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04-09-2002, 08:53 PM
I lost Chad last Wed. am at midnight. Septicemia. No symptoms, no cough, fever etc. I am devastated....He had been injured 2 years and done so well.....I have to believe it was God's will....I just keep shaking my head!! I can't stand it. Thanks to all who have answered my questions and comments... I still want to stay here to be close to you all.....God Bless.....Hug each other cuz ya just don't know what's next.....Linda
1 Fine Spine RN
04-09-2002, 08:56 PM
Please accept my condolences. I will keep you in my prayers.
04-09-2002, 09:33 PM
I'm very sorry to learn of the loss of your son, Chad. I just finished reading many of your posts on this site and it's very heartwarming to witness through your writings your great devotion and concern for your son. He was fortunate and blessed to have such a loving mom. My very best wishes to you and your family at this heartbreaking time.
04-09-2002, 09:52 PM
Linda, my heart goes out to you and your family. I can't imagine any pain worse than losing a child. Words can't help, but at least you know you did the best by Chad and that his days of suffering are over. My sincere sympathy,
04-10-2002, 04:10 AM
Mazey, I am so sorry. Words aren't enough to convey feelings at times like this. We can only shake our heads and wonder at the workings of the Universe.
Please know that you're a part of this community, and that we all hold each other in our hearts. Stay connected with us if you like, and know that all of us are grieving with you.
Tough times don't last - tough people do.
I am quite new to this board but I can still feel your pain, Linda. There's nothing I can say to help you, I'm just empathising is all.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."
Life is what happens to us while we're making other plans. - John Lennon
04-10-2002, 05:20 AM
Mazey, I am sorry for your loss and I pray God will give you peace and strength. I had septicemia twice and know how quick it can hit. Bless you Anna
04-10-2002, 05:21 AM
You devotion and commitment to Chad were very evident in your posts. As a mom, you only wanted the best for him.
I shed some tears for both of you along with saying a prayer. May you find comfort in having had him as a son and in the love you shared.
04-10-2002, 05:24 AM
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear son. You are so right that we never know what is around the very next corner. Please accept my deepest sympathy.
M.Elston SCI Mom to 15YO incomplete L2-3
04-10-2002, 06:35 AM
My sincere condolences to you on the sad and untimely demise of your son. You and Chad will always be in my prayers.
"The Lord givesth & The Lord taketh" Maybe God has a special place for him.
Your undying love for Chad, will always keep you bonded to him.
May God Bless You Both.
Love & Prayers,
This is the greatest of losses. I am so very sorry. Life often makes absolutely no sense at all. All we can do is carry on our best through the good and bad. There's a day coming of no more sorrow and no more tears. Until then we endure incredible grief. I hope yours is eased in the weeks and months to come.
~See you at the SCIWire-used-to-be-paralyzed Reunion http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/wavey.gif ~
04-10-2002, 07:41 AM
My heart goes out to you.
Take your time to grieve...
Then start moving on.
04-10-2002, 08:05 AM
Linda, I doubt anyone will ever understand why such horrible things happen to such wonderful people. Your son was so very lucky to have a family to hold him when he needed it most. That you and your ex-husband were such good people to see the task at hand and concentrate on being parents--that is an amazing statement of the loving home your son had growing up and the care and devotion you have given him since his injury. Keep the wonderful love and memories of your son near and may they comfort you and your family in the years to come. Peace.
"When you are sorowful look again into your heart and you will find that you are weeping for that which has been your souls' delight."
04-10-2002, 09:30 AM
I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. Sometimes it seems as if life can offer too much pain...you are so brave and wonderful. May God be with you in your time of such deep sorrow. Karla
I am so sorry to hear this, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
The philosopher Kahlil Gibran:
"For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt into the sun? And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered? Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing. And when you have reached the mountaintop, then you shall begin to climb. And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance."
"Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't."
--Melody Beattie, writer and counselor
04-10-2002, 12:58 PM
I extend my sincere condolences to you. I will keep you in my prayers. May God give you the strength to go on at such a difficult time.
LauraD (Mom of Heather, age 9, T-12)
04-10-2002, 01:38 PM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and our hearts weep with yours.
04-10-2002, 02:03 PM
Words do not express what I feel for you. I wish you and your family the best and hope that there is joy in your future.
Warmest Wishes, Alice
04-10-2002, 02:15 PM
Oh, Linda, I am so very sorry. Hugs. Wise.
04-10-2002, 02:49 PM
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son, Chad. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
04-10-2002, 03:25 PM
I'm very sorry for your loss.
All the best to you and your family during this difficult time.
Onward and Upward!
04-10-2002, 03:59 PM
I am so sorry. Chad was so lucky to have you and I'm sure he knew it.
Life is a lesson you learn when you're through.
04-10-2002, 05:05 PM
wow, I don't know what to say..except I am very sorry for your family's loss...take care, dear lady.
04-11-2002, 12:07 PM
May he soar on eagles wings. I am very sorry for your lose. May God's peace be with you.
04-11-2002, 03:59 PM
May the Lord be close to you and comfort you.The thoughts are hard when we lose someone.Our faith will get us through..We mourn with you..
04-12-2002, 12:43 AM
I am so sorry about the loss of your dear son Chad. I can only imagine how devastating that must be for you. Please accept my sincere sympathy to you and your family. Please know that many people care about you on this board.
Darlene (Mom of T12 daughter, incomplete)
04-12-2002, 01:09 AM
i am so very sorry you lost your son. take care.
04-12-2002, 11:35 AM
sorry to hear such sad news.
04-12-2002, 09:24 PM
I am so sorry to hear of Chad's passing. I am also sorry I wasn't able to get to know him. I emailed him once, and he emailed me back, but I put the email aside to answer when I had 'more time.' He was genuinely interested in learning to be more independent and to ease the burden on you. I am sorry for your loss and I know he was a good man.
I am sorry I waited for 'more time' when Chad had so little left. http://sci.rutgers.edu/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif
It's things like this that make me question my faith. But I trust he's in a better place.
Life's too short to fear the possibility of failure.