View Full Version : Can you make yourself be happy?
Why don't we decide to be happy or is it can't? Can you be content or are some destined to be miserable by their own volition?
Shaun
09-16-2005, 05:30 PM
Im just a naturally happy person myself...I wake up happy,eat happy,shit happy..will you get the picture,i just kinda wish i could skip...
Christopher Paddon
09-17-2005, 12:35 AM
Harder still, how do you make yourself happy in spite of the circumstances? Most of us can relate to this: if the thought of being paralysed and impotent for life depresses you, how can you make yourself happy?
lynnifer
09-17-2005, 01:20 AM
Because there's always someone worse off ...
Why don't we decide to be happy or is it can't? Can you be content or are some destined to be miserable by their own volition?I’m also a happy and positive person. Still not as happy as before the sci. I miss the impulsive long laughs when the whole body was shaking (you get the picture) – the paralyzes has taken away that from me.
Obieone
09-17-2005, 10:35 AM
I’m also a happy and positive person. Still not as happy as before the sci. I miss the impulsive long laughs when the whole body was shaking (you get the picture) – the paralyzes has taken away that from me.
You know Leif I miss hearing Bill laugh like that too ... I remember the first time I heard his new "laugh" ... it made me sad because he used to put his whole heart and soul into his laughter ! Now I can hardly remember how it sounded :( ... on the other hand we do stll laugh alot in our house and I remember wondering once if we would ever be happy again .... life continues with or without you doesn't it ?
Obieone http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/natur/nature-smiley-016.gif
McDuff
09-17-2005, 10:55 AM
Oh man, I miss my laugh too... <sigh>
I hate doing the "inaudible" laugh when I run out of air. Windup just doing the facial expressions. Probably look kinda weird, but I try to "do" the laugh as often as possible, it still feels good.
I didn't use to think so, but now I know - YES yo can. Well most people can, sometimes peoples chemicals really are screwed up.
.... life continues with or without you doesn't it ?
Obione. Sorry to remember you about the laughter:( But your right:)
A Long time ago in a galaxy far far away I needed a favor from my doctor. (Late 80’s) Long story short he did it for me so I asked what he wanted in return. He told me to go help the director of nursing who was setting up an SCI support group.
She and I have had a pretty good friendship the last 15 years though she recently moved back nearer.
If a woman drives an hour to your house every week for months and cooks you dinner she is not looking for a platonic relationship.
Why am I so stupid? Do i block out everything that i can't immediately extrapolate into an absolute good for me. There are some fantastic 95% joys and 5% tears i miss.
Now I’m beating myself up for screwing a perfectly good platonic relationship rather than enjoying it. Well I am enjoying a lot of it.
As soon as a try and meditate or talk to God the thoughts just lead to rage with no tangible objective besides directing it at myself. Can’t stop it or slow it down to look at it, just inundates me and someday it will come out as tears.
Does anyone here believe that because of the SCI they don’t deserve happiness? Not if it’s a valid thought, do you ever have it? It has been so many years, will i ever forgive myself?
ButtMonkey
09-17-2005, 07:54 PM
I didn't use to think so, but now I know - YES yo can.
REALLY?! HOW?!?!?! I'd like to know your technique... artifical stimulants don't count either! ;) Thats just way too obvious
fuentejps
09-17-2005, 08:07 PM
Im just a naturally happy person myself...I wake up happy,eat happy,shit happy..will you get the picture,i just kinda wish i could skip...
agreed, im a happy positive person, my glass is always half full not half empty
CurlieQCarrie
09-17-2005, 08:19 PM
I'm like Fuente and Shaun. I am just a happy-go-lucky, being-down-serves-no-purpose-in-my-life kind of person. I think that it's been built into me somehow (I've been through some pretty tough sh!t in my 20 years on this planet). I just live life as it comes and make the best of each minute.
I'm like Fuente and Shaun. I am just a happy-go-lucky, being-down-serves-no-purpose-in-my-life kind of person. I think that it's been built into me somehow (I've been through some pretty tough sh!t in my 20 years on this planet). I just live life as it comes and make the best of each minute.
Me2
I think it's inherent in our genetic makeup. My whole family is that way, both sides, and if isn't genetic, then I would say a person's environment has a lot to do with it.
If you're around bummed people, you're more likely to catch the blues.
If you're around happy folks, you're surely more likely to be happier...and ending up suckin' air when you try to laugh hard;). But suckin' air's good.
They do say (whoever they is/are) that smiling and laughing actually makes ya feel better, releasing those good chems, those natural ones that beat shit out of any artificially manufactured ones.
Keep smilin' people :):):):applaud: