Women Only Forum

[Mona~on~wheels]

I can't get in. I posted once, but I can't now.

[Steven Edwards]

Can you see the forum?

[Mona~on~wheels]

Can you see the forum?


No but I got a notification someone replied to it after me.

[Steven Edwards]

No but I got a notification someone replied to it after me. Justasec.

[Steven Edwards]

No but I got a notification someone replied to it after me. I think Wise is changing something right now. We'll wait and see what happens.

[Mona~on~wheels]

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Great. I am glad that you guys found this. If others whom you think should be on want to be on, can you post here and so indicate and we can include them in the female user group. At the present, I included all members who have designated themselves to be female and who have made at least 4 posts on CareCure.

wise.
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I promise I'm female.

[fishin'guy]

Did you have a sex change operation, didn't tell us and ur now trying to sneak in?:nono:

[sjean423]

I had it before, but don;t now either. Just realized that when I registered I didn;t disclose gender. I have changed it, but that didn;t make a diff.

So can I apply for access to the women only forum? Should I email Wise?

[Steven Edwards]

I'll post again here when everything's back to normal for the private women forum.

[Wise Young]

I had it before, but don;t now either. Just realized that when I registered I didn;t disclose gender. I have changed it, but that didn;t make a diff.

So can I apply for access to the women only forum? Should I email Wise?

sjean,

To assign the initial membership, I did a search for members who had indicated that they are female and manually assigned 268 of these members who had posted at least 4 times on the forums. So, women who did not declare themselves to be female or who had posted less than 4 times didn't get put into the usergroup.

I just assigned you to the Female usergroup. You should be able to participate in it now. As soon as our moderators get use to the tools, people can apply for permission to join the group. You do that by choosing the <User CP> in your menu. One it shows your control profile and control panel, click on the link for <Group Memberships>. This will show three group memberships: Caregiver, Female, Quest. The Group Leaders assigned to each of these groups can approve the applications.

Wise.

[Wise Young]

I can't get in. I posted once, but I can't now.

You should be able to get in now. I don't know what happened. Wise.

[lynnifer]

I don't know why we didn't do this years ago - such a good idea!

Before you know it, the men'll want their own too. Blah! :D

[Mona~on~wheels]

You should be able to get in now. I don't know what happened. Wise.


Thanks I got in this morning with no problems. :) Mona

[rdf]

I don't know why we didn't do this years ago - such a good idea!

Before you know it, the men'll want their own too. Blah! :DYeah, where's the ERA when ya need it? ;)

I demand equality for men, posthaste!!!


j/k

[rdf]

I'm waiting with bated breath for the Naughty Women Only forum to appear soon...I volunteer as Moderator :mega:

[Buffie]

so will men be able to read and not post, or no restrictions on that.

[rdf]

so will men be able to read and not post, or no restrictions on that.
No Buffie, I can't even seen the forum. This thread is just a general thread, that's why I can post in it. But in the actual women's only forum, guys can't even see the forum link.

It's probably best that way ;)

[Lorrie]

I'd like to join, please? Also a link or direction where the private section is?
Thank you :)

[Imight]

we put our sexual business out there to dry and they get a private forum to do it. fantastic.

meh, oh well, don't really care tbh im just saying lol.

[keps]

Sure you don't care.

[Steven Edwards]

You're in, Lorrie.

[Imight]

Sure you don't care.

leave me alone wah. :p

[keps]

leave me alone wah. :p

Maybe. :D If you're good. :p

[carbar]

Can I join the club please?
You see "I'm a lady"

[keps]

Can I join the club please?
You see "I'm a lady"

Do you do ladies things, like visiting les ballets, and wearing ladies clothes? :D

[Lorrie]

You're in, Lorrie.

TY! Now to find the secret hidden door :p

Imight, maybe you and the men can start your own private boys club ;)

[carbar]

Yes, you see I'm a lady. I do lots of lady things, like lady reading, lady laughing and lady relaxing. And I eat like a lady. That's because I am a lady (gentling brushing the lady hair from my lady face).

[Steven Edwards]

Yes, you see I'm a lady. I do lots of lady things, like lady reading, lady laughing and lady relaxing. And I eat like a lady. That's because I am a lady (gentling brushing the lady hair from my lady face). You're in, Barbara. The bribe helped. ;)

[Timaru]

You're in, Barbara. The bribe helped. ;)

You wouldn't say that if you knew the "lady" she was mimicking!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/comedy/images/396x222/emily_florence.jpg

[Van Quad]

You teach us so much! How are we to become caring, sensitive men if we can't read the intimate details of your sex lives??? :D

[SCI-Nurse]

If you had just limited yourselves to reading and not making adolescent and rude comments, we would not need this forum, but we do.

