Teenagers

[marco25]

I was wondering if parents of teenagers around here might be interested in starting a continuing private discussion.

ARGH!!! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/confused.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif

Since most of our children pop in on this forum now and then, I would prefer that our privacy and freedom of expression http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/tongue.gif not be hampered. If you're interested, please let me know and we can have our own little private pity party!

Remember: misery loves company. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif

[Obieone]

Count me in Marco!!! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

Obie

[kate]

Oh, yeah.

[betheny]

Yes, please.

C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000

[LauraD]

I'm in too!! Mine are 14 and 11(12 soon but going on 18 http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/tongue.gif)

[marco25]

Yay! We have a little group! Anyone else who's interested in joining us, please post here, and I'll take care of the rest.

I've started a PT inviting the 4 of you.

[duramater]

ME TOO,PLEASE

MARY

If I can see it, then I can do it. If I believe it, there's nothing to it.

[marco25]

Ok, help! Mary, I can't figure out how to invite you to a group that's already been started. I'm sure there's a way. Would someone help me, please?

[Wise Young]

martha2, this is something that I have written to Infopop about but their idea of a private topic is that people cannot be added invited to the topic later. It is ridiculous. On the other hand, if there is demand, we can create a forum where only certain approved members can go to. Wise.

[marco25]

Wise, that's a great suggestion. What do we need to do to set it up?

BTW, I was wondering if we could also set up one for "divorce, kids and sci."

[This message was edited by martha2 on 04-05-04 at 09:52 AM.]

[duramater]

NO MATTER ....SIGH

If I can see it, then I can do it. If I believe it, there's nothing to it.

[woman from Europe]

This site is my little secret place.

But I would like to discuss it in a private place. Can we discuss bad guys, too http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif?

[marco25]

Mary and WFE, we're going to work this out and get you in. I can't believe this situation! Like Wise said, ridiculous.

At this point we're introducing our teens, so we can get to know them. If you like to write yours now, email it to me and I'll post it in there giving your name: marco625@bellsouth.net. Again, I had no idea this was the way PTs were set up.

WFE, you're a hoot! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/tongue.gif

[marco25]

I have an idea for now, especially if the forum Wise mentioned doesn't work out. I'll wait a few more days for any other interested parents. Then we can start a new PT, and I'll invite all the new people too. I can copy and paste our posts from the old into the new ...?

That's all I can think of at this point. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif

[woman from Europe]

Originally posted by martha2:

I have an idea for now, especially if the forum Wise mentioned doesn't work out. I'll wait a few more days for any other interested parents. Then we can start a new PT, and I'll invite all the new people too. I can copy and paste our posts from the old into the new ...?

That's all I can think of at this point. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif

I do not understand anything about that private topic thing, I only know how to read and write in the forums.

[marco25]

WFE, if you look at the blue tool bar just about the topic, you see a tab called "My Space." Click on that and you'll see "Private Topics." Click on that and you'll see your PTs, if you have any. Once we start the new PT for Teenagers, it will show up in your space. Click on it and you'll be able to read what's been posted and post anything you'd like to contribute.

However, I must warn you: It's starting to get a little violent in there! A bunch of hormonal women talking about their teenagers ... yikes! You need to get in there with us! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[Steven Edwards]

Can I join? http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

-Steven
"Sometimes, its enough to plant the seed, walk away, and let the flower grow on its own."

[woman from Europe]

Originally posted by martha2:

WFE, if you look at the blue tool bar just about the topic, you see a tab called "My Space." Click on that and you'll see "Private Topics." Click on that and you'll see your PTs, if you have any. Once we start the new PT for Teenagers, it will show up in your space. Click on it and you'll be able to read what's been posted and post anything you'd like to contribute.

However, I must warn you: It's starting to get a little violent in there! A bunch of hormonal women talking about their teenagers ... yikes! You need to get in there with us! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

Thank you, I found it. You have to let me in soon so I can yell a little http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[betheny]

Steven-

You are too near the age of "The Other". Your gender also renders you vulnerable. I, alas, cannot vouch for your safety in that room.

Otherwise, I'd invite you and offer you spinach dip.http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000

[PB72181]

But don't you think the "others" or those close to the age of the "others" deserve at least a representative? A lobbyist? Something? I nominate Steven. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/tongue.gif

I'm not deaf...I'm just ignoring you! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif

[Raven]

Gee, I am not a teen, nor the parent of a teen but am wondering if I could join in once in a while. My son's wife is just out of her teens and he is 24.

As to Steven joining in... He might bring a new view to what teens feel like growing up during these times. IMO

Martha, how about a PT also where our kids could also vent about their frustrations or what might be troubling them having to deal with life and a dis parent. I am sure they could also use it and speak more freely too. I know they love us but life must be hard for them to cope with all the pressures of the times plus coping with the pain of seeing their parent(s) going through sci.

