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MADPRODUCER
06-22-2012, 05:57 AM
Did this have to happen to us??
SCIfor55yrs.
06-22-2012, 09:47 AM
Why not? Shit happens in a less than perfect world. There is no way to earn an exemption.
LindaT
06-22-2012, 09:49 AM
I ask myself that most every day.
The best I can come up with is that life is a giant crapshoot.
baldfatdad
06-22-2012, 09:57 AM
Cause you're not a Kennedy or a Coors. Look at the history or those two families.
DaleB
06-22-2012, 10:30 AM
This happened to me because I chose to go for a Sunday morning bike ride instead of to the beach, with my family, on March 12th, 2006. Then I chose to stop and turn left in front of an 18y/o kid choosing to look at his cell phone, instead of my brake lights. When he hit me, and the bike shot out from between my legs, the small luggage trunk I had just chose to install on the rear pillion caught me in the back, bending me backward and dislocating my T12, before launching me like a catapult into oncoming traffic.
A series of poor choices, converged on me, that day.
MarkB701
06-22-2012, 10:43 AM
Did this have to happen to us??
Consider that this has been happening not just to us, but to millions of people throughout history.
Those people died a miserable death.
Also consider that of all the countires to live in an have an SCI - this is the best one.
In the ranking of people through history who got an SCI; you are right at the very very top of the pile.
AND if the doctors play their cards right, you are young enough to maybe even escape this one day. No guarantee, but hey.....stick it out there. I know its not easy, but its not impossible.
Peace
christopher
06-22-2012, 11:24 AM
Cause you're not a Kennedy or a Coors. Look at the history or those two families.
I'm a Kennedy, just not a rich one.
NoDecafPlz
06-22-2012, 11:43 AM
Hear, hear!
Consider that this has been happening not just to us, but to millions of people throughout history.
Those people died a miserable death.
Also consider that of all the countires to live in an have an SCI - this is the best one.
In the ranking of people through history who got an SCI; you are right at the very very top of the pile.
AND if the doctors play their cards right, you are young enough to maybe even escape this one day. No guarantee, but hey.....stick it out there. I know its not easy, but its not impossible.
Peace
doingtimeonmyass
06-22-2012, 11:55 AM
In some cases lack of good judgment.
willingtocope
06-22-2012, 01:17 PM
My god tells me all things happen for a reason. (S)he doesn't always make it clear what that reason is...but somewhere, some time, something good will happen because of the bad that happened to us. When it does, hopefully you'll be around to say " oh!...yeah, that".
MSWIFE1
06-22-2012, 05:41 PM
Don't have the answer for you but will tell you we are all here for you!
t8burst
06-22-2012, 05:55 PM
Life means suffering.
http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/fourtruths.html
lynnifer
06-22-2012, 05:58 PM
I like Mark's answer ... but I believe T8's answer. It's hellish some days. We've all been there.
Life means "Sometimes you eat the bear, and, well, sometimes the bear, he eats you."
http://dudeism.com/takeiteasymanifesto/
Also consider that of all the countires to live in an have an SCI - this is the best one.
Probably not even on the top ten best list.
Timaru
06-23-2012, 06:28 PM
Probably not even on the top ten best list.
Top three if you're rich Leif - God help you tho' if you're uninsured.
Curt Leatherbee
06-23-2012, 06:49 PM
Life ain't easy. Everyone should read the book "When bad things happen to good people" the man who wrote the book was from the town next door to where I grew up. Somebody gave me the book shortly after my injury.
Jesus just doesn't love some people.
@ this point in life I just keep trucking along because there is no use in me tearing myself to shreds pondering that question .
MarkB701
06-23-2012, 10:42 PM
Probably not even on the top ten best list.
I'd agree with you Leif but then that would make us both wrong. :( ;)
just trust me on this one....
smashms
06-23-2012, 11:19 PM
i believe everything happens for a reason!! even though i hate being paralyzed and wouldn't wish it upon my worst enemy. It's what it is and no one can change it now. we all had a day of bad choices and for that we have paid for it. it could be worse we could all be 6 feet under!!
I'd agree with you Leif but then that would make us both wrong. :( ;)
just trust me on this one....
Try make yourself a list and argue it with honest pros and cons - you then might end up disagreeing with yourself :)
BillyG
06-24-2012, 09:36 AM
This is why it happened to me..I made a right hand turn and my phone slid off the passenger seat and on to the floor so I unbuckle my seat belt and reach down to get the phone I looked up and a van had stopped in front of me boom I kissed the windshield. Now I lay over the center console looking at my right arm that I thought was cut off because it layed there lifeless. They cut the car open because I could not unlock the doors. All this mess and I was only going 15-20 mph. No damage to the van whatsoever.
Very bad choice - that is why this happened to me.
chick
06-24-2012, 04:45 PM
Did this have to happen to us??It didn't have to happen. It just did.
You were doing abc while the world was at xyz, and the twain just met.