(KLD)

[Danine]

If you had just limited yourselves to reading and not making adolescent and rude comments, we would not need this forum, but we do.

(KLD)

...so true...:rofl:

[keps]

Yes, you see I'm a lady. I do lots of lady things, like lady reading, lady laughing and lady relaxing. And I eat like a lady. That's because I am a lady (gentling brushing the lady hair from my lady face).

Roflmao!
...hopefully you don't have any ladies' testi-clay. :D

You wouldn't say that if you knew the "lady" she was mimicking!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/comedy/images/396x222/emily_florence.jpg

What darlings, eh? Fresh from les ballets, by the looks. :p

[duge]

Well I'm a Lesbian...... can I join?

[Van Quad]

If you had just limited yourselves to reading and not making adolescent and rude comments, we would not need this forum, but we do.

(KLD)

I was joking. I'm happy the ladies have a forum in which to connect as peers.

[Mona~on~wheels]

Van Quad

Ladies!
You teach us so much! How are we to become caring, sensitive men if we can't read the intimate details of your sex lives??? :D


I was joking. I'm happy the ladies have a forum in which to connect as peers.

Good I was fixing to say, get a wife that's not our job.

[woman from Europe]

Are we allowed to joke with the men in the sex and relationship too?

[betheny]

Are we allowed to joke with the men in the sex and relationship too?

Yep, that forum is still co-ed. If the guys have to have their own forum, I'm sure Wise will arrange one. Maybe they need one to discuss prostates, honestly. Although if a guy posted "My prostate is the size of a tennis ball-Help!", none of us women would mock him for it.

Many a man has posted concern about post-sci shrinkage and women haven't poked fun.

But if a woman is concerned about the muscle tone of her vagina post-SCI, the men felt free to jump in and have a pissing contest about their woman's kegel-ing ability.

[woman from Europe]

That is exactly what I mean. We don't do it, but maybe we should start :D
I am sure they would have taken it serious and not like a joke and been offended.

[Bookjunky]

Yep, that forum is still co-ed. If the guys have to have their own forum, I'm sure Wise will arrange one. Maybe they need one to discuss prostates, honestly. Although if a guy posted "My prostate is the size of a tennis ball-Help!", none of us women would mock him for it.

Many a man has posted concern about post-sci shrinkage and women haven't poked fun.

But if a woman is concerned about the muscle tone of her vagina post-SCI, the men felt free to jump in and have a pissing contest about their woman's kegel-ing ability.

I read that and got the biggest laugh. In my early days of learning about catheters and such my education came from "Quad day" at the local VA urology clinic. It was called quad day so they could have extra staff on hand for all the extra lifting involved. Now 28 years ago we were in an old antiquated building with very old equipment in the way of tables and stuff.

So we sat lined up in the hallway waiting on our turn to go into the room - me and all the guys. Of course it wasn't just quads there were plenty of all sorts of guys there with us.

And while sitting there I learned all about prostrates and external catheters long before I learned how to finally manage to change my own catheter. Mention prostrate or external catheter I can still picture that dingy old hallway and me out there with all those guys. At least the exam room has a fully functioning door. Never realized how grateful I am for the new building and all the vastly improved equipment we have now.

[wheelchairTITAN]

I write in response to the establishment of a special member cataegory forum.

With regard to the establishment of a women's only forum, I respond because I believe that the point of exclusion is really being missed here.

In writing this commentary on the already established women’s only forum, many here will take this as personal or just another misplaced male, when my concern in writing this dialogue is to attempt to create a collegial discussion and re-thinking of a separatist forum being developed and condoned for what ever reason.

How many more separatist forums should we set up here and then for what areas or persons? A rhetorical question that does not have an answer as of the writing of this position.

If the CC forum wants to restrict access to a forum it should be to members only and not by gender.

The position being established here i creating a special forum for only some members in a publicly run forum is to encourage and support the expository rhetoric of feminist writing and thought (although in disguise as a just a place for women to write about their needs) and reinforces the concept that the male gender is a negative contributor to women being oppressed.

Why does this forum have to be exclusionary? It is in my opinion, simply more feminist logic and philosophy taken to the extreme.

If you want to eliminate the "SPAM" then make it a member’s only forum and make people responsible.

If there are women or men who are unable to accept responsibility for their writing or thoughts, then deal with them and rather than suggest that all men are the problem and that all men should therefore be excluded and deemed not worthy of reading the thoughts and opinions of women on some or all topics if taken to the extreme. I find any attempt to control and censor who can read and write to be oppressive and derogatory.

Based on the establishment I feel that I have been labeled as a blight or a possibly a blighter and someone who can’t read and comprehend the secret diary and words of the selected women on a public forum.

I acknowledge that this is not the likely intention of this forum but I am just very tired of the male bashing that exists and is condoned in society and attempts for equality are rebuffed on historical models and now it creeps into the CC forums.