This is just a suggestion. I would love to have my son and some others here find some type of support from each other and also being able to speak freely about their feelings in private w/o feeling inhibited about who reads thier posts.

Raven

[marco25]

Raven, you are certainly welcome, especially since you've SURVIVED the teens! You'll be an inspiration to the rest of us. Your idea for the kids to have a PT sounds good to me. We haven't had a lot of "kid" traffic lately, but it might encourage them to be more expessive if they know we're not going to see it. I'd like to let Betheny or Emi delegate that one. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

Steven, I agree with Raven. Think about it. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

"The Other"! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif ROFL! http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

[betheny]

Okay, Steven can join, sigh. I can warn y'all right now though...1)He will tell us we sound like momshttp://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif and 2)he cringes when people say y'all. So Steven, are you on board?

C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000

[Raven]

Originally posted by Betheny:

he cringes when people say y'all.
C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000

LOL. Steven must have done that when I post. I use the term somehow at times being that I am a Texan too. Please bear with me Steven and I will do my best not to use it much. Maybe I will use some of my spanish in place of it. What do think, joven Estevan? http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

Thanks for letting me join, Martha. As to surviving, we just love our kids so much (being a mom here) that we hang on for dear life for the sake of our kids. I have at times wondered why we didn't get a little book of instructions when they were born telling us how to raise them at different stages of their lives. Anyway, this is what I have told my kids, "Sorry if I made any mistakes or hurt you in the process of raising you, I never got a book of instructions, I just did the best I could while loving you too".

Raven

[marco25]

FYI: I'll be starting the new PT tomorrow morning, unless of course the Easter Bunny oversleeps. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif If you'd like to be included, please let me know now. Thanks.

[woman from Europe]

Originally posted by martha2:

FYI: I'll be starting the new PT tomorrow morning, unless of course the Easter Bunny oversleeps. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif If you'd like to be included, please let me know now. Thanks.

I want to be http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[Obieone]

http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif

Yes please!! Happy Easter everyone!!

[Steven Edwards]

Originally posted by Betheny:

Okay, Steven can join, sigh. I can warn y'all right now though...1)He will tell us we sound like momshttp://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif and 2)he cringes when people say y'all. So Steven, are you on board?

C5/6 incomplete, injured Aug. 2000 Tal vez, maybe not... I fear that the moms wouldn't be as open if I am included, so I'll stay out.

Besides, the y'*ll's would kill me. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif

-Steven
"Sometimes, its enough to plant the seed, walk away, and let the flower grow on its own."

[marco25]

Steven, thanks for your sensitivity. You'd be welcome, but probably bored and weary after the first post or two.

Raven, Mary, Obie and WFE, you're already on my list. Kate, I was thinking about adding Bruce. What do you think? A father's input would be nice, plus I know from personal experience that he'll call a spade a spade when necessary. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

Wise, can we invite you too? You're a teen survivor, a dad, and, uh, I don't know ... you might have something worthwhile to contribute. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif

[Christina H.]

I would like to be invited to a PT also. My step kids are 21 and 22, I have known them since they were 6 and 7. My boys with my husband are 4, 6 and 8. I am new to this site, but it is very informative.
Thanks,
Christina

[gofigure4513]

would you please put me on the PT list.....http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[beelady]

What a wonderful idea. I dont have that teenager anymore, but since he started reading posts, it seems like I have quit writing them. There are days that I wish I had someone here to talk to and ask questions, but I know he might come on and read it and then phone me worrying and wondering why I had to write that. Count me in, if I qualify. He is 24.

[marco25]

Gofigure and beelady, I'll be inviting you to the PT in a couple of days. After that, I'm closing the group. Thanks so much for your interest.

[annabell123]

i would like to be in the pt group if it is not to late?

Thank you

[marco25]

My apologies to beelady, gofigure and annabell. I've been away for several days, so I haven't even LOOKED at the Teenagers forum, much less set up the new one. I'll try to do it later tonight. Thanks for your patience. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[marco25]

Ok ... the new PT is ready. It's more appropriately called "Parenting Teens." Thanks everyone. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[marco25]

Some of the moms who've signed up haven't posted yet. I don't know if we've already scared you off or if you didn't know how to access your Private Topics. Click on the blue tab called "My Space" and then on Private Topics. You'll see "Parenting Teens" with me as the host. Hope to hear from you soon.

[marco25]

I've discovered that Private Topics don't always work as expected. I wanted to make sure that you other moms who haven't posted with us have access to our group. Please post here or email me to confirm whether you can or can't. Thanks. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif

[Diamond Downs]

Hey Martha, do I qualify if she's not actually a teenager yet, just acts like one? HELP!!!! I am all alone with this all summer!

[marco25]

Sure, DD, let me work out some things and then we'll get you added. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif