ICU full of tubes.

What happened to you? Or do you not even know?

Damn man! Do you think it is better not remembering or would you like to remember everything vividly?

RehabRhino
05-20-2006, 05:40 AM
What happened to you? Or do you not even know?

Damn man! Do you think it is better not remembering or would you like to remember everything vividly?

Drank too much. Dived into shallow water. Fucked my life.

Would prefer to remember I think

Broknwing
05-20-2006, 05:48 AM
What happened to you? Or do you not even know?

Damn man! Do you think it is better not remembering or would you like to remember everything vividly?

Matt-
I know you were asking Rhino directly here....but if I can input my .02....

I don't remember anything from somtime about 5 minutes before my accident...I fell 25' from a stage ladder onto the concrete stage wing....I do not know conclusively what caused me to fall, all I know is that I had a gash across the top of my head, screamed(which alerted the other people on/around stage who were working) and was unconcious as I was falling, yet concious after I hit the ground. What I can conclude is that I hit my head on "something" while I was climbing the ladder, causing the gash, knocking me out and causing my fall...

I personally am glad that I don't remember everything that happened, all the trauma, pain, fear, fighting(I was apparently pretty vocal & violent with the friends/co-workers who were trying to keep me still), surgeries(6), ICU, etc...BUT I still wish that I KNEW what happened, what CAUSED me to fall. Sometimes it really bothers me not knowing what the cause was.

van damn
05-20-2006, 08:20 AM
Matt, thanks for your story.It willbe 10 years in january.I remeber everything about my accident.After winning my match my oppenent was supose leave the ring.Well, he came back and hit me. So i had to react because we were in front of a live audience.Anyway he piledrove me into the mat but i was expecting a powerbomb. As i hit the mat i went limb. Lay on the mat with all the people around the ring was horrible.So don'tt give up we are here to help eachother.