The truth is that if I were to undertake “female bashing” as a reason for a separate male forum then I would be accused, and rightfully so of bigotry and bias. Yet under the guise of spam or the inability of some members of the forum to reply in a civil manner myself and all males are being excluded.

Feminist writings and historical evidence have always been based on the hidden philosophy of equality denied and yet here we are going to deny equal opportunity to males through the establishment of a separate forum based on female gender.

Do I believe that I am not capable of reading the messages in the forum and being educated or enlightened? It would appear others believe I am incapable of reading these ideas.

I live with this in academia everyday and exclusion is not the way to go no matter how "gynecology challenging" the issues are or the topics are. Separation of forums and thoughts are really censorship of my ability to read or to write responses. Not that I would be inclined to comment but I feel I must speak up for the right to be able to be a full member in the CC forum not a restricted member on a public forum. Nor is it the way to deal with childish males who can't complete a rational thought.

Deal with the individuals not through censorship or denial but through objective confrontation.

There must be a better way and so I must register an objection to this ill thought out process.

I urge all to reconsider this special category of people and thought being established here not because I object to their right to connect but based on the rights of my exclusion being that of my gender and guilt by association.

I am against all forums of censorship … the inability to read or to comment!

[jody]

wheelchairtitan, sometimes women need woman comfort. and its easier to have a separate forum for delicate issues than to exclude those not emotionally mature enough to be sensitive to sensitive issues.

some things which are everyday issues to women with sci, are never brought up because little boys are listening.

[wheelchairTITAN]

wheelchairtitan, sometimes women need woman comfort. and its easier to have a separate forum for delicate issues than to exclude those not emotionally mature enough to be sensitive to sensitive issues.

some things which are everyday issues to women with sci, are never brought up because little boys are listening.
I recognize what you are saying and understand the importance of the issue.

It is dismissive to refer to males as "little boys"!

You have lost the scope of my writings and yet you prove some of my thoughts as true.

[sjean423]

Ah, but she wasn;t referring to ALL males here .... take a look at what had happened to some legitimate threads, about a woman's problem, and see why some people aren;t willing to ask sensitive questions on an open board.

[wheelchairTITAN]

Ah, but she wasn;t referring to ALL males here .... take a look at what had happened to some legitimate threads, about a woman's problem, and see why some people aren;t willing to ask sensitive questions on an open board.So why deal with this as if it were a grade 5 problem? Your answer is to say all males are equally inappropriate and can't be involved.

The women who have Wise's ear use the approach that if one child is bad your answer is to say they are all to be punished.

I do not accept the fact that there should be exclusionary forums

How grade school is your response and the handling of this issue... deal with the individuals who are offensive.

I am writing to this issue because it is an important point of open discourse and exclusion is not the answer.

William

[carbar]

The purpose of the Women Only forum was not to sideline all females into one section and separate them from participation in all the other forums, but to give them a place to go to discuss private issues in detail without them being hijacked by random interference. If many of your gender are to blame for this, then you should take it up with them, implore them to behave. See where that gets you. Many long-standing female members have tried that approach but it goes nowhere.
I see this new forum as the positive side of 'exclusionism', and I would not consider it a personal affront if a Men only forum were to follow.

[orangejello]

Why does this forum have to be exclusionary? It is in my opinion, simply more feminist logic and philosophy taken to the extreme.

If you want to eliminate the "SPAM" then make it a member’s only forum and make people responsible.



Do you really feel excluded by the fact that some (many) women here wish to discuss delicate care and sexual matters without being bombarded by the juvenile, lewd, and crude comments constantly made in such threads by some male members who think that kind of behaviour is funny? There are hundreds of examples of this happening in both the care and sex forums I can refer you to that proves this is a legitimate problem for many female members. It makes them reluctant to post about certain issues when they may need help and advice.

When I see male members bring up things like errectile dysfunction or cock rings I never see females trying to insert themselves into the thread merely to have a laugh at the expense of the male asking the question. Yet browse past threads in the sex forum and you will see males replying to serious questions from females with comments like "get a can of motor oil."

As for your second comment above, too many seem to take the "member's only" forum as a free for all where anything can be said without consequence because it's "just members." Are you seriously suggesting that a female-focused forum should be relegated to the ghetto of the same mentality? Because that is what I am reading in your comment. If that is the case, I question how much respect and understanding you actually have for women.

A personal question for you: were you this self-rightgeously indignant when the "caregiver's only" forum was established? I am going to assume that you are not a member of that forum (please correct me if I am wrong) and would likewise be excluded from it. Does that bother you as much as the "women's only" forum does? I am guessing that the large majority of members of the private caregivers forum are women as well. Does that offend your male sensibilities as much as a "women's only" forums apparently has?

