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Finally have had time to stop and check in. My Dad went in to the hospital for prostrate surgury on 9/10. Was suppose to be in four days, well here it is 9/24, 1 hospital borne infection, a case of double pneumonia and a heart attack later and I have time to take a breath. This was one time when hubby became the caregiver and kept both my Mom and I on track. Just got back from spending the day with them, Mom had errands she needed to do so hubby stayed with Dad at the hospital.
Now If I could just get her to spend a couple of days at home, but after 58 years of marriage she won't leave him. They have brought a cot in for her and are bringing in meals for her so I guess she's in a safe place but.... after 43 years of living with her I've learned not to argue.
Now we just need to get them home.
09-25-2002, 07:53 PM
I hope he is back home soon and your life can return to normal again.
I know my parents are the same way. When my dad was in the hospital for a month, my mom was there every day. She did leave at night but that was only because she has a sister-in-law that lives right across the street from the hospital. They will be celebrating their 52nd anniversary on Oct. 7th this year. I hope that my hubby and I have the commitment they still have when we are married that long. I know it is hard to see Mom stay there day after day though. It is great that you and your hubby can let mom get away and take a break.
10-04-2002, 12:49 PM
How's your Dad? I know life can become a whirlwind in the blink of an eye [hey, we ALL know that around here..] but if you have time, keep us posted.
Take care of you, too...
Finally making progress. We moved him to a inpatient rehab program at
a nursing home a block from their house. So now just a couple of weeks
to get his strengh back and then he can go home.
This will make it a lot easier for Mom, she can walk back and forth as
she wants. Makes it easier for me I only need to run up once a week to take
her grocery shopping.
10-05-2002, 09:08 PM
I'm so glad to hear he is on the mend. It has to be nice to have him closer to home. What a relief to you and your mom. I hope he is able to come home soon. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif
I"VE spend 38 days in icu this spring
Wish your Dad speedy recovery
"Events in our past seem to slip further away with time. But what happens when they circle back and meet us head on....in the present? Before we allow ourselves to be consumed by our regrets, we should remember the mistakes we make in life are not so important as the lessons we draw from them.." Outer Limits(Last supper)
Well finally an update and a tip we learned about.
Finally looks like we will have him home in the next 5 days or so.
The hold up lately has been that a clot formed over his incision so no healing from the bottom. A wound care specialist was called and removed the clot and did a debredment and ordered a appliance called a Wound-Vac. Got to see it and discuss it with them. For a open area (in this case) a incision 6in x 3 in x 2 in deep they clean it up well, put a sterile large pore sponge in the cavity, put a drain in the sponge, cover with something like plastic wrap and then attach a vaccum to the drain. This stay on 22 out of 24 hours, dressings are changed every 12 hours or daily for home care. This has been really effective to promote faster healing. The wound care doc has used it on pressure sores as well - she said she had really good luck when it is used early on but has used it on an ishial sore that was down to the bone. For that patient it was a repeat sore and the first time he was in bed for 12 months. With this on he healed in 8 months.
Anyway for you caregivers you might want to check the product out and hope you never have to request it be used. But I'm a firm beliver in information is power.
10-22-2002, 06:32 PM
I do hope he gets home soon...that light at the end of the tunnel is so welcome, isn't it?
Thanks for keeping us posted, Tag.
That light is great. Hubby has been great through the whole thing. I am sure by now Mom or I would have 'taken out' a doc. Every time one of us would reach the end of the rope he would reign us back and talk to the docs for us. Don't know if it is because he is a he or if docs thing that because of his injury he is more medically savey than us but they are sure more willing to talk to him.
Of course I politely demand that they explain things and they just come and talk to him. Sure hope it's not a guy thing. Hubby did say it was sure nice to be visible.