Beyond that, trying to find rhyme or reason, or mystical meaning and significance, will just drive you crazy. If it comes, let it come, and maybe you'll find what you need.
So there ya have it, chick's theory of the universe.
There's also the philosophy of when you fuck up, accept it, move on. :p :hug:
Why? Because I'm Gods comic strip....
lynnifer
06-24-2012, 05:54 PM
My facebook status taken from @MandySlamberg and retweeted by @IamEnidColeslaw:
i take pills because i am crazy, i am crazy because i lost the genetic lottery, i lost the lottery because i am a reincarnated hell-baby
I love that! I'm a reincarnated hell-baby! That's why! Though on a more serious tone, that denotes 'punishment worthy of x' when really all this shit is just random.
Scorpion
06-24-2012, 06:03 PM
I love that! I'm a reincarnated hell-baby! That's why! Though on a more serious tone, that denotes 'punishment worthy of x' when really all this shit is just random.
I once said to my Dad, "I must've been a right bastard in a previous life." :p He didn't think that was funny.
Stormycoon
06-24-2012, 08:38 PM
Consider that this has been happening not just to us, but to millions of people throughout history.
Those people died a miserable death.
Also consider that of all the countires to live in an have an SCI - this is the best one.
In the ranking of people through history who got an SCI; you are right at the very very top of the pile.
AND if the doctors play their cards right, you are young enough to maybe even escape this one day. No guarantee, but hey.....stick it out there. I know its not easy, but its not impossible.
Peace
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Sue Pendleton
06-24-2012, 09:05 PM
Because I have always been a one in 10 million type of girl. Or I was just born with a tiny artery due to shrink just a teeny, tiny bit more one Monday morning. Had it been a normal Monday I'd be the 4th headstone in the family plot. It was Memorial Day so I was around other people when I had my spinal stroke.
Mad, ever ask "why not me?"
Scorpion
06-24-2012, 10:07 PM
"Why?" is a question that can drive you insane if you ask it too much in regards to stuff like this.
Sometimes, shit just happens.
I ask myself that most every day.
The best I can come up with is that life is a giant crapshoot.
yup, it is. I also feel, why not? I met many before my impact, who were more injured than I, and injured in all kinds of silly ways. I started out with some birth defects. An experimental surgery or actually 4-5 surgeries, was successful, and that allowed an almost AB life until my accident. Some things are really hard to deal with, and some things do really suck, but maybe that will change. Im working on that.
in the meantime, yeah, why not me? Im still going to try to be me as much as I can. Im pretty cool even broke and broken.
NoDecafPlz
06-25-2012, 07:59 AM
I once said to my Dad, "I must've been a right bastard in a previous life." :p He didn't think that was funny.
Scorp, that's is f'in hilarious!
MarkB701
06-25-2012, 08:58 AM
Try make yourself a list and argue it with honest pros and cons - you then might end up disagreeing with yourself :)
Ok - I"ve just made those lists, and guess what, you lost! I just proved that I could not live near the excellent life I have here anywhere else in the world. And it wasn't even close in the end.
:)
dan_nc
06-25-2012, 09:10 AM
Did this have to happen to us??
It didn't "have" to happen, but it "did" happen. Why ask why?
Obieone
06-25-2012, 10:09 AM
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in the meantime, yeah, why not me? Im still going to try to be me as much as I can. Im pretty cool even broke and broken.
You most certainly are mon chere jody - the truth is we're all a little broken inside and out !
Obie
Rbrauer
06-25-2012, 10:22 AM
Saturday I took a Vietnamese family sailing. Their eldest son, Thein, suffers from MD. Why did it happen to him?
Yesterday I took a young girl,Emily aged 19, and her mother sailing. Emily suffers from FA, Friedreich's Ataxia. She found out when she was 15 and will now will suffer from a progressively worsening disease.
Stuff happens... it's what we do with it that matters.
LindaT
06-25-2012, 10:28 AM
I'll admit to asking "why" less often now, but why did it have to be SO bad instead.
Seeing my sweet husband struggle to breathe and choke brings it on.
Wasted time I know and try not to dwell on it.
Good for you Rbrauer for taking people sailing and making a difference in their lives.
A friend I had died of FA, and I had dog with it. The dog got an experimental shunt, and lived decent life. Both were important to the study of the condition, as I was to the surgeries I got in the 60's.
I guess if I had not lived with the things I live with I would not have lived at all.
sure, why the hell not? I still think there is hope to recover. we are near, and I think I will be one to get cured. Why the hell not? May as well wait around and see what happens, can't dance, but I couldn't before anyway.
I'll admit to asking "why" less often now, but why did it have to be SO bad instead.
Seeing my sweet husband struggle to breathe and choke brings it on.
Wasted time I know and try not to dwell on it.
Good for you Rbrauer for taking people sailing and making a difference in their lives.
I think seeing my kids suffer, or any of my loved ones is much harder than living in it. I was helpless when it was them suffering. I try not to suffer too obviously because I am aware of how much it hurts the other person.