I personally wasn't convinced that a women's only forum was necessary. I thought a women's forum that was open to all would be sufficient. But seeing attitudes like what you have displayed in this thread makes me realize how wrong I was.

[wheelchairTITAN]

The purpose of the Women Only forum was not to sideline all females into one section and separate them from participation in all the other forums, but to give them a place to go to discuss private issues in detail without them being hijacked by random interference. If many of your gender are to blame for this, then you should take it up with them, implore them to behave. See where that gets you. Many long-standing female members have tried that approach but it goes nowhere.
I see this new forum as the positive side of 'exclusionism', and I would not consider it a personal affront if a Men only forum were to follow.Again you miss the issue ... feel free to take on my writing but you have to read it and not just say because some people can't play nice ... I am responsible for their behaviour. CC should, in my opinion, not be a place for "some only" forums. Again, the issue is the right to unfettered (but moderated) speech should not be met with I should "take it up with them" as you so eloquently put it. I didn't do this and yet to this point the responders here still paint me as the enemy. Why should I be responsible for the behaviour of others as you suggest?

I understand your points and the points of others but question the validity of exclusion of all based on the behaviour of some. The trouble is this decision was made without the right to 9input and be heard and even now you and others feel this is a right given to you. Subversion of information and of speech should be offensive to you and to all and yet the forces of separation are at work.

Don't miss the point of my original posting which requires much more thought and response than ... the statement that I should be responsible for the entire male gender.

You give credence to my issue that this is in fact a way to male bash and have it legitimized.

The question is will you and the others actually listen or read and consider the real issue here or just feel entitled to a an exclusivee forum because of your gender?

William

[addiesue]

Some males act like little boys. It doesn't mean you do or all do. I am sorry that you are getting "punished" for their actions. However it is quite a relief to me to be able to read an honest discussion without the lewd remarks and things that get posted in response. If a woman were to post a thread 2nd orgasm since injuries it gets all kind of replies. Do you want help, post pics, I only want a virgin, go on and on. I noticed a male posted that the other day and only saw 2 or 3 replies and one was from the nurse. It gets old so yes we do need our own place. I seriously doubt you want to read about someones vaginal discharge and how to keep a pad in place when transferring anyway. Or do you?

[Steven Edwards]

Titan,

The Women Only forum was a long time coming. Wise decided that it was the right move to make, as did I, and that is why the Women Only forum exists.

I'll address your other claims after lunch. Just know that feminism didn't beget the forum, male chauvinism did.

Before I leave, I would be interested to know how you feel that forum could help you. Would you mind sharing?

Thanks,

Steven

[rdf]

WT, it isn't about exclusion. It's about the intimacy of the issues unique to women, and the freedom to learn from one another. Many people with sci are shy and don't post, but this will allow those women who are reticent to commiserate with others to the benefit of all concerned. They need such a forum because imo sci is much more difficult for women due to their biological structures (aka their plumbin ;))

I see no problem with this forum, I think it's a good idea.

[sjean423]

Sorry you feel so excluded, but you really aren;t missing much, unless like addiesue said, you want to know how to keep a pad from slipping, or or whether you get diarrhea during your period. (Well, do you have an answer for that?). Excluding you is n;t punishment, we have tried to deal with the kibbitzers in the main forum, it didn;t work, so we went into the other room and shut the door. Just like in real life I guess. Its issues that don;t get discussed in "mixed company". That may not be the way that it SHOULD be, be since it seems to be the only way that works, I am for one glad it does.

But I really think you are just reading too much into this. :)

btw, You say we are taking the gradeschool method of dealing with the problem. Perhaps it is because the gradeschool mentality of A FEW members has triggered this. But in 5th grade, when they showed the girls a different film that the boys? It was about the female body, and menstruation. You didn;t miss much then either.


WT, it isn't about exclusion. It's about the intimacy of the issues unique to women, and the freedom to learn from one another. Many people with sci are shy and don't post, but this will allow those women who are reticent to commiserate with others to the benefit of all concerned. They need such a forum because imo sci is much more difficult for women due to their biological structures (aka their plumbin ;))

I see no problem with this forum, I think it's a good idea.

Thanks rdf ..... You get it exactly!

[cheesecake]

I prefer the privacy of the womans forum. Previously, I used a different screen name, now I don't need to.

Only approximately 25% of all SCI are women. I was injured for 10 years before I met another woman with a spinal cord injury. As isolating as SCI can be, try falling into that small minority. For years I thought many issues were unique to me, now I find that they are common. I am thankful that now I can finally post, ask questions and get answers.

RDF, thanks for getting it. :)

[LaMemChose]

Titan,

The Women Only forum was a long time coming. Wise decided that it was the right move to make, as did I, and that is why the Women Only forum exists.

I'll address your other claims after lunch. Just know that feminism didn't beget the forum, male chauvinism did.

Before I leave, I would be interested to know how you feel that forum could help you. Would you mind sharing?

Thanks,

Steven

Is it possible to clone you? Please?:)

[Danine]

I prefer the privacy of the womans forum. Previously, I used a different screen name, now I don't need to.

Only approximately 25% of all SCI are women. I was injured for 10 years before I met another woman with a spinal cord injury. As isolating as SCI can be, try falling into that small minority. For years I thought many issues were unique to me, now I find that they are common. I am thankful that now I can finally post, ask questions and get answers.

RDF, thanks for getting it. :)


This isolation is all too common for women with SCI. It's true, in the SCI community, we are outnumbered almost 4 to 1. We are a minority within a minority. Research has shown that women have a whole host of disability-related issues to cope with that men do not have. We need our own space to discuss these issues openly and honestly without the intrusion of voyeurs who can't handle mature discussions about delicate issues.

[Liz321]

Is there a seperate forum? or am I on it? I tried clicking on emi's post SCI unique issues andgot a message i wasn't allowed

[Steven Edwards]

It is, Liz. You have access now.

[lynnifer]

Just know that feminism didn't beget the forum, male chauvinism did.

Thanks for saying this Steven ... I'm sorry everyone, but I believe the above to be so true! OJ provides a perfect scenario where many men ask sexual questions and are never ridiculed by the females, but it doesn't work the other way around. I guess it takes a few to ruin it for all.

I'm excited that we have an exclusive forum .. and sorry guys, but females just don't get our share of research pie when it comes to our specific issues.

That forum is thriving! :applaud:

[moniquem]

How do I gain access to the forum? I'm not even able to view topics!

- Monique M.

[SCI-Nurse]

I thought it was supposed to be automatic if you profile includes female gender, but I will alert Steven Edwards and he can let you into the Women's Only forum. You could also PM him (he is our webmaster). You won't be able to see the forum at all, including the list of topics or any responses until admitted.

(KLD)

[Mona~on~wheels]

WT, it isn't about exclusion. It's about the intimacy of the issues unique to women, and the freedom to learn from one another. Many people with sci are shy and don't post, but this will allow those women who are reticent to commiserate with others to the benefit of all concerned. They need such a forum because imo sci is much more difficult for women due to their biological structures (aka their plumbin ;))

I see no problem with this forum, I think it's a good idea.

I'd like to clone you too rdf? Thanks for understanding! :applaud:

[sjean423]

KLD ..... new members need to request admission (to keep people from just joining and listing female, and automatically being added.) I think Wise sais they need to post a few times too.

[mobaby]

hi, i'm not new to the forum but forgot about the forum for years! i think i joined 4 or 5 years ago but don't even remember if i've ever posted. i can't see the forum for women (i'm a woman--visit my myspace :-) ) and am requesting admission. i will poke around the board this afternoon and post a few times as well. is there anywhere for new(ish) people to post intros and such?

[Mona~on~wheels]

hi, i'm not new to the forum but forgot about the forum for years! i think i joined 4 or 5 years ago but don't even remember if i've ever posted. i can't see the forum for women (i'm a woman--visit my myspace :-) ) and am requesting admission. i will poke around the board this afternoon and post a few times as well. is there anywhere for new(ish) people to post intros and such?

Welcome to CC You can introduce yourself in the Life forum. :)

[dmm]

Can I have access to The Women Only forum? Thanks!

[Obieone]

Can I have access to The Women Only forum? Thanks!

Welcome ..... and done!

Obieone

[marielea]

i think i applied correctly for it, but i'm not sure. is it the mobile women forum, or something different b/c thats the only one i see. thenks for the help! i'm a girl...i'm pretty sure!! j/k

[Sue Pendleton]

i think i applied correctly for it, but i'm not sure. is it the mobile women forum, or something different b/c thats the only one i see. thenks for the help! i'm a girl...i'm pretty sure!! j/k

Are you in yet Marielea?

[Obieone]

Check your pm's Marielea ..... u r in :mega: !

Obie

[glittergirl]

Hi

I don't think I have access to whatever you are talking about -- I see a Womens area but it only has about 20 threads.

[sjean423]

A mod should see this and make you a member of the women's group soon. If not, pm obie, wise or steven. :)

[glittergirl]

got it

thanks

[ginamarie]

I can't see this forum either...

[lynnifer]

Try it now, ginamarie.

[ginamarie]

Thanks, but I still don't see it... Maybe I am looking in the wrong place? I am looking at all the CC forums and I don't see it on the list.

[Mona~on~wheels]

Thanks, but I still don't see it... Maybe I am looking in the wrong place? I am looking at all the CC forums and I don't see it on the list.


Look by Members Only.

[ginamarie]

Thanks, I got it. I guess it just took awhile to show up...

[SCI-Nurse]

Bumping this up.

(KLD)

[dash]

Me too, me too. I'm female, 39yrs post C-5 SCI. I think I read at least 4 posts were required and I've done that. dash

[Lola_wheelie]

i'd love to participate, too! i swear i am female... just look at my picture in my profile! :)
please?

[wanttolive]

Yay! I am here!

Well, ladies, I am battling a pressure sore. The nurse has it packed and covered, but I am looking for advice to help myself.

I know -- stay off of it!! Oh, if only ... We are rotating but my breathing issues from the pneumonia make it impossible for me to lie flat. Any ideas?

When I came home from the hospital - paralyzed again - I kinda gave up a while and quit trying. I couldn't breathe and I was frightened and didn't want to be alone (still don't, actually). I gave my family a hard time and they are REALLY burnt out with me.

I need some friendship AND a a good kick in the tail, I guess!

:-) Sharon
WantToLive

[Mona~on~wheels]

Yay! I am here!

Well, ladies, I am battling a pressure sore. The nurse has it packed and covered, but I am looking for advice to help myself.

I know -- stay off of it!! Oh, if only ... We are rotating but my breathing issues from the pneumonia make it impossible for me to lie flat. Any ideas?

When I came home from the hospital - paralyzed again - I kinda gave up a while and quit trying. I couldn't breathe and I was frightened and didn't want to be alone (still don't, actually). I gave my family a hard time and they are REALLY burnt out with me.

I need some friendship AND a a good kick in the tail, I guess!

:-) Sharon
WantToLive


Hi Sharon! Welcome to CC!
Oh boy pressure sores. So sorry you have them.
You're right gotta stay off them.
Great you're getting turned & the nurse is taking care of them.
I can be your friend but you'll have to kick yourself in the tail.
I know it's hard but soon you'll be up.
So glad you want to live! You're on the right path.

(((hugs))) :) Mona post often

[wanttolive]

what is the best antibiotic for bed sores? I was just prescribed Levaquin 750, once a day.

[Wise Young]

Yay! I am here!

Well, ladies, I am battling a pressure sore. The nurse has it packed and covered, but I am looking for advice to help myself.

I know -- stay off of it!! Oh, if only ... We are rotating but my breathing issues from the pneumonia make it impossible for me to lie flat. Any ideas?

When I came home from the hospital - paralyzed again - I kinda gave up a while and quit trying. I couldn't breathe and I was frightened and didn't want to be alone (still don't, actually). I gave my family a hard time and they are REALLY burnt out with me.

I need some friendship AND a a good kick in the tail, I guess!

:-) Sharon
WantToLive

WhatToLive, you are not yet in the Women Only Forum. You need to scroll down to Members Forum (on the front page of the forums) and enter the forum from there. Note that people who are not members will not be able to see the forum. However, you are a member and you should be able to see and get into that forum. Just in case, there is the link.

http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=96

Wise.

[wheelchairTITAN]

http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=96[/URL]

Wise.

Not opposed to the forum and the concept but still remain in opposition to any form of censorship. William

[debi]

Hi,I'm T4/5 since 2002 and a women, what is the women's forum? and can I be part of it.

[jhorn4012]

Hi Sharon! Welcome to CC!
Oh boy pressure sores. So sorry you have them.
You're right gotta stay off them.
Great you're getting turned & the nurse is taking care of them.
I can be your friend but you'll have to kick yourself in the tail.
I know it's hard but soon you'll be up.
So glad you want to live! You're on the right path.

(((hugs))) :) Mona post often


Mona-on-wheels,
I'm sorry to hear your bed ridden. My daughter went through this for 2 months last year. Is it on your IT area? Make sure the person that's taking care of the wound is debriding the wound. Your doctor should have given you a script for some type of ointment called: Ethezyme. It took Samantha's sore in less than two weeks to clear up dead skin around the opening on her IT area and after that I put Duroderm bandage which keeps the area dry and covered, but the bandage breaths and stretches. It's expensive stuff but it did work well and didn't have to worry about new skin coming off when I cleaned and put the Ethezyme stuff on. The duroderm has to be special ordered through your pharmacy. I got Samantha's through her (Medicaid)home health plan to buy me some more to keep on hand if she has any more pressure sores

Do you have an airbed so your more comfortable when lying on your side?

Did you hear about the clinical trials in Austin at Brackenridge Hospital? I'm hoping that I can get Samantha on the list for this.

[partygirl]

Dear Wise
i would like to be given access to the women only forum, I have tried a few times to register but it seems I am doing the wrong thing. Can you help me please?
I would really like to be included in a women only place for all the reasons previously enunciated on this thread.
My former professional life as a women's health nurse and advocate brought me into close contact (unfortunately) with a lot of the opinions voiced by the likes of 'Wheelchairtitan'. He promulgates his attitude under the guise of anti censorship. I have other names for it.
Georgia

[LaMemChose]

Not opposed to the forum and the concept but still remain in opposition to any form of censorship. William

Are you equally distressed by the existence of the Caregivers Only forum and do you view your inability to access it as censorship, too?

[ZiYing]

Hello! I am a 30-year-old C4/C5 quad from China.I knew this forum because of Dr.Young, and have been read something here for about 2 years. From this forum, I knew a lot of knowledge about SCI. Recently, I registered in this forum and found the Women Only Forum. I think the Forum may provide more useful knowledge and experience for me as a women. So I want to join. Because my English is very limited, so I never post something here. Could I join Women Only Forum ? Think you!

[twink]

Hi--

I originally joined this site several years ago when I was first injured under a different user name. Since then I have moved, gotten married, had many life chenges, etc. In that time I have visited the site on and off but I am finding myself coming here more and more recently especially since my husband and I are considering having a baby.

I requested access to the women's only forum a while ago but have not yet been allowed in. I really feel like I could learn a lot from other women in my situation. Is there something else I need to do to get in?

Thanks!

[Wise Young]

Hi--

I originally joined this site several years ago when I was first injured under a different user name. Since then I have moved, gotten married, had many life chenges, etc. In that time I have visited the site on and off but I am finding myself coming here more and more recently especially since my husband and I are considering having a baby.

I requested access to the women's only forum a while ago but have not yet been allowed in. I really feel like I could learn a lot from other women in my situation. Is there something else I need to do to get in?

Thanks!


Twink, as far as I can tell you should be able to get in. Do you know where the forum is? You can look for it under the Members forums.

Wise.

[Wise Young]

Hello! I am a 30-year-old C4/C5 quad from China.I knew this forum because of Dr.Young, and have been read something here for about 2 years. From this forum, I knew a lot of knowledge about SCI. Recently, I registered in this forum and found the Women Only Forum. I think the Forum may provide more useful knowledge and experience for me as a women. So I want to join. Because my English is very limited, so I never post something here. Could I join Women Only Forum ? Think you!

As far as I can tell, you should also be able to get into the Women Only Forum. Please look for it under the Member Forum. Thanks. Wise.

[megan2]

Do I need special permission to access this forum?

[Wise Young]

Do I need special permission to access this forum?

You should be able to get in now. Wise.

[jodi0427]

Could I please have access to this forum?

[Wise Young]

Could I please have access to this forum?

jodi, you should be able to get in now. Wise.

[MSWIFE1]

Could I have access as well?

[Wise Young]

Could I have access as well?

MSWIFE1, you are now in. Wise.

[maureen]

Could I please have access as well ?

[Still Learning]

May I please have access too?

Thanks in advance,
Kathleen

[Coleen]

I have to come to this sticky before I can get in, may I please join? My kids will attest to the fact that I'm indeed female.
Thanks!

[daniellegaubert]

How do i join this forum?

[Patty41]

May I please have access to this forum? Thanks, Patty

[breanne]

i want to wear sexy lingerie,but i can not

[meglovestulips]

Greetings! May I please have access to the all women forum?

[marycsm77]

I would like to join the women's forum too, is that possible? thank you

mary

[Corinne1]

Hello - May I please join this forum?

Thank you! Corinne

[gjnl]

Would it be possible for the NL member of the GJNL combination to join the women's only forum?
Thanks,
NL

[cheesecake]

Would it be possible for the NL member of the GJNL combination to join the women's only forum?
Thanks,
NL

Currently your account is shared by a male and female member. Because of that I would say no. If NL wants to start a separate account and email me via PM, we can talk about options.

[marycsm77]

Still wondering about the women's forum. Is there someone specifically to address to request access?

[Kankan]

Can I get access to the Womens Only forum?

[Le Type Français]

Currently your account is shared by a male and female member. Because of that I would say no. If NL wants to start a separate account and email me via PM, we can talk about options.

What do you do about members who don't show their photos? Take their word for it?

[Jim]

What do you do about members who don't show their photos? Take their word for it?

We have a verification system to make certain all members granted access to the Women's Only Forum are in fact women.

I would like to remind everyone that it is never acceptable for a male to access the Women's Only Forum. Not a male friend, boyfriend or spouse.

[addiesue]

WHat is the system? One was to be put in place last year but I didn't think it ever occured.

[JEAPOW]

Sorry I did not know we had to ask to join, and I posted.

May I join, I am 3 1/2 mo post Burst fracture L1, still recovering and trying to deal with neuropothy.

I will post a picture so you can see who I am ....

I love this site, and reading the posts, I feel badly when I see posts where people get hurt, I think everyone has a opinion, it's kinda like the golden rule once you say something you can't take it back...

Literally I check this site several times a day, maybe I have too much time on my hands....

[chick]

Just needing for clarification -

This is the Mobile Women Forum, a sub-cateory of SCI Community Forums, where anyone (member or non) and of either gender can post...

and then there is a Women's ONLY Forum where only women with general membership, who have requested specific membership to Women's Only, have access to.

Is this correct?

One more thing, where is "Women's Only" Forum link? Is it visible only to members??

[woman from Europe]

Yes, only members can see it.

[orangejello]

Just needing for clarification -

This is the Mobile Women Forum, a sub-cateory of SCI Community Forums, where anyone (member or non) and of either gender can post...

and then there is a Women's ONLY Forum where only women with general membership, who have requested specific membership to Women's Only, have access to.

Is this correct?

One more thing, where is "Women's Only" Forum link? Is it visible only to members??

If you go into your control panel on here where you can set your account options, on the left hand side there is a listing for "group memberships." The women's only forum *should* be listed there and allow you the option to click a link and request access. I say should because I am not entirely sure if everybody's control panel is the same.

Edit to add: Or if you send Obie or cheesecake (the forum moderators) a private message they can give you access that way as well.

[chick]

Ahh, I see. Thanks oj! :D

I wasn't so much interested in joining as I was curious and confused about the whole thing, especially seeing that many women are posting some personal "feminine" issue related type stuff in this OPEN Mobile Women forum.

[orangejello]

Ahh, I see. Thanks oj! :D

I wasn't so much interested in joining as I was curious and confused about the whole thing, especially seeing that many women are posting some personal "feminine" issue related type stuff in this OPEN Mobile Women forum.

Yes I agree with you that there isn't really anything that makes the difference between the open forum and the private one very clear. I suspect that sometimes female members may post in the mobile women forum in error thinking it is the private forum, especially if they are new to care cure.

[Bonnette]

Yes I agree with you that there isn't really anything that makes the difference between the open forum and the private one very clear. I suspect that sometimes female members may post in the mobile women forum in error thinking it is the private forum, especially if they are new to care cure.
I think you're right. I had no clue they were different until a friend let me know.

[chick]

Yes I agree with you that there isn't really anything that makes the difference between the open forum and the private one very clear. I suspect that sometimes female members may post in the mobile women forum in error thinking it is the private forum, especially if they are new to care cure.I too suspected that some women were posting in the wrong forum (this one), thinking it was private. Hopefully that gets cleared up soon.

[orangejello]

I was going to suggest that a sticky note be created that makes the difference between the Mobile Women and Women Only forums more clear, as well as outline how to gain access. I think that this very thread is a sticky that once may have served that purpose but has now grown so long that the original information may be buried if one doesn't scroll back through the 100+ posts.

Maybe a new sticky could be made and locked so no replies are made to it? It may help direct female members to the most appropriate forum if they have a doubt as to where to post. And the information would be more easily accessible.

Just a thought.

[sjean423]

That sounds like a good idea to me as well. I think some of the confusion is that this, Mobile Women forum was added first, as an offshoot from the Mobile Women web site (which, I believe, was originally an offshoot of cc .....).

And then after some discussion as to having a private forum, the Women's Only forum was added as well.

It can get even more confusing, as there are threads that started here, in the public site, and have posts made by men. And then the thread is moved to the private forum, due to the nature of the issues (or the inappropriateness of some of the posting) making it appear that men were able to post in the private thread.

[Cherbears]

Can I get in please? Thank you. Cheryl

[Wise Young]

Can I get in please? Thank you. Cheryl

You should be able to get in now. The Women Only forum is located in the section called Member Forums.

Wise.

[Boisehomes]

I would like in as well!

Thanks,
Trina

[Jim]

Trina,

We don't add new members to the Women's Only Forum. You will have to post for a while before you are granted access. Please fill out your profile and tell us about yourself.

Thanks

[ECUrach85]

Can I join in?

[mica]

Any chance to join?

[crypticgimp]

can i have access to the women's forum pls??

[sierramistyum]

is it possible that I can join the forum please?

[SCI-Nurse]

A completed profile and a little history of posting that shows something about you that assures the moderators that you are indeed a candidate for this forum will help you get approved.

(KLD)

[QnMary]

I would like to join the forum.

Mary

[Melissa And Ruby]

I would like to join please.....

[SCI-Nurse]

Your account must be used only by a woman (not shared with a male).

You should PM to Obione or Cheesecake to apply for membership, but need to have at least 30 posts prior to that, and a complete profile that indicates that you are actually a woman (a photo doesn't hurt).

(KLD)